Name: K.Radha

*Write a letter or poem to your baby. Share you heartache and sorrow as well as your dreams of heaven.

* Make a memory box for your baby. Tuck any special mementos, letters, gifts, or cards in the box. Add items whenever you would like. (For example: festivals, due date, Mother' s Day, anniversary of his or her death.) Look through the box alone or with others to rekindle the memories of your baby.

*Erect a cross or statue or plant a tree, bush or bulbs in your garden in memory of your baby.

*For your baby' s birthday, consider having a small birthday cake. Tie notes or pictures to helium balloons and then release them into the sky. (our children look forward to this especially and have drawn lovely pictures to send to their sister… Also because my oldest child shares a birthday with Ishani his birthday cake has a small cup cake on top especially for her)

* For any gift-giving holiday, purchase a gift in memory of your child. Make it personal by choosing a gift according to the sex and age that your child would be, had he or she not have died. Wrap your gift and then bless a needy child in memory of your baby.

* When you are ready, consider organizing a small memorial garden at your church or temple in memory of all the children who have died from miscarriage, stillbirth, or early infant death.

* Choose an ornament in memory of your baby, possibly engraved or personalized with his or her name and birth date.

* Purchase or have someone make a rag doll in memory of your baby. You can use your maternity clothing, or clothing that you had purchased for your baby. (clothing, blankets) Include the doll in family photos if you wish.

* Stitch a nursery sampler for your baby, or make a quilt. Use scraps from your maternity clothes and your baby' s clothing or blankets.

* Press a flower from your garden or flower shop reflecting the season your baby died. Tuck it in a keepsake box or make it into a bookmark for your Bible or another special book.

* Put together a scrapbook. Include ultrasound photos, baby shower photos, and all other information pertaining to your pregnancy. Journal in this scrapbook. (make sure you use quality products, so that you \" preserve\" these memories.)

*Start a collection of figurines for you baby, starting with his birth. (we have chosen angels for Ishani ) Add a figurine for each birthday and/or special occasions.

*Buy fresh flowers for your home to enjoy while remembering your baby. (Ishani was cremated, I keep a vase a fresh flowers beside her ashes)

*Make a scrap book that contains any or all of the following items:
- pictures
- cards
- hospital bracelet(s)
- birth/death certificate
- poetry

*Create or buy a special frame for your baby' s picture(s) or birth certificate. (We have a silver frame with Ishani’s name engraved and a beautiful photo of her)

*Buy a Birthstone Babies necklace, Mother' s Ring, Angel pin, or other appropriate jewellery.

*Contribute to your local church, temple, school, library, or favourite charity in your baby' s name.

*Donate a children' s or pregnancy loss book to your local library or give one to your local hospital for the next couple who suffers a child loss

*Visit the cemetery and take some flowers or a plant with a small toy to leave there.

*Reach out to others who have lost a baby to share your experiences. (I swear this is an EXCELLENT way to continually honour your child and you can make some great friendships with people who can also know in their heart what each other has been through)

*Buy a special reminder of your baby for your work space. (Both my hubby and I have photos of Ishani in our cars and on my desk at work I keep a small angel figuring)

*Get a special candle to light each year on your babies birthday

*Consider sponsoring a less fortunate child (we’ve a sponsor child in Ghana named Hadii, he’s a gorgeous child and its surprising how good it makes us feel knowing that money we would have spent on Ishani’s upbringing is now helping a child in real need)

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