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The Key to Self-Esteem

Self esteem means liking yourself.Children who have high self esteem are more confident and eager to tackle problems with a smile on their face.Read on.


It's about liking yourself 

One usually doesn't say, "I have self-esteem" like one would say, "I have jaundice." In that sense, self-esteem is difficult to pinpoint. To most people, self-esteem is an abstract concept one talks about in theoretical terms. 

But have you ever thought why Sheila does not collapse under stress? Or why Rohit always has a solution to the problem? Or how Monica manages to have such an egalitarian relationship with her husband? Or why Laila, who is not the most attractive woman around, has such a good looking boyfriend? The answer is self-esteem. 

Self-esteem means that you are comfortable with the person you are. You are proud of the good in yourself, but are aware of the bad. You have been able to reconcile yourself to your limitations and have learned to work around them. In short, you like yourself. You're probably thinking, "What's the big deal about that? How can a person not like himself?"
 

What it means to have self-esteem

In fact, people who have self-esteem are not all that common. If you think about it, almost everyone you know is not happy about some aspect of himself or herself. Some people wish they looked different; some wish they had more money; others that they were more popular. These are people who have low self-esteem, which makes it necessary for them to constantly seek approval from the people around them in order to feel good about themselves. While people with high self-esteem may have similar doubts, they are fleeting as they have learnt to overcome them by capitalizing on their plus points. 

People with self-esteem tend to be more content. They bounce back faster from a crisis. They are not afraid to take risks. They do not waste time worrying about problems. They believe in taking action to solve any problems that may crop up. They tend to be more flexible and adjust easily to changing situations. They are not commitment-shy when it comes to relationships because they are not uptight about compromising and giving of themselves. 

It's clear that a child who has self-esteem is happier, more creative, better adjusted, more confident and resilient. Every parent would like to see his or her child grow up to be like that. This is where you come in. Parents play a very important role in giving their children a sense of self-worth. This is because for a larger part of their formative years, children derive confidence and a sense of who they are from the way their parents treat them.



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EAGLE1.7 years ago
i tried to find articles on self worth,but self-esteem keep popping ip
the are not the same thing;
self esteem has to with fetting external validation through prise and recognition and applause
with self-wirth,one validate oneself with the satisfaction of a job well gonr ergardless of other people's opinion
 
 
 
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Chantillie Oliver.7 years ago
you need some avise are teenagers and younger adluts
 
 
 
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Aparajita.7 years ago
i think the article was really helpful & i am really looking forward for some positive result as per my son is concerned,my only worry is i always loose patience with him very fast. and it is tremendous worry about him which is usually express in anger has lost his confidence& at times he started hating me. i am sure trhis article will help me a lot
 
 
 
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padmini.7 years ago
i feel if parents themselves are low on esteem it would create problems for the child.
 
 
 
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Ashutosh Nigam.7 years ago
to padmini:
it is a vicious circle, parent are they as the grand parents were that way and so on.
the parents need to accept themselves and then follow then tips. i will add some more things like. parents should not try to impress on child that they are perfect as it will be more hurting for kids when they realize the truth by experience. and it will happen sooner than they expect. for example lets say a father is short tempered then he can say "look i am short tempered but it is not a habit i want in me or my children. i am trying to over come it. please don't copy my this habit. the good news is i know what is good and what is not good for you, so i can guide you on that. i am trying to come over my short temper and will win over it. ...."
 
 
 
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tony.7 years ago
it is a v nice article. keep it up....
 
 
 
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gidjet.7 years ago
i have a nine year old born in august,
she does have some friends, but is often lost in a group, not one of the popular ones. she has taken her comfort in animals, and in playing with 7yr. olds. we have a 9 month old golden retreiver, she loves it, but it is not working out here, we need to let it go to a bigger home. she is devasted, this along with the changes in fourth grade make her say, "i hate myself, i wish i was dead.

this hurts me, how can i help her? i can tend to loose it, i admit i am menopausal......i don't like to see her without any confidence. how can i get her to a level where she feels that she likes herself? i don't care if she is
popular or not, however, i am hurt by her comments......

please help.
 
 
 
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xvx.7 years ago
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jm.7 years ago
we should create example before the child for all good things. it is natural tendency of the mind to grab things. we have to make him understand with live examples at appropriate time then they will realize gradually. it is lengthy process which is understood by the children with the age. but we have to continuously make efforts to improve upon them with offending them or losing temper. some body said that in the teaching of spiritual guru, the same things are repeated, the anwer was how can there can be a new route to god one god is one, path is one.
it takes time, but never loss patience and teach values and ethics to children regularly which will yield excellent result in the long run when he/she grows.
 
 
 
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really its a very good article.i like and spread this message to all my friends.it will help all of us bulding our self-esteem.
 
 
 
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