Teaching kids to be self reliant helps them in the long run.Kids learn to be responsible and independent.They have the ability to take their own decisions.
The dos:
Parents can encourage their children
to be self-reliant in baby steps. Children can start by taking care of
their daily routine like brushing their teeth, feeding themselves, tying
their own laces, etc. as soon as they get the hang of it.
Children should spend more time in free
play when they can explore their own ideas and think for themselves.
When they are a little older, they can
help with the chores like laying the table, watering the plants, etc.
If all goes well, they should be left
to manage their own time when it comes to their academics and social life.
Parents should only interfere if they feel their children are wandering
off track.
Children should be given responsibilities
and held accountable if they do not fulfil their duties. This will give
children a sense of importance and they will feel that their parents trust
them to do the job.
Physical fitness and strength is an
essential part of being competent and self-reliant. Children must be encouraged
to do sport and other outdoor activity.
Allow children to set their own goals,
unless you feel they are taking the easy way out and you know they are
capable of much more.
Leave them alone for short periods of
time so that they learn to entertain themselves.
Last, but not least, remember that you're
not going to be around forever to hold your children's hands and protect
them from all the pitfalls they might encounter in life. It is in their
best interest to be self-reliant.
The don'ts:
If children want to try out something
new, parents shouldn't hover around looking like they're waiting for disaster
to strike or constantly giving them instructions about the 'right' way
to go about things. Leave the children to their own devices, otherwise
they'll grow up being scared of their own shadows.
Parents shouldn't rush to their children's
aid every time they come to them with a problem. Encourage them to think
it out for themselves and if they're well and truly stuck, guide them to
the answer. Avoid spoonfeeding your children. They'll never learn to think
of themselves.
Don't set impossibly high standards
for your children or load them with responsibilities they will find difficult
to cope with. This could backfire and your children may feel that they
are not capable of achieving anything.
Don't make your approval conditional
on success. Praise them for their effort.
Don't label them 'stupid' if they haven't
been able to handle responsibility or cope with a task assigned to them.
Name:
Tracy,
Country: Australia
thank you for an interesting and helpful read.
Name:
kavita,
Country: India
truly great web page.
Name:
cheri,
Country: Southafrica
great web page
Name:
balaji,
Country: India
we need more information about child reliant for their better future
Name:
Sohin,
Country: India
yes its very important for a child to learn how to be self reliant.
Name:
Jayshree,
Country: Other
it is refreshing to have an indian site encouraging self reliance in children. many issues amongst our indian community would be better served if people are brought up to be self reliant instead of dependending on what others think etc. congratulations on an intelligent article.
Name:
karen,
Country: united kingdom
thoroughly enjoyed reading your advice, no other site seemed to have all this information, i am certainly going to try the things i have read, i now know where i am going wrong. thank you
Name:
laura,
Country: united kingdom
this web page has helped me with my college work and i never knew the difference between self reliance and self confident before, and now i can help children become better poeople for the future. thank you
Name:
toni,
Country: Other
thanx for all the help i am studying to be a teacher and this has helped me alot keep it up....
Name:
Manju,
Country: india
that was a wonderful article. what do i do if my 10 year old daughter, who is otherwise very smart,never finishes her class work on a daily basis? her reasoning is that she is too bored to keep writing the class work. i keep telling her that it is very important to learn to finish our respective jobs and be self reliant. also lot of time gets wasted by finishing the calss work at home.
any suggestions?
Name:
FOZIA,
Country: U.A.E.
thanx for this article.being teaching children to be self reliant is a good way of making them learn the right and wrong
Name:
Bob,
Country: Thailand
i am teaching in thailand where the children in school all have nannies to do everything for them. parents believe that they are doing the best for their child by doing everything for them. i am trying to re-educate the parents about the importance of developing self reliance and independence this was a very useful article.
Name:
Kailash,
Country: India
this is a well written article which conveys a very important idea in a most rational way! i loved it! i am particularly happy to see it in an indian website, where our culture really teaches the opposite! how refreshing! thank you.
Name:
Geetha Laxman,
Country: India
thanks for the tips on rearing self-reliant children.
