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hi frnds, i m a new member of this forum, and seeking help, i m married with two daughters, my prblm is i get hurt easily, i give very respect to others and never try to hurt anyone but others, in frnds and in neighbourhood people unnecessery comment personely, i dnt know how to react, mujhe bahut bura lagta hai, per us samay bhi main uske barein main sochti hoon ki mujhe kuch galat nahi kehna hai jo use bura lage, or neigbour frnds kuch bhi mujhe keh dete hai, some time i feel why with me every time, or why i didnt react that time, i dnt know how to react, why people r so sarcastic and comment so personely, they dnt even think about others, ask replied. you are in a good position my friend, not being reactive is a sign of positiveness in you. so keep this up dont react to those comments, just be yourself and also you dont feel bad that why only you have to hear that. well those persons who comments you they themselves are not happy with their life, and they are jealous from you and so they comments you, you going in a good way friend, so keep going. Mel replied. You know what... what you do is fine. You dont answer or comment back. Because of that, your conscience is clear. So continue doing that. The ONLY mistake you make is feeling bad about what they say. Next time someone says something personal, just say, No problem... whatever makes you happy... and walk away from there. And more importantly... ask yourself who is important to you... your family members. Take their words seriously. For everyone else... dont let their words affect you.

How can someone elses comment decide how you feel about yourself ??

You are kind, you are good. You dont comment about others. And that is the most beautiful thing.

Develop thick skin to outsiders and be happy with yourself. Sometimes people who make nasty comments because they themselves are complexed, or jealous, or angry at their own lives, or bitter.

So, just feel sorry for them... and move on.