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Hair Care:my kadhu kuthal
2012-01-03
Name: arun hi
i m arun i am 13 yrs and i study in 7th grade.recently my mother took me to an astrolger,instantly she(the astrologer)
spotted that my ears were not pierced.she told that it is a must.i have an elder sister,archana and according to my
caste rules the elder sister has to perform the ceremony.my sis told that since i was going to look a bit feminine with earrings
hanging from my lobes,it is better by completing the look and look fully like a girl,ie wearing other jewels like bangles,
wearing feminine dress and having long hair.though i was a bit reluctant,i agreed and my sister promised me that she ll join me
in a all girls school.i have some doubts:-

1)i am planning to have mid length hair,what sort of hairstyle will suit me.personally i like a bob cut or pony tail with fringe that is some hairstyle that is very girlish.

2)what sort of earring should i wear? my sis told no studs.i like a bangle type earring is it ok to wear that or
should be traditional jhumkas and ear drops?

3)for how much time should i wear earrings?

4)what sort of dress should(must be feminine) i wear?

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2012-11-05
#1
Name: narayan
Subject:  sad
dear swetha, it' s been a long time since we heard from you. what' s wrong? why has it been so long for you to tell us your experience? we are all eagerly waiting for your story...
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2012-06-04
#2
Name: aditi
Subject:  pt 2
swetha dear,
where is part 2?? we are all waiting...
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2012-06-05
#3
Name: aditi
Subject:  sisters
you have one very strict elder sister,i must say..
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2012-06-05
#4
Name: swetha
Subject:  pl wait
dear aditi
my sister us not allowing me to use her laptop ,so it is taking time,i ll post it shortly
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2012-06-03
#5
Name: aditi
Subject:  silly boy
haha anirudha you have got some silly doubts which make no sense at all.ofcourse a person who goes all the way to completely feminize her little brother would also potty train him in how girls use the bathroom.the various purpose of the boy being girlish is to make him more girly etc,so your doubts are invalid and foolish!
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2012-06-02
#6
Name: akshara
Subject:  boys being nude
dear anirudha
ya the boy on whom the ceremony is performed has to be without any clothes ie nude,though some ceremonies(like upanayanam) might allow the boy to be in a loincloth.there are lot of reasons for this emphasis on the boy being naked.

during the headshave,as a lot of hair falls,it would make the clothes unwearable and there would be no washing facility.also the hair which falls is considered to be unholy and hence if the boy is naked ,the fallen hair can be washed off his body when he is given a bath after the ceremony.another reason is that tonsure takes place in the open and due to the heat,the boy will definitely be comfortable without clothes.so these are the reasons for boys being tonsured without clothes

for the ear piercing,the boy is expected to be in a ' pure' state ie,physically pure in the natural state,which is being naked.it also promotes mental purity and being one with the nature.it also marks the transition of the boy into a more feminine state,and as narayan said the boy is usually adorned with other ornaments as well to complete the transition
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2012-06-02
#7
Name: akshara
Subject:  depends
thats an interesting question,but as i have not personally performed this ceremony on my brother or anyone ,i do not know.the person who performs the ceremony has to decide these things.my nephew ,who has been feminized goes to girls toilet.ofcourse he behaves like a girl only..
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2012-06-02
#8
Name: anirudha
Subject:  ceremony
its ok i understand wat bout his toilet
will he go to ladies for all these years
wat his socail life will he behave like women.
how u tret him as women
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2012-05-26
#9
Name: akshara
Subject:  nice experience
dear swetha(arun)
the ceremony performed on you,ie mottai and kadu kuthal is very common and it is usually accompanied with feminisation of the boy on whom the ceremony is performed.usually the boy is made to grow long hair for approximately a year or so and wear feminine clothing for that period.then during the ceremony his head is shorn,ears pierced and he is made to wear earrings.the type of earrings,duration of wearing them is flexible.the second type of feminisation occurs after the ceremony where the boy who is tonsured and is made to earrings is made to grow long hair,wear other jewelleries like bangles,anklets and dress in girlish clothes.also this type of feminisation is rarer and the duration is much more longer.my relatives practise this form the ceremony,and my nephew,had to undergo it.the ceremony was performed on him when he was six and right after the ceremony his feminisation started.he was made to grow long hair,wear only girls clothes and jewels.3 years later and he is totally feminine!his name is nisha and he believes that he really is a girl,and he also looks like a girl only,even in school he is admitted as a girl.his mother is planning to keep him this till he is atleast 13 or 14.so that means he will be feminine for 7 years.thats really a long time but nisha is very very comfortable in his new form ,so comfortable he does not want to be a boy again.so i hope you also will enjoy your experience and understand the true purpose of your feminisation or for that matter ,feminisation of any boy is to make him respect females and feminine character.
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2012-05-30
#10
Name: narayan
Subject:  ceremony
yes, the boy should be nude during the shave & piercing. he is nude during the head shave because it gives the position of being in a pure state (like when he was born). & this also shows his whole self to his family, relatives & friends.

during the piercing he is nude because he is like a new born baby & u are now going to give him an identity during the ear & nose piercing, which means u are now putting him in the role of a female. that is why after the piercings, he is dressed up in female clothes & female ornaments such as gimmiki, bangles & anklets.

i have heard this being done to boys up to 15/16 years old.
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2012-05-28
#11
Name: anirudha
Subject:  ceremony
in some messages it says during shave they boy will be nude. is that true
and even during nose percing
why so wat is his age.
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2012-05-28
#12
Name: akshara
Subject:  wut??
dear,i dont understand your question??
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2012-05-26
#13
Name: anirudha
Subject:  photos
can u post his shaving photos
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2012-05-26
#14
Name: anirudha
Subject:  ceremony
during i mean wen he is shaved will he be nude. thats ok
why he be nude during nose pearcing
ok after cermony he will be girl for 3 years
then how u think ok him will as girl
he will be in girls school
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2012-05-17
#15
Name: saiprasuna
Subject:  i have some qtns
i am planning the same to my brother too but only in his summer holidays.
are you going to be a girl for whole the year?
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2012-05-19
#16
Name: arun
Subject:  sister has to decide..
hi saiprasuna
my sister archana has total control over everything.so she has to decide for how many years i have to be feminine.since she is my elder sister, i have no say and she has all the power.when i asked her how long i have to be like this,she told that till whenever she feels like she will keep me as a girl!so i think atleast 2 to 3 years..
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2012-05-10
#17
Name: senthil
Subject:  Reg: kathu kuthal
hi arum @ swetha...
am glad and hope u enjoyed your ceremony...
for your information i also in the same situation till now from my age of 13...
i got my ears pierced at the age of 13 and nose to be pierced in 15....till now i wear long gold jhumkha earring with diamond stones and hoop nose ring....even to my college also i wear the same earring...and for my each birthday i got a newer earring from my sister....i have all type of earrings..studs, chandelier,hoop, dangling earring , heavy weight and light weight....also i used to wear chudi at home and salwar to colleges....and last year only i got my second ear to be pierced with medium sized jhumkha gold earring...they both look good....
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2012-05-28
#18
Name: anirudha
Subject:  femization
i agree he is now girl ok wat about toilet traing will he go to boys or ladies
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2012-05-06
#19
Name: sanjana
Subject:  wow
dear arun
thnx for posting your experiences,i am impressed,your sister is almost professional!.you are lucky indeed.post the second part fast!
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2012-05-10
#20
Name: senthil
Subject:  re kathu kuthal
sanjana...i appreciate your support for arun as my sister did for me
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