Here are some more tips on helping your child cope with bullies in school.
IF your child is
getting bullied at school, don't take the matter lightly. Although
random incidents of bullying and fistfights are fine, if it gets very
repetitive, and if the same child is
always picking on your child, it is time you sat up and took notice.
Here are some more tips on helping your child cope with bullies in school.
Transport
If your child often gets taunted in the school bus, consider discontinuing the service. Start picking up and dropping your child to school yourself or enrolling your child in a car pool. If the school
is not too far, this shouldn't be much of a problem. Also, your child
will form close friendships with those in his carpool. If these
students are senior to your child, so much the better, because bullies
will stay away from children with senior friends!
New School
Sometimes simply changing your child's school may be the answer
to the solution. This should however be resorted to only after you have
tried speaking to the teacher, and speaking to the parents of the
bullies, and encountered uncooperative people. There is no need to
expect your little child to undergo the daily beatings and taunts,
especially if they don't subside. Your child will only grow up with bad
memories of his school, or with severe personality issues. Your child
should not have to face, deal with or learn to cope with such violence
or hatred at such a young age.
Look at your child from the eyes of the bullies and see what the reason could possibly be. You can react accordingly.
Self Defence Classes
Is your child slight of built? If so, consider enrolling him in self-defence classes. Let the instructor know that your child is
being bullied at school, and you would want him to be able to strike
back. It is possible that as soon as the bullies know that your child
has started Karate or Kung Fu classes, they will start being a little
wary of him without him really resorting to any form of physical
action.
Appearance
Kruthi Mathani was constantly teased by her classmates.
She was in a convent, as was not subject to any violence as such, but
she was constantly made fun of. The prime reason for this was her
appearance. She wasn't fat or ugly, just very unkempt. Her hair was
never really combed, her uniform was constantly dirty, her shoes were
stained, and there always seemed to be a few hooks missing from her
belt or shirt. The result? Her classmates would sometimes throw pencil
shavings in her hair, and other times they would lay bets saying that
the loser would have to touch Kruthi. If anyone rubbed against her in the school
corridors they would immediately start shouting "Oh yuck, I touched
Kruthi!" Naturally such kind of behaviour can be deeply disturbing, and
Kruthi detested school. What was surprising was the way her mother sent
her to school, looking so untidy.
As a parent, don't neglect your child's appearance. Make sure that she
looks clean and well groomed when she leaves the home. If she has more
body hair than most, let her start bleaching her moustache at a younger
age - especially if she is conscious about it.
Name:
hema
Country: India
complain to the school. talk to the parents of the child that is picking on your child. The child will think twice before saying anything bad to your child.
Name:
Mother Hen
Country: usa
i don't agree with taking a child off the bus if he is bullied. i feel the child who is acting inappropriately should be taken off the bus. perhaps if the bullies parents were inconvienences a bit, they might try and do something about their child's behavior. why should my child be seperated for doing nothing wrong.
Name:
sue
Country: australia
i agree,
you should complain, no-one likes beeing bulled, and no-one has the right to be bullied....
Name:
bob
Country: australia
u should complain to the school!!
Name:
Shruti
Country: india
my daughter always use to complain, when she was returning home from her school bus. there was some child, who use to always bother her. she told me every thing visited the school and complained the teacher about the incident.. few days it was okay but after some days the there was some newer child who was bothering here. then i tought of discountuing the bus service. now i am going daily to drop her and to pickup her from the school......
Name:
Negin
Country: Iran
kids could sometimes be very cruel. my brother used to get bullied at school very much because he was stuttering. i went to those boys who was bulling him and i told them i have heard some boys are bothering my brother, could you please keep an eye on my brother and tell me who is bothering him .believe it or not this worked. i do believe in indirect approach.
