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Thread: Head Shave of Me and my cousin Sister (Nose piercing)

  1. #1

    Unhappy Head Shave of Me and my cousin Sister (Nose piercing)

    Hi My name is Ramya. i am 24 years old and married last year. My husband is working in abroad ( Malaysia ) I am working in software company in chennai. Since I am from a orthodox south indian brahmin family my mother in law said i was piercing nose on August. she said that we go to native place tirunelveli to do that. i agreed and said ok. and went to our native place on 25th of August (Saturday). there gathered a huge amount of my family members and relatives were present since me any my cousin going to pierce nose. the function is going to start soon. Suddenly mother in law said that remove your dress and be ready i will come. 10 mins past we both did not remove since it is a public place. then came strict mother in law removed all my dress and made me and my cousin to be fully naked without any parts in the body. then she took us to a barber who was waiting and all gathered to see us. the barber was waiting with his tool box contains razors and scissors. first it was my turn since i was youngest in our family. mother in law made me to sit in front of the barber with cross leg and she me not to speak for anything. i had my hair below my knees and which i loved it very much. finally after sitting cross legged she said me you should give ur hair to god. i said noway and i stood up from that place. she covinced me from a long time. but i did not obey her. she bet me severely and finally i sat cross legged and barber poured water on my head i started to cry mother in law slapped on my head and not to cry. i cannot control . since my hair was very thick barber was pouring more amount of water and rinsed very well for few minutes. he then divided my hair into two parts one on left and other on the right side. made to bend till the ground and started shaving from my nape. i knew that his hands were moving on my bald patches. finally he removed my hair on one side and i have become half bald and and started on the other side with in 12 mins i was completely bald.he did once more to make it smooth. he asked my MIL whether it is smooth or i should do once more. straight away after touching my bald head she said do it once more.it is now completed. you should not get up now wait for some time. i dont have any option rather than to sit because she obey me or else get divorce. i was sitting and she said the barber as per our customs u much shave the whole body. he also ok to MIL and started sharpening his blade. i got angry and shouted at my mother in law how can a male barber do this for me???

    my MIL softly said as per customs u should do. how can i do ? she immediately said u much do or else get divorce.. with my said face i went and sat cross legged. he started rinsing the armpits both left and right. took his straight razor and shaved completely. then near my breasts and now he shave upper part completely. then came towards my below and he saw lots of hairs without asking anything he straight away poured water and rinsed it 2 mins took his razor and shaved completely. now i am completely shaven. he told me stand and checked whether he shaved properly. then he asked whether i have any hair at my arch hole. i dont know how to say after a min MIL shouted say whether yes or no or else i come check. first i said no. then barber said u can go. Mil said me to stop and checked whether i have any growth of hair. first she could not find anything. then just she kept her hand and saw she felt some hair is present she shouted how dare you telling lie. then the barber asked me to kneel down and buldge me buttock. hair was clearly visible. he took his straight razor and asked me buldge it properly and she shaved. now i am completely bald and next was my cousin sisters turn she also was been done the same thing she was crying for more than 45 min when i started to shave. she was completely shaven like me finally Our Mil asked us even to shave the eyebrows because it is alone the present in your body. my sister shaved and hence i have no other option rather to shave it me also shaved and went for bath in the river banks which is of walk of 5 mins. after bathing we asked our MIL to give Dress she said only after nose piercing u should wear. even then we went totally naked MIL said the man pierce the Right nose for both of us we both have been pierced nose and all were looking at us. I felt shy to face them because totally nude. after few mins all blessed us and MIL gave new dress which was purchased earlier. we wore and went to temple there MIL applied sandal paste for both of us not to feel the pain.

    we returned home on sunday midnight 2 o clock . and the next day we need to go to office since we r working in same company we both went by an hour late. since we both felt shy to meet the staff so we covered our head with our thupata. all were seeing when we r getting inside office suddenly all came and removed our thupata and started asking why lost your beautiful knee length hair what happened? we said that due to being a south indian orthodox family while piercing nose we should give our hair to god. then all started bot as mottai even relatives friends and neighbours started calling us mottai . since we both have it we felt very shy. to be in mottai. since 1 week as past little bi of hair is seen. on head. how long it could take to grow? we are feeling very bad.. nowadays my MIL also started calling mottai instead of calling us by our name.

    comment your post. regarding this. please i am very afraid that will the hair will grow again? like before

    thanks and regards,
    Ramya / Geetha

  2. #2
    Hi Ramya and Geetha,

    This is unbelievable. How dare your MIL abuse you in such a manner! Sure, getting your head shaved may be a custom, but she had no right to parade you both around naked. How dare she. How can you let her! You are two of you and she is one. You'll should have stood upto her. You'll should have insisted on shaving your private hair on your own and not let some wierd random barber touch you. How can she, being your husband's mother, allow you'll to be seen naked by other people and touched by others.

    You have to stand up for yourself. This is the reason why people think that they can abuse and walk over women. Because we refuse to stand up for ourselves because we worry that we are disrespecting our elders. But if they are doing something that is not worth respecting, then you have to stand your ground. Religion is not so strict. SHe may be too orthodox, but not everyone is. find out others who get their head shaved and you will see that they are not paraded around naked. It is against the law!

    Stand up for yourself, my sisters. Dont let the EVIL MOTHER IN LAW ever hurt and embarrass you like that again. Threaten to go to the police if she dares to beat you again. Threaten to tell the entire world about her misbehaviour and treatment of you. You are not supposed to be ashamed. She is the one who should be ashamed.

  3. #3
    Head shave is normal in our custom.
    some people insist like ur MIL did.
    but it is embarrassing.

  4. #4
    thanks a lot frnds

  5. #5
    So, were you 23-years old at the time of this event?
    How did your husband react to this news?
    Did the hair grow back ok?
    Can MIL demand you shave again? Is this custom?

  6. #6
    My god head shave on MIL insistence , weird , I will never do that on the name of custom too.
    Well i think I will give all my hair to Balaji for a vow still

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