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Name: dil
Country: India
Good article.I now understood when I can bow and when I can demand infront of my ILS.But there's sure no end to DILS' misery be'coz in most of the indian families ,the husband is unsupportive or sometimes confused and helpless.

Name: in-laws:too bad to comment
Country: india
my in-laws doesnot want me to meet my parents who live quite near. with my husband, i stay in another city but when i visit them, they doesnot want me to meet my parents. my husband feels that one day visit to my parents is ok., but i wish to stay with my parents for some days and enjoy with them. my husband fears his parents and so cannot support my wishes when we are with them.i dont talk much with my in-laws coz they dont want to listen anything about my parents and they are disgusting. what to do? i have 2 small children.

Name: Just another DIL
Country: India
good article.i wish my husband could read it too.

Name: geena
Country: india
nice article would have sounded confusing earlier but things are clear after marriage how unhappy & cheated u feel once u are into it

Name: another bahu
Country: usa
this is a very good article... i also liked the "living together" article. i just wish there was a way to get these articles in husband's hands. i noticed the trend of more girls visiting this site. if this article was on times of india or ther sites frequently visited by guys that it would make them think and this article would serve the purpose :)

Name: Dias
Country: usa
this article is ok but need to focus on the general barriers between in-laws and daughter-in-law.and need to elaborate the solutions sometimes only son can solve...like understanding concerns from both sides and not only with parents or wife.and narrate on how guys can make the home like heaven with their decent and matured behaviour...because sometimes guys spoil relations by showing partiality to parents which makes wife feel left alone,and thus that girl cant feel comfort with him or his family.the best solution a guy can make is avoiding complaints made by parents against wife's parents (his inlaws).and stop doubting at only oneside. because ,as per my belief ...in this generation ,girls r matured and willing to maintain good terms with in-laws,though ,in many cases they r not fair-minded towards her

Name: Oh God
Country: usa
in indian families,no matter how educated they r, they still have the same expectations from daughter in laws as in the 18th century. mother in laws feel like after their son's marriage they have to share their son with another person but they forget that , that another person has the same relation with their son as thay have with their husbands. a husband & wife can be the truest & best friends with each other. the friction arises b/w mil and dil when both of them r trying to impose all attention and wishes on one person. it is seen that as soon as son gets married mothers become more sensitive to that son and go all lovey dovey on him.but dil thinks that she is interfering with their lives by doing this. they may both be correct in their own way. it atlast depends on son how he handles the situation.

Name: xmasnoelle
Country: U.S.A.
this article is just ok, there are topics i agree with and others i do not. in 2004 my husband and i went to live with my in laws, it was a living hell. i was talked into living with a women; that while my husband and i were dating did some down right mean things to me, such as reporting me and my husband (boyfriend at the time) to the department of children services, telling them that we were molesting my oldest son (from a prior relasonship) it was found of course that she was just lying to get me out of the piucture. then right after we were married, my husband joined the military and while he was in basic training she sent him a letter, she told him that she had recived a letter from the health department stating that i had been cheating on him and i had given several men aids, which of course again is not true and i don't even have aids. it was just scary the leangths this women would go to, to hurt me and try to break her son and i apart. well we didn't live there for more then a few months, i couldn't take her riticule anymore. on october 1, 2006 she died of cancer, yes i feel bad, and i am so sorry she had to pass in such a horrible way, but god forgive me? i feel a burden lifted like she can't hurt me again. we have now come back to live with my father in law and help him deal with his loss, yes it is hard and i get frustrated with him, for the butting in he does when it comes to the way i am raising my children, but i am not walking on egg shells this time around. i wish he would just leave my kids alone, especially my 2 year old, but i just keep telling myself he just doesn't understasnd small children and it is won't be long before i fininsh school and get a good job so we can get back on our feet. we are still struggling from the last time we lived with them, we lost everything, i mean everything, we are just now after 2 1/2 years starting to catch up, my mother in law told use to sell everything the 1st time we moved in with them, so we did, she claimed we would not need anything. wrong. anyway i wasn't going to let that happen again. so it took alot of careful thought before i would move in again. now that we have i am kind of glad we did, we are able to save money now. i just hope that we can someday get a house of our own. well sorry for rambling on and on sometimes it just feels good to vent. thank you to all for taking the time to read. take care and god bless

Name: Sonialika
Country: Macedonia
omg this sound like some constitution like the in-laws charter

Name: yo yo
Country: Indonesia
i hv aproblem that my mil says to me to take rest and no need yo wake up early in the morning and she will prepare the breakfast but when i do not get up then she talks ill about me to others in my absence.what should i do

Name: yogita
Country: India
my mil shows to everyone that how caring she is but actually she talks bad about me in front of my neighbours in my absence.it is very difficult to bear this &when i tell it to my husband he shows to be on my side but he loves his mother by heart and ultimately finds faults in me to protect his mother and i feel helpless at that time. what to do

Name: Aarhiman
Country: India
i hope this gets added to the constitution of india

Name: Meera
Country: India
the only stagnant thing that prevents any women from self-development is the mil/sil vs dil issue. how much can a dil like me bear everying like a slave from the day 1 of marriage till date? why shouldnt the other women understand others of the same gender and treat dils/sils as their own d's/s's? well, in fact i'm afraid to pen down my thoughts in case my sil gets to read this page by accident!!!???!!!

Name: my evil in laws...
Country: usa
this is a good article for some in laws. but, mine are down right just evil! i prefer they fall off the face of this planet. they cause lots of problems between my husband and i.

Name: in-laws
Country: philippines
how to cope with the in-laws

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