Having high self-esteem is the first step towards carving out a better life for yourself. Here are practical tips on what you can do to build your self esteem.
Exercise
Exercise regularly. The connection between high self esteem and regular exercise is not apparent, but it exists all the same. The more you exercise, the healthier and better you look and feel. Regular exercise pumps up circulation and makes skin glow. It makes you feel more alive and vibrant, and lifts your mood.
Goal
All of us have dreams of what we want to be, what we want to achieve
and so on. These dreams can only come true if we have faith in our
abilities to achieve our dreams, and this faith comes with a strong
sense of self worth.
If you have a dream, don't just spend all your time lost in
it. Instead, work towards it and start planning. What do you need to do
to fulfil your dream? Make a plan and set a goal. Those with a definite
goal in life have higher self-esteem than 'drifters' who just let life
pass them by without paving a path for themselves.
Failures
Don't let your failures get you down. When we see a
successful person, we often assume he achieved success overnight, and
fail to see the years of hard work, struggle and failures he had to
deal with. JK Rowling's Harry Potter manuscript was turned down again and again by a number of publishers, before it was finally accepted.
Public Speaking
Many tremble at the thought of speaking in public. Although you may
never need to give a speech to a large crowd, taking up a good public speaking course
helps in making us more confident when speaking up in a group of
friends and acquaintances. Similarly, taking up a voice modulation
course should help as well.
Classes
Join classes in subjects you find interesting. Don't wait for a
friend to join with you - simply sign up by yourself. If you enjoy
entertaining people, join a bartending course! If you like to cook,
enrol in a cooking or baking class. Joining classes gives you the
opportunity to interact with more people, and the more you interact
with others, the more confident you will be in company.
Theatre
Another great course to do to increase your confidence would be
a theatre course. Being able to perform on stage will undoubtedly give
you a high. In addition, the feeling of being part of a group,
practicing and rehearsing together, will definitely bring you out of
your shell. However, taking up theatre as a hobby and as a profession
are two different things entirely. Going in for the latter means opting
for a career filled with uncertainties, unexpected highs and lows and a
whole new ball game of insecurities.
Relationship
Being in a bad relationship also has an adverse effect on our
self-esteem, and no woman, good looking or otherwise, is immune to
abuse. What will help you in this situation is your ability to stand on
your own feet, so you can get out of the relationship, so make having a
career or a qualification that you can fall back on, a priority.
Name:
helpless wife
Country: india
i agree with tony s.pl.post an article on how to cope up with a bad marrige
Name:
Swati
Country: usa
this is really one great article. it is very helpful to be a achiever in any field.
pl keep posting such uplifting articles.
Name:
Tony S
Country: india
v. good article. but more needs to be written on how a woman can cope up with her capabilities of doing different things when she is already in a not so good marriage. in all the cases it is not practical to opt out of it because there are responsibilities of kids and the couple also have their share of good moments. staying in a not so happy marriage and yet building and maintaining her self-esteem is the greatest challenge a woman faces. please give us more info on that one. thanks