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Name: vishesh shrivstava
Country: India
Much needed article for any parent. Planning on dicussing these tips at our parent teacher interactions in my daughter's school - Orchids International. This would help every parent in dealing with their children when they tend to be argumentative.

Name: Lidia
Country: Belgium
Argumentative children turn violent at times to prove their point..which is not good

Name: BrainSketch Solutions
Country: India
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Name: Uma
Country: India
My daughter is 4.5years and she wants explanation for everything i ask her to do. So usually i will ask her to do what i said first, and then she can have the explanation. Her fav. line is Why i have to do so ? But an explanation usaully gets the thing done so i dont really mind. Think she is just buying time to make herself ready to do the task

Name: neeharika
Country: India
child imitates wht is shown 2 him, though sumtimes dey act unsocially bt den tht is d difference betn a child n grown-up...ven v argue wth dem v show dem d ways 2 do it wth us....v ve 2 control r emotions n go down up 2 their level rather den asking dem 2 cum up 2 r mind-set..i strongly believe tht proper care within d early 3-4 years decide d nature n behaviour of d child.

Name: milan
Country: India
education should help children how to respect parents and people arround but it does not happen in thier life.

Name: Rekha
Country: India
children, speacially when they step in their teens argue a lot.

Name: milan
Country: India
children are just children, they're innocent

Name: mohamed belfedhal
Country: Canada
gibran khalil said once:"your children are not your children. they are presents from god."

Name: quilter501953
Country: USA
i have two teenage boys who are extremely arguementive can't get them to stop i've tried everything. i know that they are adhd, but this is not part of it. any ideas?

Name: Caboodelsnu the clown
Country: USA
i should also mention that i am a christian, and in my belief, a child is a great treasure. i share your thoughts for the lives of our youth

Name: Caboodelsnu the clown
Country: USA
the lives of children are very precious. in loving your child, you should think first of love, and then take care of the rest later. it does'nt hurt being a kid sometimes, and clowning around on your child's good days can give them a much needed laugh or two. it is most important to remember that as blessings from god, your children deserve all the love you can give.

Name: Zora
Country: Canada
at home my son has always been able to state his case with me. we have a fair debate--he's quite good at stating his case. now at school he wishes to do the same with his teachers and they don't seem to appreciate it as much. what do we do when others aren't accepting of a child stating his opinions?

Name: Seema
Country: Canada
since my oldest is now getting more independent he has taken up arguing with mom. when it's time to change his diapers i will say to him, "ok lets go change your pants". instead of being a willing participant to the whole process he would rather fuss and whine instead, often vocalizing his displeasure over the impending diaper change. in an attempt to curb his resistance i have started to just pick him up from what he is doing and as i carry him off to the bathroom or bedroom to be changed, i begin actually changing him by tugging down his rubber pants to let him know that mommy is serious. i think in my own mind this sends a message to him that irregardless of how he acts mommy is going to change his diaper and rubber pants no matter what. it's strict but in a gentle kind of way.

Name: toufik gherbi
Country: Other
vivre c'est survivre a un enfant mort et qui fut nous

Name: CM
Country: usa
this is crap. what parents say is gospel.

Name: Sarah
Country: usa
toufik gherbi : have no idea what you just said. caboodelsnu the clown : a nice, but pointless and unhelpful message to someone who is really having problems with their children. seema : good job. be forewarned, however, he may fight harder a battle with you on it. i doubt you've won the war yet. zora : if the teacher is truly wrong on a point he may argue a bit, but has a problem with it, the child just needs to drop the subject. explain to your child that there's a time and place for argument. he needs to understand that sometimes you just need to agree to disagree. quilter501953 : yeah, here's an idea...stay out of it and let them argue it out. they both need to fight their own battles without you intervening. milan: "innocent" children? you don't have kids, do you? rekha : yes, it's normal for kids to argue in their teen years. there's all kinds of things going on in their bodies that they can't control.

Name: ABCD
Country: India
hi, i was looking for more details because the kind of daughter(age 10) i have is extremely argumentative for each and everything..and also revolting.for e.g. if i say sit sh'll stand and if i say stand sh'll sit.its more difficult when she doesn't listen to anything(even the normal things).i see that she obeys her dad better than me which makes me more upset.i really am confused and stressed finding a way out.what do you do when your child is not co-operating with you the entire day(i really mean the entire day and daily routines which is usually done with your kids)?please some body give me suggestions which will really work.i try to be polite at first,then argue and then finally i have to yell.i try to also be freindly with her.she continues to argue even with her teacher who comes to help with her home work.

Name: upset
Country: U.S.A.
that was the biggest load of crap i have ever read..you cannot "reason" with a child..maybe a teenager, but not somone who has not developed a rational mind. opinions from children are based on their likes, not what needs to be done..and, when a child is yelling at their parents, teachers, etc. they have exhibited that they don't know their social boundaries. i totally disagree with the whole article. the only part that was close was the part that you don't need to scold, punish without explaining your point, or whatever..but, under no circumstances should a 5 year old be allowed to backtalk, or make demands of their parents. articles like this one are exactly why we have a generation of people with no respect for authority... people with no sense of what is acceptable in society..people that shoot their little brothers for hogging the nintendo..people who wear hats in restaurants, assault flight attendants, and throw fits on planes..and, parents who let them.!! i am gonna stop now before i go ballistic and quit my job to live under a bridge somewhere...

Name: Mom of 6
Country: U.S.A.
i have 6 kids,2 of which have given me a run for my money.they are very agrumenative, very disrespectful.i too am not necessarily sure i agree with what this article teaches.children while young should be taught obedience, as they get older, should be encouraged to express thoughts and feelings with respect for authority.it is never alright to allow a child to talk to anyone with disrespect.having said that, it does not change the fact that our kids feel the need to do so.the real question is where to draw the line and say enough is enough.it has to stop, and it is stopping right now and then finding ways to inforce it in a way that does not make the problem worse.a child who argues the sky is grey when it is clearly blue is arguing to hear himself make noise.i think that kids who do this have low self esteem,and they feel that this is the only way they are going to get much needed attention.my fear with my own kids is long term.if this problem is not resolved,what kind of employee or spouse are they going to be.i would like to see them happy, but it seems as if they are just never happy despite our attempts to please them. time out seems to be where they are most of the time.i have run out of ideas,anyone else have any suggestions??

Name: hammoustein
Country: Algeria
-i was just a child and now i'm only a man. -....manish boy.....boyish man. -"my son ask for thyself another kingdom for that which i leave is too small for thee".

Name: CDW
Country: U.S.A.
i have 2 children, the youngest being challenging on arguments since an early age. he is now 14. his arguments evolve on any subject on any level. he is both argumentative and disrepectful in his words. he sees nothing wrong with the behavior. his mother and i are exhausted after years of research and trying new approaches to deal effectively with the behavior, without much success. it seems to be getting worse with age. we have little trust that he will follow even the simplest direction without our direct oversight. it is getting a little scary with him now getting older and the need for self direction and control. we understand we need to be the parents in this matter. i do not believe your approach will be effective. we have tried this with certain aspects of his endeavors and he has failed miserably; resulting in even larger more looming problems. i believe the way to deal with him even though exhastive, will be for him to understand we are the parents and he is the kid. when he realizes that we know much more than him, things will begin to change. i do agree that matters need to be addressed with diplomacy and lacking of the frustrated emotions.

Name: gherbi fethi
Country: Algeria
ils sont tous très mignons mais ils nous font parfois tourner en rond. ici la vérité sort de la bouche des parents !

Name: hammoustein
Country: Algeria
-i was just a child and now i'm only a man. -....manish boy.....boyish man. -"my son ask for thyself another kingdom for that which i leave is too small for thee".

Name: hammoustein
Country: Algeria
-i was just a child and now i'm only a man. -....manish boy.....boyish man. -"my son ask for thyself another kingdom for that which i leave is too small for thee".

Name: zohra belfedhal
Country: Algeria
i'm 13 years i want to have arelation with all the children of the world ilike the peace,the life,i speak in french english arabic and i write short stories,my father is ateacher of english my mother is a teacher of pyysics

Name: tahar
Country: Algeria
i want to say to mr med belfedhal in canada;please visit us in summer tahar ain dzarir

Name: zohra belfedhal
Country: Algeria
i'm very happy to write this article to all the children of the world because i like them

Name: kader
Country: India
"those who have kids and those who haven't,are laughing at each other" kid well grown an' educated should bring joice and prosperity!!!

Name: BELFEDHAL TAHAR
Country: Algeria
(children were born in order to live in peace)they are not exoploited by adults,a child has the right to read to eat to educate children organisation is not a just a slogan

Name: kader
Country: India
"those who have kids and those who haven't,are laughing at each other" kid well grown an' educated should bring joice and prosperity!!!

Name: phergie
Country: U.S.A.
my adoptive daughter just turned 7. i have timed her from "good morning" to the first argument. usually averages about ten minutes! i have never liked arguments and find myself giving in. it gets to the point where i don't even want her in my sight. recently she wanted to put on her bathing suit and play with the garden hose....it was 55 degrees and windy out. she threw a major fit over it. i really think that if everyone knew how hard raising kids can be that we would have ceased to exist as a species!

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