While we usually relate Anorexia nervosa or anorexia, with teens, this eating disorder is actually largely prevalent among women aged 15 to 35. The illness essentially entails starving oneself to death in order to lose weight and consequently build up self-esteem.
The disease starts innocently enough. The victim wakes up one morning, looks at herself in the mirror, and decides she could do with getting rid of that 'fat'. If she just loses some weight, every thing would be perfect. So she goes on a diet and starts an exercise regime. But it doesn't stop when she's shed those few extra kilos. She continues seeing herself as fat, ignoring the perceptions of regular body weight. When she weighs about 85% of what is considered normal for her age and height, is hyperactive and exercises a lot to continue burning calories, but still cannot get rid of the nagging certainty that she is 'fat and ugly', you know she has a problem.
Anorexia is usually accompanied by hyperactivity, hypothermia, and amenorrhea.
Hyperactivity
This is when anorexics exercise frantically to lose whatever little weight they are left with.
Hypothermia
This results when the fat cells, which are the body's natural insulation, become non-existent and the victim starts feeling cold all the time. As a result, the body develops a light coating of fur on the body, to retain whatever little body warmth it can.
Amenorrhea
Amenorrhea sets in when a woman misses at least three menstrual cycles. Loss of monthly menstrual periods is typical in anorexic women while men with anorexia often become impotent.
Nipping it in the Bud
Sadly anorexia is not usually 'nipped in the bud', as it is not recognised until it spirals out of control. Parents of anorexics don't realise initially what their child is going through, as a desire to lose weight by diet and exercise is normal enough. Almost every one goes through a weight-losing spree at some point in life, but with anorexics, it becomes an obsession. Their distorted perception of reality makes them see themselves as fat, even when they are rake thin. They look at themselves in the mirror and they don't see their protruding rib cages - they see the skin on it - and identify it as fat. The fear of being seen as fat continues even when the person is near death from starvation. They won't eat even when suffering from acute hunger pangs. Further, anorexics often wear loose, baggy clothes to hide their 'fat' body, so one doesn't immediately realise how much weight the child has lost.
Change in Attitude Towards Anorexics
The general perception that anorexics are vain and obsessed with their looks needs to be changed, and anorexia needs to be recognised as a serious disease requiring treatment. Anorexics are usually controlled people who are perfectionists but have low self-esteem. Their body weight, shape and size is directly related to how good they feel about themselves. This may be because of troubled family situations, childhood abuse or parents telling their child that he or she should lose weight or getting teased at school because of some extra weight. If a child suffers from anorexia, family members should not let the eating disorder become a hidden, secret problem. Instead, they should talk openly and with obvious concern to the young woman about the situation as early as possible.
Treatment
Group therapy seems to be one of the more effective methods of treatment as women in the same situation get together to speak about their experiences and share their fears.
If anorexia has reached the extent that the person's life is in any danger because of starvation, she should be immediate hospitalised. It may not be easy to gain the victims' co-operation, especially if they have been brought to treatment against their will. Building a trusting and supportive relationship is likely to be the most important part of treatment.
Name:
diving rocks
Country: fiji
aszure (isn’t shirley your real name? i mean i noticed it from your e-mail address). you sound so frustrated… i have trouble helping since i don’t know what you are going through. i personally have learned so much from knowing god! god has helped me with my life, he (god) has helped me keep order in my life… but i have to have faith in him. trust him to guide me upon the right path. sure i might not be doing the outwardly cool thing, but it’s the godly path for me. i love it! you know what? with god’s help i am who i am today. if i didn’t have god i would be like the world. i would be more concerned about my appearance than relationships…. a relationship with god! i know you don’t want help, you said quote, “i’m not going to get help”. but don’t you trust anybody? perhaps i should tell you my story. before i knew christ everything was dull. you know, i was searching but couldn’t find any answers. i was looking in all the wrong places; friends, books, boys, and i were even thinking about becoming anorexic (like mary kate olson, just to become popular…). but i guess you could say god tapped my shoulder and said, “diving rocks! you need me.” i talked to some adults and they truly showed me the way that i needed to head…. towards god! now i want others to see how to find god. though you don’t want help, would you please listen to me? here’s something i was touched by, i think you’ll like it… it’s the lyrics to a song (when they say he, it means god): “you feel insignificant, a whisper in the wind. sometimes you think nobody knows your name. but there’s somebody watching over you. and he knows everything you’re going through! he sees every single tear; he feels everything you’re feeling. he wants to hold you close and dry your eyes. oh your heart is what he hears, when the world just hears you crying. no matter what the pain, he cares about every single tear. overwhelmed by circumstance, out of your control. hope can be the hardest thing to find. when you’re like a heart without a home. you don’t have to face this hurt alone! cuz he sees every single tear; he feels everything you’re feeling. he wants to hold you close and dry your eyes. oh, your heart is what he hears, when the world just hears you crying. no matter what the pain, he cares about every single tear.” i hope you take this to heart… if you really, truly want god… ask him. tell him that you are a sinner in need of a savior. that you know that he died for your sins and you want a relationship with him! ask him to come in to your heart and cleans it. you know what? he will and god will change your life. no matter how confusing life is with acting school, friends, and hard choices. god will always be there for you. so even when you are feeling horrible, insignificant, unworthy of his love… god will give you a hug and encourage you so you know something: you are special; god made you and loves you so much! i’m here for you and will continually pray!
Name:
diving rocks
Country: fiji
sad from the usa, god did make you just as he wants you… you are right about that. but it’s not the devil’s choice of who’s fat or not. no, it’s are choice. in the bible it talks about self-control. that doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t eat at all, that’s taking it to the extremes. rather god wants us to eat from the original plan… fruits, veggies. perhaps it’s not as yummy as cakes and sweets but it’s self-control. we control what we eat…the kind of food we eat, the amount of food, and when we eat. that’s what i meant god made us how he wants us to look.
Name:
diving rocks!
Country: fiji
tamagotchi from the usa! hey, listen to me…. god didn’t create you to look like dolly partin, he made you (tamagotchi) special, that means being yourself. you shouldn’t starve yourself. ask a doctor or nurse to see a proper height/weight chart. they will show you the proper weight for a girl your age and height. i’m praying for you.
about your other note: tamagotchi gal, at nine years old you shouldn’t be going through this…. nobody should go through this hard life. i pray that you find help: talk to a pastor, doctor, nurse, parent, adult, teacher, anybody! they will help you. we often feel fat since our friends pressure us that, “oh, you’re fat”. i have a friend, who gets bothered by this boy. this boy calls her “fatty” and other mean names. she’s slim and pretty. but since we get bothered by pressure around us. we seem to fall in to it… we think we are fat. but you know what? god thinks you are beautiful, he thinks you are special, and he loves you. when we kill our body (the temple of the holy spirit, or where god lives) that’s like telling god. i don’t like how you created me. it’s like telling god how bad he has created. god loves you, tamagotchi gal. i’m praying for you!
Name:
diving rocks!
Country: fiji
sad! oh, sad from the usa. you are right about tomagatchi girl… but sad, you aren’t fat. god made you special. why won’t you listen? are you really seeking help? i want to help. but the first think we need to start upon is “zipping it”. put your finger on your mouth, and zip it closed. meaning, we need to shut ourselves up. our thoughts and feelings are strengthen as we give them utterance. so perhaps you feel and think you are fat… put a frame of mind on that you won’t talk about how fat you are for one day. tell me how you do? my best guess is that you keep calling yourself fat and other people (like a boyfriend) keeps calling you fat… so you feel like you are fat. god made you special. he loves you the way you are. he loves you so much that he gave his son, jesus to die in our place. i’m praying for you, sad!!!!!
Name:
Bulimic_Death_i_am
Country: usa
diving rocks,shirley isent my real name.
it's my nickname,it was the only thing i could think of when i created my e-mail.
anyway,why are you always saying something about dolly partin?yeah suer she's really thin,but not everyone here wants to look like her.you should leave dolly partin out of this.
Name:
Leer
Country: usa
diving rocks! i love what you say to these people. how old are you? you speak as if your wiser than your years. all of yall should take her advice, she knows what shes talkin about. the lord our god is with us through the good and the bad. pray to him and let him come in to heal. about 3 years ago my mother got cancer and i prayed and my family prayed and we put it in gods hands. because of him shes fine and the cancers gone. "science only goes so far then comes god" a great quote out of the notebook. please lesson to me. god is the answer, believe in him and get help and heal. please take him in your heart!!!!! i know i probley sound weird and you think "why should i lesson to her, i don't even know her?" well im just an average teenager going to high school this year with tons of friends. im just like you and i have weight problems too. but i believe in the lord and if i want to lose weight i do it the good way with gods help. so don't think i dont understand and i don't know what im talking about because i do. the only way your going to make it in this life is if you have god in your heart. believe me. if anyone of yall need someone to talk to or someone to ask about god, im here. i want all yall to no that. im always here 4 u. i go to this website every day so just write u need to talk to me and put ur e-mail. im here. luv always, leer!
Name:
in_desprate_need
Country: india
diving rocks i think its sweet that your prayin for all of us and i thank you for it. im glad that you care.
Name:
sad
Country: usa
is it my purpose to have anorexia/bulimia/depression? did god put me on this earth to have pain?! cuz i swear im gonna kill myself if i hear another voice in my head telling me im fat or if i look in the mirror
Name:
Leer
Country: usa
sad, god didn't put you on this earth to feel pain. but because of our sins there is pain. there would be no pain if the world was perfect and no one sined. but this world isn't perfect, and we're just going to have to make it through with god by our side. if you pray to him for help and believe in him and try to worship and be the best you can be, you wouldn't have as much pain. believe in him, i'm begging. i'll always be here if someone needs someone to talk to. luv always, leer.
Name:
Bulimic_Death_i_am
Country: usa
diving rocks,to tell you the truth i dont trust anyone.i really dis like people.
if it was up to me everyone would not exist.
i don't know why i dis like people so much but i do,maybe it's because i dis like myselfe.anyway i have to go but,ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmm,take care of yourselfe.
love
as zure
Name:
Bulimic_Death_i_am
Country: usa
i just lost 5 pounds,i was already to thin,now i just look sick.
how stupid can i be.
i really want to get help but i can't.
i feel like i'm gonna pass out or something.
please help me.
Name:
gymnast
Country: usa
i am a gymnast so i need food to give me energy to make it through practice and the rest of the day but i want to lose 10 pounds in a week how do i do that without starving myself? im not sure if its even posible to do in a week and do it in a healthy manner but if anyone has any suggestions or if u tried something b4 and it worked.. tell me please!!! thanx!! u can email me or just write back on this site but my email is roxystr209@aol.com!!! somebody anybody please write back!! thanx soo much!!
Name:
sad
Country: usa
i went to confession at the end of april and i confessed about...cutting...for a long time...and my priest is really nice. he knows about me but he doesnt understand anorexia much. at night i pray and beg go dto give a flat stomach. that's all, just a flat stomach and id probly stop. but everybody tells me i have a flat stomach. i dont believe them cuzi know they're just sayin that. but for pete's sake, why cant i have a flat stomach???? i do crunches every pathetic day i have. wtf????!!!!
Name:
Leer
Country: usa
bulimic_death_i_am, u seemed 2 have make a slight turn around. not so rude sounding than in ur other articles. thats good, that shows u can change easly, don't give up and never think of urself n ne negative ways. i still praying 4everybody! luv always leer
Name:
hep?me_plz
Country: honduras
can somebody tell me how to stop??
Name:
help?me_plz
Country: honduras
i have had bulimia over 4 years now and i cant really stop it... i dislike everybody like peole annoy me ..i dont trust people... i think that everybody hates me and they want to hurt me.. i really hate my body and wich i was very thin.. and i cant loose weight because of all these binges.. i wish i couldbe happy its like i am for a second but then all comes down and i am traped in my room all alone eating... with something in me saying i dont want to be with anybody.. disliking everybody even my own mom..i have a boyfriend and i love him very much and i dont even know what to do i even think he doesnt love me when he actually does but its like i cant really understand it.. i really need help can somebody help me plzzzz???
Name:
Diving rocks!
Country: fiji
leer, i am glad i can do this with you. i, am similar to you…a normal teenager. but i'm not perfect, i also struggle with my weight and appearance. i learned the right, godly way to deal with my problems and i wanted to share that with everyone. leer: god is so wonderful! he healed your mom! as you know and have seen god can do miracles. he is seeing us and wants us to have a relationship with him. i have learned so much about god and the bible by just truly seeking. when you seek, god will provide many people in your life to help improve your knowledge. that is what he has done for me. i praise the lord everyday for saving my life. please continue in the mission… we are like paul and barnabus in the new testiment, you know. i am glad that you in this with me, like barnabus… don’t give up, leer! god has a plan for you.
hey, just one more question. what’s with your call name, ‘leer’? god bless you! let’s keep praying!
Name:
diving rocks!
Country: fiji
hep?me_plz , god can help you stop! really, he can... trust him! i know you are going through a hard time and everything is difficult. well, god can help you in any and every sitituation. i'm not just saying things i know it's true. it's says it in the bible... you know what, hep?me_plz? god can help you back on the right track... the track towards having good relationships, trusting, and loving. god loves you so much! he sent his only son to die for you. so when you are feeling like a worthless, empty soal... just remember to god the father, you're gold. you are so special to him! talk to god and ask him to help you with this, he will. i swear, god will help you. he has helped me, i'm living proof that god answers prayer. hep?me_plz, god loves you! i'm praying for you...in his (god's) grip, diving rocks!
Name:
diving rocks!
Country: fiji
sad, listen to me! i know you want to be skinny and all... who doesn't..... now people want to be like movie stars and famous skinny people. god has other plans for you, it's on another path. a path toward him, the lord god who loves you and cares so much about you. he created you to be his child. i know you are struggleing with your appearance but work on it the right way. my close, close friend was bulimic. but god came and tapped her on the shoulder. she suddenly knew what she was doing was so wrong and she was killing herself for no good reason. my friend couldn't believe what she was doing this for, just looks. god changed her direction and now has a wonderful relationship with the lord. everyone still struggles with their weight. but you know what? we working towards a relationship with god. that's our main goal. sad, i'm praying for you and everyone of you on this website.... why, you may ask..... because, i care.... it's what jesus would have me do.... care and pray for you!
Name:
sad
Country: usa
i know god has a plan for me and everything. even my mother tells me i'm 'wasting away'. but it's a disease in my head that wont go away no matter how many times ive sked him to help me. i eat very little, and throw up if i feel bad about it sometimes.
Name:
Leer
Country: usa
help me plz ur just making excuses. the fact that u said u dont understand it and u want help tells me u do no what ur talking about and ur strong anough 2 make a change, so do it. dont give up and eat normal, if u have troble and have a hard time just pray to the lord, i promise u it will help.
Name:
Leer
Country: usa
diving rocks, my first name and middle name is linda lee. about 3 years ago when i was in 6th grade my friends just started calling me leer one day. even though im rarely called that now its still fun to remember those days, so thats why i use it for my call name. why do you use diving rocks? just wondering. well thank you for saying im in this with you. i love everyone and im praying for you all. luv ya leer
Name:
diving rocks
Country: fiji
leer, hey, cool, i was jsut wondering about leer, i mean, why that was.... diving rocks... i'm a scuba diver. i love scuba diving! it makes me feel so close to god because i'm delighting in his nature... i thought it would be a good name b/c it decribes me.... a scuba diver but normal teenager. you go girl, i'm glad you can help me with this... i think god will bless you b/c of your service. god bless you, linda....in christ, diving rocks!
Name:
Leer
Country: usa
sad, i know u probley don't want 2 here this but it seems like ur mother is in dinal about u having a real problem. shes probley just thinking ur naturally thin, when u really have a disorder. u need to talk to her and express whats been happening to u and both of u sould go to the lord. let him lead u to whats right, like diving rocks said, im praying for u. we r both here 4 u if u need 2 talk. luv always, leer.
Name:
sad
Country: usa
my mother said to me, "you couldn't gain weight or get fat even if you ate cheesecake everynight for a year!" hahahaha. should i really believe her?