Register | Login
Login
Sign in with:
---------- OR ----------
Create Account | Login
Create account
As a Member You Can:
  • Join clubs to discuss your interests
  • Connect with people like you
  • Share information, seek advice, get support

   
parenting
in Mumbai (change city)
Select City
  • All
  • Delhi
  • New Delhi
  • Gurgaon
  • Noida
  • Mumbai
  • Pune
  • Banglore
  • Hyderabad
  • Ghaziabad
  • Chandigarh
  • Ahmedabad
  • Kolkata
  • Chennai
  • Coimbatore
  • Jaipur
 
Confident Child Topics..

 
You are here : home > Confident Child > Building Confidence > The Wealthy Child

The Wealthy Child


When it is your money that gives your child his confidence, such confidence will not last forever.Instilling confidence in your child will take him higher in life.


In this material world, there is a lot you can buy to give your child confidence. If your child has more shoes, more clothes, a better car, more servants etc. than his friends, needless to say, he will feel good about himself, and this will help his self-confidence soar. The only problem is that when it is your money that gives your child his confidence, such confidence will not last forever.

Although most parents love spoiling their children and giving them everything their hearts desire, this is not the best strategy if you want to raise great kids. If you get them everything they want, they will start to believe that they can get things without working hard. You may have worked very hard to reach where you are, but if your child gets the fruits of your labour without doing anything to deserve it, he may start to believe that life is easy. He will also get used to getting whatever he wants, and when he grows up and realizes that in fact he cannot get his wishes fulfilled at the snap of a finger, he may not be able to handle it. You don't want your child to grow up believing that the world owes him a living, because this can only bring bitterness and dissatisfaction.

If your child grows up with a lot of self-confidence borne out of your riches, if ever these riches dissipate, your child will be completely shattered and will lose a large part of his confidence and identity. So indulge your child a little, but discourage him from getting a large head because of your money.

Although you can shelter your child all you want when he is at home and living with you, as soon as he starts living on his own, his true character will emerge. You never know where life may take your child, and although we Indians still very much want our sons to live with us our entire lives, this may not always happen.


Discourage showing-off

Discourage showing-off at every step. If you are wealthy, your child should learn that unless your last name is Gates, Walton, Ambani or you are a world-renowned richie rich, there are millions of people wealthier than you are. Also, make sure your child understands that you have your money because you worked hard for it, and he too needs to work hard if he wants something.


Encourage comparisons

Also, let your child socialize with friends from all sections of society - very rich and very poor. Your child will then understand that he may be more privileged than some, but is a lot less privileged than others.


Set rewards

Don't give your child everything he wants in a blink. You could indulge your child on his birthday, but other than that try and work out a reward system, and give him something that he wants only after he 'earns' it. In this manner he we learn that nothing is free.


Allocate an allowance

Give your child a limited allowance, in par with that of his friends. True, you may be able to afford to give him a lot more, but if he is given a lot more than his friends are, he will develop a swollen head. Let him learn to live within the means of his allowance. If he wants something, he can learn to save.

Remember, the best gift you can give your child is that of good parenting and a solid education. Nothing else can compensate, and nothing else will come close to all the gifts money can buy. It is better to be a good parent than an extremely generous one, so be generous with love and attention, and not with gifts.

You may also be interested in:

Smart Parenting
(45214 views)
Fussy Eating Habits
(21214 views)
Hobbies
(15305 views)
Good Role Models
(68184 views)
Building Confidence
(16656 views)
Cancel
Save Edit
parenting
Notifications
14 Comments
Sort by Newest

Gaurang Mishra.3 years ago
very important. Many parents show off at birthday parties and distribute expensive gifts in school. Orchids, though international school, I have seen the kids much grounded.
 
 
 
.
Reply
Riya.4 years ago
Reward systems really helps. A must-read post for the parents. I come from a middle-class background but my child goes to an international school where the socio-economic status vary completely when compared to my by-gone school days. We live in a materialistic world and the children tend to observe other kid's bags, pencil box to snacks. My kid did share these things with me. But it is my duty to turn my little one towards the right way of living by not pampering him with whatever he asks for. So I started a reward system at home to boost his self-confidence, motivating him to the do the right thing at all times.
 
 
 
.
Reply
lata.8 years ago
very interesting, and true. my neighbour is wealthy, and his son shows off all the time, and my son used to feel bad at first, but now he has come to terms about it. i wish my neighbours read this article!
 
 
 
.
Reply
Jill.8 years ago
this is a really great article. this is the type of information that i am looking for. i love how you explained that a solid education is also important to raise a successful child.
 
 
 
.
Reply
well, i study in a school and i come from an uppe-middle class family . my dad is the managing director of a multi national company and mom a teacher in a respectable instution.
my social circle in school is somewhat people from the same socio economic background. my best friend's dad is also an md and her mom a house wife. two others have moms who are doctors and while one's dad runs a busines the other is my dad's colleague. thats my social circle. there are kids fron varied socio economic backgrounds but there is always something in us shownung our wealth . may not be all that materialistic but then we are always labled rich and elete and funny and true we are one social group four of us . we donot really mix with other kids as we are sterotyped and we are the best students clinching the awards and prizes . so rich dosent mean that we are lazy . we are the best .
 
 
 
.
Reply
Expert.8 years ago
why is it that sgter reading your comment no one can comment . it's been some time now
 
 
 
.
Reply
whatver it is.8 years ago
even if you are a gates, amabani , mittal or any other riche-rich, you must remember to work hard to earn your own living and future .
 
 
 
.
Reply
add mittsl to thst list plz
 
 
 
.
Reply
Me Again.8 years ago
mittal i meant mistyped
 
 
 
.
Reply
sumaj.8 years ago
very informative article.
sometime it is too difficult to explain the kids.my only child a son though not very demanding but still i feel he knows he is rich and no problem with money. at time he is too kind....
 
 
 
.
Reply
load more comments
Back to Previous Page   |   More on Confident Child Index

 
 


All tips on Building Confidence
You ever wanted in one place.
No need to go anywhere else. No spam.

*No spam only genuine emails
Follow us on:




Featured Articles - Infertility | Baby Development | Health and Fitness | How to Get Pregnant | Parenting Advice | Weight Loss | Pregnancy Advice | Name Numerology
Baby - Baby Photo Contest | Lucky Names | Lucky Birthdates | Horoscopes | Chinese Calendar | Compatibility Test | Fun Zone
Parenting - Message Boards | Planning a Baby | Pregnancy | Parents of Babies | Baby Names | Baby Name Poll | Birth Announcements | Parenting Quiz
Family - Cooking Club | Love & Relationships | Beauty Tips | Kids Weight Calculator | Recipe Maker
General - Calorie Counter | Personality Quiz | Love Signs | Compatibility Quiz
Home | Site Map | Privacy Policy | Comments or Suggestions | Indiaparenting News Articles | Contact Us | Advertise with Us | | RSS
Copyright (c) 1999 - 2017 India Parenting Pvt. Ltd.