All parents want their children to do well and be successful. However, pushing your children to score higher marks in every exam is not going to ensure success.
Let your child express his individuality
Latha enrolled her son, Mitesh, in tennis lessons,
but he didn't show much interest. At first she would force him to go
for the coaching class, but pretty soon she stopped pushing, and he
quit. Her daughter, Maya, then expressed interest in tennis, and Latha
enrolled her in the same classes. Maya now plays regularly, and shows
incredible talent for the sport. Mitesh, on the other hand, enjoys
music, and attends classical Indian music
lessons. He is not necessarily grooming his voice for superstardom, but
then again, he just may be very successful in this field. However, the
point is that Latha gave her children the freedom to express their individuality, and to focus their energies on hobbies that interest the children, not the parents.
Let your child find his own path. By letting your child take up an
activity he enjoys, chances are he will do much better in it than if he
were forced to attend. And by doing well, his self-confidence will
increase, and so will his motivation to do well in other areas.
Don't ignore your child's opinions
Parents often tend to ignore their children's opinions, as they feel parents
know better. When you pay attention to your child's opinions, your
child's sense of self-worth goes up. He feels that he has a right to
his opinions, and that they matter - especially when they concern him.
Of course this doesn't mean you need to give him Pepsi instead of
water! What is important is that you discuss his opinions with him and
give him a reason every time you defer instead of just ignoring him.
Create an atmosphere conducive to success
Your child doesn't have to go to the best college to be
successful, but aiming high is always advantageous. If you want your
child to be motivated enough to strive to get into an IIM, IIT or
Harvard, pushing him is not the best way to get him there. Instead,
create such an atmosphere that your child will aim high on his own
accord. Start out by enrolling him in as good a school as you can
manage, and take active interest in not just his studies, but in his
school life, friends, etc. Follow up his progress with his teachers,
and request the teacher to discuss career options with all children.
Encourage your children to speak with your friends or relatives that have graduated from top universities, and read up success stories of individuals that have made it big. If your children
regularly interact with such people, then imagining a future where they
too have gone to the same universities doesn't seem so far-fetched. On
the other hand, if they only hear of universities like Harvard through
movies, then actually going and studying there may seem like nothing
more than a distant dream.
Name:
meher
Country: india
they wont get an inferiority complex if they are young kids in school, and interact with much older kids or graduates from reputed universities!!
Name:
meher
Country: india
very true. pushing ur child wont achieve anything.
Name:
Tony s
Country: india
sometimes making them interact with kids who go to reputed universities can also give them a complex. they may feel inferior and stop any contact with them. it is rather more important to know what they really like and encourage them in that field. mostly 90% kids are confused about career options. we as parents should try and ease this confusion a little !
