"Why can't you manage? " My husband often asks when I grumble about his traveling. And now, when my son and
I are alone once again, I ask myself the same question. "Why can't I manage?
What am I doing wrong?"
The more I thought about it, the
more I came to the conclusion that it was just a state of mind. All that
is required to run a house alone is a little organization, and a lot of
self-reliance. Though life becomes a little more hectic when your husband is out of town, it can still be possible for you to cope with ease.
The main problems you are likely
to face when you are alone are:
An emergency situation
Here are some tips to handle both situations.
Your child falls ill
Rule no. 1: Always be prepared for
an emergency! I remember the time when I had to disturb a friend at 2 a.m.
as my two and a half year old son was throwing up desperately and I did
not have the medicine handy. So now I stock up on all the basic medicines.
Of course if it is something that cannot be cured by a good night's rest
then take your child straight to the doctor.
Be sure that:
You have a ready stock of basic medicines.
You have your doctor's telephone numbers
You know the timings of his clinic and
have an alternative plan of action ready if your doctor is not around.
if you fall sick?
You could probably call a friend
to help you out with your child while you visit a doctor. However, if your
child is old enough to manage his/her own work, you could just order food
from a restaurant until you feel better.
The surprise element
Sometimes you could be really caught
unawares! As one of my friends was telling me, she woke up one fine
morning to find that her telephone had been disconnected - she'd forgotten
to pay the telephone bill! It could happen to you! And heaven forbid that
you've forgotten to pay your electricity bill!
Be sure that:
If you have a cell phone, you keep it
charged and switched on thoughout the night when you are home alone.
You keep a torch next to your bed, with
And finally, remember, whatever happens
-stay calm. All that is needed to handle a crisis is presence of mind!!
THE BOREDOM FACTOR
Although emergencies crop up once
in a while, boredom is more likely to be your main problem. How do you
keep yourself occupied? What do you do in the evenings? How do you keep
your child entertained?
I have a friend whose husband works on a rig. As he is offshore most of the time, she has her own circle of friends who meet once a week, along with children. They organize outings
together on weekends, celebrate
birthdays and even have their own
If you have the reading habit, borrow
books from a library both for yourself and your child. If you don't, now's
the best time to inculcate it. As most people will tell you, a book can
be a very good companion.
Make it a point to take your child
out every evening, just to the nearby park. Once in a while treat him to
some food at the local fast food joint around the corner, or take him to
visit a friend who has children his age. Sitting at home and wallowing
in self-pity will get you nowhere!
So the next time your husband travels
don't feel depressed. Instead, learn to use this as an opportunity to prove
that you are an independent and intelligent individual.
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- The Indiaparenting Team