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Name: Sunanda
Country: India
 Educating girls..making them career oriented...STRONG..INDEPENDENT...and NOT teaching them that marriage is the "final destination" of life...can save this society...
Name: Anonymous
Country: India
 Dear Sisters and Their Parents. First stop treating boy as ATM machine. Do not marry a boy based on salary and property. Then everything will be correct. Do not compare your salary with boy salary. Girls, Girl parents has commercial mind, In India it has become habitual for every thing, blaming boys. Day to day more biased laws are coming out against boys. But in reality every responsibility taken by boys. What respect Indian society is giving to boys.
Name: Anonymous.Liebling
Country: India
 There are sooo many people speaking their mind out on Dowry. Should it be given...Should it not be given ?? This will for some time remain un answered. Well.....Am am strictly against it my self....this DOWRY tradition has caused so many families so much of trauma and so many families have been literally destroyed due to it. But my question to all of you is.....Is it only the Boy's family which should be impersonated and levelled accuses for demanding Dowry. ??....Well Well Well.....Think again......Dowry is also given by girl's families who are Lavishly Rich. If you ask them the reason...Pat comes the reply...” We want to show the world that our daughter got married in Royalty. Tell me...Before a girl gets married...its natural for her/her family to search for a guy who is soooooo lavishly rich as well. Going by the word....they find a match who is better well off than the girl's family her self. All that the girl will enjoy after marriage in terms of financial gains.....share in husband;s property and other bebefits attached to “WEALTH” of the boy .....she literally becomes a billionaire if her desire to marry a richer boy is met and in most cases...it is. SO it is about the money mindedness of the girl as well.....isnt it ??? Would a lavishly rich girl ever marry a decent boy...earning a decent salary along with traits an honest and a dedicated man would ???........NAY..Not so.......So when your sole intention of getting married is based on the FINANCIAL PROSPERITY of the boy......Can u expect the right match.......??? We say all that glitters is not gold......do we actually apply that to our lives ??? People before finalizing a match have often said “ LADKA TOH HEERA HAI” what do they mean.....the traits of the boy or in literal sense the Diamond embedded on his crown ??? The latter obviously then why crave for materialistic benefits ??? Why not choose a guy who loves...who respects...needs nothing.....and treeats everyone with respect......may be someone who is self dependent. When you move into a cave.....the only way is RETREATING. We as humans have always craved for more and more and have been ungrateful for what we get. Because of this we have now been surrounded with false claims and unstable lives. People say that Dowry is important......wen i say people...i mean the girl's family........This is what one of the surveyers had to say wen he interviewed some girl families.... 1.When our children have encounter their events such as birthdays...we flood them with presents...we are happy that they are growing up...why not give presents to them wen they are entering into such an important phase of their life....Wedding is a massive event in one's life... so why not give presents on such an important event ?? and since the boy shall be a part of our family too......why not flood him with presents as well ?? When we have such a mentality......Can we expect the best ??? Nowadays people call Dowry as Customary gifts....Presents......and they are happy to boast about it......One fine day i heard this filthy rich man say “ I gave an AUDI A6 to my daughter......who has the balls to match me.......and we say that dowry is important ???? In India it has become Showbiz for Show offs and a matter of standard now. Am not a person who is an anti feminist but i rationally want to ask....are we moving in the right direction and a healthy society ??? This article am posting is really big as am a writer myself.....but people do spare some time to Read it. I know that this social evil has acounted for lives of soooo many women in India. The bloody greedy boys and their families have burnt the lovely “sanskaari” bahus just on the pretext of bringing insufficient or no Dowry. To Curb these practises , a very important LAW was introduced called 498A. The Law to a good extent had resolved dowry disputes and guaranteed justice to women. Its only in the Rural Areas where Dowry still exists...In Irban India...it does too but as a propaganda of Customary gifts and presents and of course a matter of STANDARD. Remember....one cannot buy happiness . To all those people who believe in an exchange of happiness upon giving dowry.......Please be rational. And now Modern India witnesses another EPIDEMIC in the form of Dowry LAW 498A misuse. The guys have stepped up and styarted to say no to Dowry......The girl's parent however...insistant as they were before.......and under the garb of 498A...these greedier people have strated to misuse this lAW to their own advantage and to satisfy their greedy desires......DO u call this retalliation ??? Does it mean that all this never ends....??? At one time India witnessed innocent Woman being harassed for insufficient/no dowry and now we see innocent men being harassed due to failed marriages under the fake veil of dowry harassment. Failed marriage is not a crime but nowadays girls specially have their noses up as they believe that they have given sufficient dowry” ....Did anyone ask you for it ??? and when they would bunge to adjust in a new family......POCKET MEIN ROCKET........and the perfect wedding present IPC 498A is abused.......tell me...is adjusting such a tough thing to do ???? am sure it aint........then why do we spoil our marriges on petty issues which are not even close to Dowry . Mind you...the amount of Women Empowerment India has witnessed is much more than the western countries. But we as Indians...we just need MORE AND MORE. I can just go on and on with statistics and stuff which may not cross our minds and stuff which may sound stupid to others. I will sign off now but....... People........... we already know that people in INDIA are the biggest consumers of everything. LETS Not Consume each other.
Name: xyz
Country: India
 When treating boy as ATM machine. If boy has property, huge salary, then only girl , girl parents accept him. So no one thinks this as unjustice. Dowry will not be given freely. Girl, Girl parents expects more from boy in terms of property, salary than girl, for that they are paying. Why girl, girl's has to expect more. Why girl's parents are not giving 50% share to their daughter. What a unjustice to boys. if girl has job, is she giving a life to boy who does not have job. Even if boy's salary less than girl salary, then girl will not accept him. I can show 98% cases.
Name: priyanka
Country: India
 i hate this dowry system.. ek toh v give u our daughter which is more imp then cash and kind.. still how in-laws can expect dowries ???
Name: anamika
Country: India
 if we ask any one, every one is say that we are against dowry system.But no one raise their voice.I want to say if we really want to delete this system, Please start it from your own house, from neighbors, from relative.May be we safe a life which is kill by dower.
Name: PRADIP
Country: India
 My daughter had an love story.her beloved is now working with state bank of india,navi mumbai,neft department...belongs from siliguri.they have met via jeevansathi.com..she loves him very much.he also used to call me "pori"(angel).but a few days ago his family told about "dahej".they wanted 4 wheeler or same cash,breslet.they told that make a registry marriage and give us balance which u have planned for marriage ceremony.told to give money as they can clear thier debt of education loan of thier daughter.my relatives can't take a part in discussion regarding marriage--it's thier condition.asked about our insurance as I LOST MY WIFE BY A ROAD ACCIDENT ...WE belong from a bengali family.we r totally against of dahej system.but we were afraid that my daughter can accept it or not.but she has broken it..bcoz she thinks it is a big crime..if we can't reduce it..it can pollute our society...i'm really feel proud for her... Till now she falls tears infront GOD..but didn't indulge the system..
Name: Yolanda
Country: U.S.A.
 Dec 24, 2011 I recently saw a documentary showing how this horrible tradition affects your nation. Life is too precious for parents to kill or dispose of their baby girls in such a manner!! How can this be allowed in a society where enlightened people supposedly live. It is time for a change. What ideas do you have for a change to take place? Should it come from the people or from the government? Why is it so hard for this traditon to be stopped. Does your God allow this, is it ok to kill and harm another human being?? I, as a person, have been affected very much by knowing that this is happening in this day and age. What can I do to help????
Name: Kalpana Sarang
Country: India
 Marriage is connecting two ppl and their family. Why dowry shud cum in between them. I really don't understand some ppl very well knew tht the girl's family is not able to give more dowry but still they will demand more. when they particular abt money, material let them go to ppl who r ready give. why they want to suck the blood of the family who r nt capable. Govt has to bring a rule that whenever they give dowry, both have to pay a higher amt of tax, then only i think we will cum to know how black money is engaged in this customs. Also whoever take loan will be fear to give dowry as many % will go by tax. unless r until they pay the tax, Govt should not allow the marriage. only in India all this nonsense happens. A man has to settle his sister(s), then only he will marry in his early 30's r 40's later on he will non-stop running to make his daughters wedding. he will not even enjoy the wealth r comfort. The hard earned money will be saved n transfered to an unknown person along with his daughter. Without any guilty he (the groom) will accept everything. Female infanticide is truly connected with this bull shit customs.
Name: Diljeet
Country: India
 Dowry system can't be removed by only girls but boys have to take step. Girls are the mother, And mother is a face of GOd. So give request to girls....Thanks
Name: ISA
Country: Turkey
 i was reading a novel and i saw the word dowry.i tried to understand this word.finally i found and read the article about dowry.i undrestood what dowry is very clearly.it is reall sad.i think only a good education can solve this problem.what i read the dowry system is a very strong custom in india.hopefully a good education is a way for all new indian people.
Name: sheetal
Country: India
 dowery system is the human being
Name: Anam khurshid rana
Country: Pakistan
 v v nice and important issue.dowry system must be removed from our society.
Name: Mirza Shaji Baig Advocate
Country: India
 group and community marriages can also help in removing this evil from the society.
Name: Mirza Shaji Baig Advocate
Country: India
 the women should concentrate on their education and career rather than regarding marriage as their only way of salvation. instead of having their parents chasing after the men of higher status, the women themselves should raise their own status, so that the men run to them, begging the women to marry them. with modernization and the increasing role of women in a productive economy, creating other ways for wives to contribute to their families` economic well being, one would expect support for the dowry system to diminish.
Name: Advocate Mirza Shaji Baig
Country: India
 during the ancient times dowry was considered as a custom in our country. the custom however became a social evil with the passage of time. this social evil has taken lives of many innocent brides for its non fulfillment. deaths of young brides through suicide or homicide following disputes over the dowry are increasingly a feature of indian society. the 18th law commission has recommended increasing the minimum sentence from 7 to 10 years in dowry death cases. it has, however, declined the suggestion to increase the maximum punishment from life imprisonment to death sentence.
Name: Swati Puri
Country: India
 very good article. i think its high time we start making our daughters equally competitive and career oriented as our sons. in india ,what i have felt is that it is not only dowry but in every social function like mundan and all ,girls parents are supposed to give gifts and other items to the inlaws and the worst is that the boy's parents think that it is their birth right. what crap!! frankly speaking, i really feel that we need to reform our society and put an end to all this nonsense.
Name: Rahul Patel
Country: India
 dowry is such a thing which shows prestige of a girl when she goes to her in laws house and because of this reason the family members of the girls house tries to give as much as possibile. if less is given to the girl then the girl has to suffer many things and is being torchered by many people.
Name: PURNIMA
Country: India
 accroding to me!dowry is the earn money by the uneducated minded pepole
Name: ansari
Country: India
 do agree.....specially in some cultures...where daughter-in-law's father is abused for every small thing like clothes not coming from daughter's place in diwali...not invited in some silly function..this should come from girl's place that should come from girl's place, a bunch of garbage that usually mothet in law talks....i really tht these kind if in laws should be dragged to public and exposed badly.....whatever be the love and affection between husband and
Name: Rizwan alam
Country: India
 this is the only society in the world that treats its women as a burden.our society thinks that the man is taking care of his wife, feeding and clothing her, so he and his family needs to be paid(compensated) in the form of dowry. but in true sense a women marries a man, takes care of him, takes care of all his needs, bears children for him, gives him his own family and still she is treated worse than an animal.
Name: Arti singh
Country: India
 friends,i have also seen many cases of dowry,i have 1 elder sister she is as a burden upon my father even she is loving of father .so we shouldn't follow such a bad custum oterwise there willn't be any differences between educated and uneducated people.
Name: Bhulan Kr. SahaAmrit shah
Country: India
 i think dowry system is a bad mentality of our country's people bcoz its always harmfull to us.
Name: ashi
Country: India
 well this damn thing should give u information on dowry.but till some limit it's ok.
Name: gaurav tiwari
Country: India
 its very very bad its harmful for our cultute and society
Name: garima
Country: India
 dowry is an social evil.and in india girls should be educated about dowry.
Name: sneha shahi
Country: India
 dowry or dahej is the payment in cash or/and kind by the bride's family to the bridegroom's family along with the giving away of the bride in indian marriage
Name: vishal Hathrasi Sharma
Country: India
 dowry system is a bed thing in indian culture. this system should avoid in indian culture.today's indian cityzen is known as that he is a thinker. in old time he called the "vishvguru".dowry system as pratha is not made this commitment.so we change the dowry system.we should avoide the dowry system in our society
Name: vishal Hathrasi Sharma
Country: India
 dowry system is a bed thing in indian culture. this system should avoid in indian culture.today's indian cityzen is known as that he is a thinker. in old time he called the "vishvguru".dowry system as pratha is not made this commitment.so we change the dowry system.we should avoide the dowry system in our society
Name: radha
Country: India
 dowry is the biggest curse for girls and and dowry system shoud be removed from our society and only girls can abolished this system from our society
Name: shailedra kumar maurya YASH
Country: India
 dowry is a insect which eat our society and after sometime when all over women will dead then whole world will also destroy beacause without women we cant imagine any thing
Name: rahul
Country: India
 yes, i agree with all
Name: rabia
Country: Pakistan
 dowary system is not good.this system is remove with help of eduction .
Name: itisha srivastava
Country: India
 i really believe dowery is really one of the greatest evil in this coutry especially in india so we should educate people to prevent this
Name: sophee
Country: India
 dowry is the women eater system
Name: SKS
Country: India
 a good topis. girls deaths of young brides through suicide or homicide following disputes over the dowry are increasingly a feature of indian society. dowry is the most persisting promblem in the indian society.
Name: anshika
Country: India
 i think to kill this evil or to delete this evil from our earth the first step is to be taken by the parents by not giving the hand of their girl in the hands of the boy whose parets and the boy himself is greedy for dowry and by giving full education to their daughters.
Name: Archita
Country: India
 nw this is our trun 2 change d peoples mentality over dowry system..thru educating ..n making people undersatnd its consequences..over young brides
Name: Anil Suhag
Country: India
 acc. to me in ancient time it was like a gift& girl side gave it happily but know it is a demand & its demand is acc. to the salary of the person.
Name: diksha
Country: India
 very good article.my mil is also very greedy woman.she always seeks gift from my family on diwali's occassions etc.she is very lalchi type of woman.she never want to give me money.i am mother of 2 yrs old baby boy but i dont have any freedom to buy things for my baby nd for me.i hate my mothe and father in law.she also never respect her mil and fil.she always says them disgusting things my father-in-law alwas her side he also dont respect his parents.i cannto take this injustice.pls suggest me what i have 2 do
Name: Diksha
Country: India
 yes friends i also agree to this system that this should be removed from our society.
Name: zoya
Country: India
 its very true i agree with this comment
Name: shahashi
Country: India
 ok good comments
Name: Dr. Insight
Country: India
 shaji, you're a m0r0n, in-br33ding leads to anomalies. apart from that these women that you so enthusiastically talk about, are inf1dels, who are br33ding machines/a chunk of money for the groom. the fact of the matter is that you can't do a thing its integrated into the society of the low3r beings. were you raised on a farm? cause you speak like a hill billie r3tard who is out to solve the worlds problems, by smok1ng pot or eating sh1t mushrooms. what sort of an advocate are you any way? on what basis are you calling yourself an advocate? your comments state the obvious rather than critically thought for solutions. not every woman can be hillary clinton, cause if they were, they'd be at least 50 at the time of marriage. and if you meant a celebrity they would have to scr3w around with any guy who can get them some star light of fame...the truth is that people like you are the problem waste their time at these forums instead of joining an activist group or giving speeches (which by the way you are incapabl3 of).
Name: Dr. Insight
Country: India
 shaji, you're a m0r0n, in-br33ding leads to anomalies. apart from that these women that you so enthusiastically talk about, are inf1dels, who are br33ding machines/a chunk of money for the groom. the fact of the matter is that you can't do a thing its integrated into the society of the low3r beings. were you raised on a farm? cause you speak like a hill billie r3tard who is out to solve the worlds problems, by smok1ng pot or eating sh1t mushrooms. what sort of an advocate are you any way? on what basis are you calling yourself an advocate? your comments state the obvious rather than critically thought for solutions. not every woman can be hillary clinton, cause if they were, they'd be at least 50 at the time of marriage. and if you meant a celebrity they would have to scr3w around with any guy who can get them some star light of fame...the truth is that people like you are the problem, who waste their time at these forums instead of joining an activist group or giving speeches (which by the way you are incapabl3 of).
Name: mahesh kanodia
Country: India
 i think dowry system is the gretest evil for our society .we are not only responsible but also our system is also responsible .only education is not a solution for this problem and it is our duty to aware to the society that whats the bad effect of dowry.only woman canot suffer from this but their parents also suffer .
Name: Arjun singh
Country: India
 dowry system is very wrong system in india. people who don't give good dowry, the parents of groom are realy do bad behave with girls. so, my thinking that remove dowry from not india but all over the world thankyou
Name: santosh kumar Student
Country: India
 hello! guyes.i am santosh,i think "a good life patner is a great dowry by herself." it has become a social evil. it should be avoid from indan sociaty. that's why, many parents don't want daughters is because of dowry.because, they'll have to give the dowry on her marriage.it's the duty of literate people to awair sociaty about this curse.thank u.
Name: vikash kumar
Country: India
 dowery system is a mejor evel of our society
Name: santosh kumar Student
Country: India
 hello! guyes.i am santosh,i think "a good life patner is a great dowry by herself." it has become a social evil. it should be avoid from indan sociaty. that's why, many parents don't want daughters is because of dowry.because, they'll have to give the dowry on her marriage.it's the duty of literate people to awair sociaty about this curse.thank u.
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