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    reason of stealing in older children

    My son is given everything he wants and he has never been denied anything. All his demands are met but still I find him stealing something from his friends. What could be the reason for this, I need parental advice.

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    Hi basically stealing is a habit that may be due to following reasons:
    • He may be having some issues with you as a parent so to embarrass you in front of others, he may be stealing
    • He may be satisfying his needs by stealing such as your love, affection or attention.
    • He gets a high by stealing and his action is approved by his peer group.
    Basically all this may lead to stealing habit and peer group is the most influential in this case.

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    There are many reasons of stealing and as mentioned by Manav they are some of the reasons that encourage a child to steal. But this behavior may reflect some internal stress such as depression or a problem at home, at school or with friends.Your son may be in a bad company where he sees his friends stealing and this tempted him to steal. Sometimes kids steal just because they want something.

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    Peer influence such as daring or going along with the group is a strong influence on stealing during adolescence when it often becomes a group activity. Check out if your son has been deprived of attention he used to get earlier or not. He may be envious of another sibling’s attention or the affection shown to a new baby, and openly steal to demand more attention from parents. I have seen such as case as it happended with my nephew.

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    Hi, some children have a habit of stealing in spite of knowing the fact of what is right and what is wrong. They know it is wrong stealing but they still steal. Some children steal on purpose and some children have a habit of stealing. There are few children who steal because something is not right in their lives and they might be disturbed by something making them do such things. You as parents should help them to sort out their issues and help them get rid of the habit. If the habit is not getting controlled, you can consult a doctor or a counsellor for help.

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    There are various reasons for older children to steal in school, functions, shops or wherever they go. Some have a tendency of impressing their friends and in that pressure and fear of being left out they steal things to give it to their friends to buy friendship. There are children who do not get pocket money and cannot spend like other children leading to stealing. Peer pressure can cause the child to do wrong things and children are scared that they might be left alone, so they do what their friends tell them to do even though it might not be right.

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    Children are innocent and sensitive and can be hurt by small things. It is important for us to know whether our children are happy or not. There are children who are unhappy and feel unloved and tend to develop a habit of stealing from their parents itself. If children feel ignored they start stealing so that they can seek your attention to what they do. Older children sometimes feel they are not getting their fair share which they actually should get and due to this reason they might steal. Being angry at someone and to get back at him or her they might steal his or her things.

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    Arushi Sahai's Avatar Member
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    It is our duty as parents to keep an eye on our children and to know if they are on the right track in their life. If you come to know that your child has stolen something then don’t react too quickly, this is one mistake which every parent does. Talk to your child calmly and know the reason why he or she has done so, find the cause and try to fix it. Teach them the value of things so that they understand how things are important to everybody and stealing is not a good thing. You should remember that children learn things from what you say and do.

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    Hello, children can be taught good things with patience and love. They understand everything if you are loving and caring to them. Talk to them understand their problems and try to fix them. Try to make your child a responsible one by giving him some pocket money to manage and also try to teach him how to solve his own problems and handle situation in a good way. You should respect your child and in return he will learn the importance of respecting you and other things after seeing you. I hope this will be helpful for you.

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