Is your child going to take up a part-time job this summer, will he be hanging out with friends all day or will he be getting bored at home? Heres why a light job can go a long way in making your child more responsible.The sooner your child starts work, the sooner he will start shouldering responsibility. While children in the West often undertake light summer jobs during their vacation, this is not so common in India, largely due to the fact that labour is not as scarce in India as it is abroad. However, if your child does get an opportunity to work for a month or two in your office or with someone trustworthy, there is no reason for you to deny him the opportunity. Dont force your child to work against his will. But if given the opportunity, you will see that most children will jump at the idea of getting a part-time job in the summer vacation. The general tendency in India is to believe that the father or parents should be the bread earners, and that children should focus on their studies. They seem to lose sight of the fact that personality development is just as important if you want your child to succeed. Naturally the money earned by your child can go into his account, and even though the amount may not be large, it will accumulate over the years, and your child may have a decent bank balance by the time he graduates. Even if your childs job consists of nothing more challenging than addressing envelopes, dont discourage him from taking it up. Once your child starts attending office, he will develop a feel of workplace culture at an age younger than his peers. He will also be exposed to different people, of different age groups. Until now, most of his mixing would be with peers. But the minute your child starts working, he will be exposed to people of various ages, and he will get to see things from an adults perspective. When children are in school or even in colleges in India, they are leading a sheltered, cocooned existence, and have little or no exposure to the real world. As a result, they are not always aware of the various choices they have. Children are limited to the exposures of their peer group and their family, and work broadens this exposure. It also takes them a step further to making a career choice. A clerical experience at a law firm will give your child an insight into the way lawyers work, and may help him decide that he wants to do law. Similarly, if your teenager works as a salesgirl in a shop for a few months, she may realize that she has a knack for fashion, and get into fashion designing. More important than career exposure, however, is the exposure to shouldering responsibility. Everyone probably remembers their first job, and the thrill they had at earning their first salary. Such a boost, when given to a child, goes a long way in building his confidence and moulding his character. In India, if our children want something bigger like a toy, or a musical instrument, parents dont even dream of getting their children to earn it themselves. Instead, we ask our children to behave themselves, study harder, and if they are good boys or girls, we will fulfill their wants. Often these wants get fulfilled on their birthdays or on some occasion, irrespective of whether or not they have been good. If instead your children get to buy what they want with their own money, the joy and satisfaction will be so much higher. In addition, you will be putting your children on the right path by showing them the rewards of work.
Is your child going to take up a part-time job this summer, will he be hanging out with friends all day or will he be getting bored at home? Here's why a light job can go a long way in making your child more responsible.The sooner your child starts work, the sooner he will start shouldering responsibility. While children in the West often undertake light summer jobs during their vacation, this is not so common in India, largely due to the fact that labour is not as scarce in India as it is abroad. However, if your child does get an opportunity to work for a month or two in your office or with someone trustworthy, there is no reason for you to deny him the opportunity. Don't force your child to work against his will. But if given the opportunity, you will see that most children will jump at the idea of getting a part-time job in the summer vacation. The general tendency in India is to believe that the father or parents should be the bread earners, and that children should focus on their studies. They seem to lose sight of the fact that personality development is just as important if you want your child to succeed. Naturally the money earned by your child can go into his account, and even though the amount may not be large, it will accumulate over the years, and your child may have a decent bank balance by the time he graduates. Even if your child's job consists of nothing more challenging than addressing envelopes, don't discourage him from taking it up. Once your child starts attending office, he will develop a feel of workplace culture at an age younger than his peers. He will also be exposed to different people, of different age groups. Until now, most of his mixing would be with peers. But the minute your child starts working, he will be exposed to people of various ages, and he will get to see things from an adult's perspective. When children are in school or even in colleges in India, they are leading a sheltered, cocooned existence, and have little or no exposure to the real world. As a result, they are not always aware of the various choices they have. Children are limited to the exposures of their peer group and their family, and work broadens this exposure. It also takes them a step further to making a career choice. A clerical experience at a law firm will give your child an insight into the way lawyers work, and may help him decide that he wants to do law. Similarly, if your teenager works as a salesgirl in a shop for a few months, she may realize that she has a knack for fashion, and get into fashion designing. More important than career exposure, however, is the exposure to shouldering responsibility. Everyone probably remembers their first job, and the thrill they had at earning their first salary. Such a boost, when given to a child, goes a long way in building his confidence and moulding his character. In India, if our children want something bigger like a toy, or a musical instrument, parents don't even dream of getting their children to earn it themselves. Instead, we ask our children to behave themselves, study harder, and if they are good boys or girls, we will fulfill their wants. Often these wants get fulfilled on their birthdays or on some occasion, irrespective of whether or not they have been 'good'. If instead your children get to buy what they want with their own money, the joy and satisfaction will be so much higher. In addition, you will be putting your children on the right path by showing them the rewards of work.
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this topic can't be left at just by saying "good idea" & "school-college should encourage it", etc. the shops, business owners should be willing to give a chance to the youngsters.in india, there are companies who give oppurtunities. we have to encourage our children to take up small jobs during summer holidays.
most often than not what happens in india is that the child is sent to tutorials to gear him towards the next class. the competition is so immense that, it's the survival of the fittest. so working part time is not an option for indian kids. they are sent to tutorials and coaching institutes in order to get admission into good colleges or in case of younger kids, the parents expect their children to be ahead of the rest of the class.
secondly there still needs to be a recognition of dignity of labor in india. i'm not sure how many parents would like their children to work in a post office or a departmental store.
thirdly, there may not be secured envirnment for the kids especially in small as shops or stores. the kids are not given an opportunioty to work in bigger establishments due to lack of experience or age.
most often than not what happens in india is that the child is sent to tutorials to gear him towards the next class. the competition is so immense that, it's the survival of the fittest. so working part time is not an option for indian kids. they are sent to tutorials and coaching institutes in order to get admission into good colleges or in case of younger kids, the parents expect their children to be ahead of the rest of the class.
secondly there still needs to be a recognition of dignity of labor in india. i'm not sure how many parents would like their children to work in a post office or a departmental store.
thirdly, there may not be secured envirnment for the kids especially in small as shops or stores. the kids are not given an opportunioty to work in bigger establishments due to lack of experience or age.
i think schools should at the end of the year in some higher secondary grade offer a week of work experience for children . they should be responsible for liasing with the indtutions that they wish to or would be interested to work in and spend a week working there and be involved in whatever possible evemnts that the orgonixation can offer. this not only gives them an insight into the workforce but also lets them chhose a career path they'd be interested in in the future .
i strongly encourage all schools and teachers to advocate and put into practice such a programme and comment on the results of it.
students should be allowed to feedback amd reflect on the prohramme its pros and cons and the learning and benifits that it has provided them with.
my sentiments exactly! i am a financial planner and have a column on personal finance in the 'emirates today'i have discussed this issue many times. majority of parents are focussed on better grades at the expense of personality development. most of our indian kids are lacking in communication skills, shouldering resosbility and prioritising. experience is one of the best teachers and summer jobs is one of the solutions!