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    Stopping lying behaviour

    I understand that preschoolers lie but when school goers lie, this means a matter of concern. They do it knowingly and being aware of the consequences. My daughter just keeps on telling tales that she thinks we will believe. How can I stop her behavior?

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    Arushi Sahai's Avatar Member
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    Yes I agree that older children do have their own mind. Your daughter is old enough to know that what she’s doing is wrong. Her behavior is conscious and willful, and as such it must have an underlying motive. Find out the reasons for her behavior of telling lies. Sometimes in order to gain acceptance or to be a part of a peer group, children tell lies. Finding the reason can help in finding the way to stop the behaviour.

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    You should look for opportunities to spend some more one-on-one time with her. You should make it clear that lying will almost certainly have a negative effect on her relationships with other kids. If her friends begin to believe that she can’t be trusted, they won’t want to spend time with her. Bring this point home to her, and you may be able to make some real progress in the direction of eliminating the unwanted behavior.

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    It may also be helpful to implement firm consequences for lying. Don’t let yourself get pulled into a debate with her about whether or not she told the truth. Just deal with the behavior in a decisive way. You can also take some of her friends into confidence to help her stop this behavior. Hope this works.

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    Hi, lying is a nature of human beings and starting from toddlers, children, teenagers and even adults all of them lie. There is no one in this world who has not lied. I personally feel that if a child is lying then we should not overreact and do things which might scare the child more. It is important that we do not make the children feel that they are defective and immoral instead handle the situation lovingly and smartly, it is not only your child in the whole wide world who is lying. Handling situations with patience should be our main goal.

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    Dealing with children and their tantrums has always been a hard task for the parents. Understanding the reasons why they lie are more important than helping them to give up this habit. The main reasons for lying are that they feel scared and also feel scared of punishments, rejections, they also lie because they feel that it will make things easier, feel threatened and also feel trapped. They feel that they should looked as a better person and they don’t know how good they are and that is the reason they lie. If you can find these signs then try to resolve this problem with care and affection.

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    Lying is often referred to as a symptom of low confidence and low self-esteem. As parent we should know how to handle our kids and instead of asking unnecessary questions we should focus mainly on the reason why this is happening. When you know the problem try to focus on the solutions of the problem. Make your child realise that he is not going be punished badly like what he thinks and make him believe that knowing the truth is your only intention. If he doesn’t speak up you tell him that he can come to you and tell you whatever he feels so and you are always there to help him.

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    It is important for us as parents to respect our child’s privacy and not interfere and keep asking questions which might make him more nervous and conscious. It is okay if he or she does not want to share anything with you, maybe he or she is scared of being punished or scolded, give them their time and let them come to you. Do not force your children to say the truth by terrorising him. This way he will never ever speak the truth and never will be able to be frank with you and share things with you.

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    Parents and other family members can make the child believe that it is absolutely safe to tell the truth in their family by their unconditional love. Encourage them to accept their mistake and make them believe that accepting their mistakes is a right thing and an opportunity to learn things from the mistakes they make. Share your experiences and examples when it was difficult for you to tell the truth but you said it anyways without thinking about the consequences. Appreciate your child for being honest and telling the truth whenever he does, this will definitely boost his self-confidence and self-respect.

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