Hi,
I am 31 Years old and My wife is 28 years old. We have 2 daughters of 3yrs and 1 months old. Currently we are in US, when we came to know our 2nd baby gender my wife got very much disappointed because she want a baby boy. So she was suggestig to have 3 baby, but I convinced her saying in india educated people like us wont prepare to have 3 baby.. and if we have.. the society will look us like different.. and we both are happy having 2 daughter. She some what accepted, but all my friends circle have a boy baby so she is siliently feeling bad that she is not having a boy.
Our both baby born normal delivery without any issues, so even our parents suggesting to go for 3rd. In this situation I am confused. Shall I go for a third, If I have a 3rd baby will Indian people looks me as alien or un-educated person? I see some people are with only one baby and if I go for 3 what they will think?
Financially I can manage with 3 kids, but still what is holding me to go for this decision? Please help me to get out of this stress with your suggestions.
FYI, We are ready accept if the 3rd baby is girl.
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Hi,
I am 31 Years old and My wife is 28 years old. We have 2 daughters of 3yrs and 1 months old. Currently we are in US, when we came to know our 2nd baby gender my wife got very much disappointed because she want a baby boy. So she was suggestig to have 3 baby, but I convinced her saying in india educated people like us wont prepare to have 3 baby.. and if we have.. the society will look us like different.. and we both are happy having 2 daughter. She some what accepted, but all my friends circle have a boy baby so she is siliently feeling bad that she is not having a boy.
Our both baby born normal delivery without any issues, so even our parents suggesting to go for 3rd. In this situation I am confused. Shall I go for a third, If I have a 3rd baby will Indian people looks me as alien or un-educated person? I see some people are with only one baby and if I go for 3 what they will think?
Financially I can manage with 3 kids, but still what is holding me to go for this decision? Please help me to get out of this stress with your suggestions.
FYI, We are ready accept if the 3rd baby is girl.
Lucy replied. Hey, hope you are doing well. I am surprised to see that you care for people still. You live in US. Is not it enough that you have already made a change in your life. You have moved to abroad for your betterment. why don't you think about the bettermernt of your thoughts? you know you are blessed that you are struuggling for babies. I am an infertile. And only i know how blessed you are. Please don't bother what people think por say about you. you re living your own life. Not others life. So grow up and be like a man. Only you know better what is right for you and what is wrong for you. And moreover kids are blessing. Don't bother and do what is best for you. And do pray for me as well. I am planning for my surrogacy. Wish me luck! I hope it works for me.
Deena replied. Hi dear sad to say that you are still having the old thoughts and still having the negative of having a girl child and even your wife is having the same thoughts as well. Please change your attitude towards your kids and start treating them as boys.
Raju replied. Hello dear this is really weird thought and you should not think about what people will think as its your family and you should take the decisions with your wife and not think so much, please be very sure what you guys really want in future.
Reshma replied. Hello dear first of all let me tell you that you have an orthodox mind and you really need to change this on immediate basis and also if you have two girl child then whats the harm in it as girls are as equal to boys and they are now even better then them.
Ranjana replied. Hi there this is really good to see that you are really thinking so much about your family and that makes it perfect for an ideal husband and also the way you love your wife is simply perfect, god bless you with all of happiness and joy in future.
Rajesh replied. Hello my friend you are completely on wrong track, first of all if you are looking to have a third child then you should not be thinking about what will the society or other people will think of you and the second is that you should not think that only a boy child can complete your family as girl child is also equal to boys nowadays.
Shreeja replied. Hi there if you want to have a third child and that too a boy then please go for adoption as this is the only safest method where you can one, also according to me you should not think about the society as they are no one to interfere in your family decisions.
Sarita replied. Hello dear this is not done at all, please do not feel bad and dont take in wrong manner but then you are making comparison between girl and boy. As we are living in 20th century and you should not think in the way you have mentioned, rest is your wish.
Shikha replied. Hello dear this is good and see in a broader way as this is not a full surety that having third will be a boy, if you guys really want a baby boy then please for adoption and in this way you can have a boy in your family. All the best dear and my best wishes are with you.
Seema replied. Hi dear your thoughts are really touchy and you should not feel bad at all as nowadays girl child are as equal as boy child so please do not compare this at all and also make your wife also understand the same thing please i hope will understand this.
Suman replied. Is there any conformation that if you try for the third child then it will be a baby boy as its not in your hands, please do not go for third time as you are not sure that you will be blessed with a baby boy, think twice on this and then take a decision.
Sujata replied. What suggestions you require on this as its your call on it if you guys can manage having three kids then you should go on this, please do not bother at all what will the society will think as its nobodys thing to decide what you guys should do on in it.
Ankita replied. Hi dear good to see that you are thinking so much and also being concern about the society but then you should not think so much and your wife and you should take a decision on it, please do not feel bad but then nowadays girl child is also equal to boys.
Aditi replied. Hi dear this is very sad to see that you are living in states and having such small thinking as if you are comparing girl child vs boy child, please stop this attitude and even your wife should not think of such things as then you will stop loving your kids.
Anushree replied. Hello dear this is good to see that you are so much concern for your wife and thinking so much about her and wanting to give her all the happiness just be positive and go for the third child as i am sure this time you will be blessed with a baby boy.
Anu replied. Hi dear this is very common thing in india of having more than three children and its not considered as wrong or no one will look at you as if you are uneducated please stop over thinking and just concentrate what your wife and feel good is for your family.
Anita replied. According to me you should no feel bad at all as this is not the case to think so much and its totally your call and your wife should be agreeing on this, if your wife is really looking for a baby boy then what is the guarantee that the third child will also be boy it can be a girl child also.
Anaida replied. Hi nirmal this is really good to see that you have two daughters and you should not worry of having the third child as this is not treated as un educated in any way, please its your decision and you and your wife has to take this decision together do not worry about the society.
Tanuja replied. According to me you should not plan the third child as you will face lot of problems in upbringing them and one must not do more than two kids rest is your wish as you said you can afford the third so please go ahead.
Tulika replied. Hi Nirmal what a question this is, do you plan your other two kids also by consulting the society, this is really weird i mean why do you need to approval of society for the same as they are no one to bother you.
2018-08-12
#1
Name: Lucy Subject: RE:Planning to have 3rd baby
Hey, hope you are doing well. I am surprised to see that you care for people still. You live in US. Is not it enough that you have already made a change in your life. You have moved to abroad for your betterment. why don't you think about the bettermernt of your thoughts? you know you are blessed that you are struuggling for babies. I am an infertile. And only i know how blessed you are. Please don't bother what people think por say about you. you re living your own life. Not others life. So grow up and be like a man. Only you know better what is right for you and what is wrong for you. And moreover kids are blessing. Don't bother and do what is best for you. And do pray for me as well. I am planning for my surrogacy. Wish me luck! I hope it works for me.
2017-08-13
#2
Name: Deena Subject: RE:Planning to have 3rd baby
Hi dear sad to say that you are still having the old thoughts and still having the negative of having a girl child and even your wife is having the same thoughts as well. Please change your attitude towards your kids and start treating them as boys.
2017-08-13
#3
Name: Raju Subject: RE:Planning to have 3rd baby
Hello dear this is really weird thought and you should not think about what people will think as its your family and you should take the decisions with your wife and not think so much, please be very sure what you guys really want in future.
2017-08-13
#4
Name: Reshma Subject: RE:Planning to have 3rd baby
Hello dear first of all let me tell you that you have an orthodox mind and you really need to change this on immediate basis and also if you have two girl child then whats the harm in it as girls are as equal to boys and they are now even better then them.
2017-08-13
#5
Name: Ranjana Subject: RE:Planning to have 3rd baby
Hi there this is really good to see that you are really thinking so much about your family and that makes it perfect for an ideal husband and also the way you love your wife is simply perfect, god bless you with all of happiness and joy in future.
2017-08-13
#6
Name: Rajesh Subject: RE:Planning to have 3rd baby
Hello my friend you are completely on wrong track, first of all if you are looking to have a third child then you should not be thinking about what will the society or other people will think of you and the second is that you should not think that only a boy child can complete your family as girl child is also equal to boys nowadays.
2017-08-13
#7
Name: Shreeja Subject: RE:Planning to have 3rd baby
Hi there if you want to have a third child and that too a boy then please go for adoption as this is the only safest method where you can one, also according to me you should not think about the society as they are no one to interfere in your family decisions.
2017-08-13
#8
Name: Sarita Subject: RE:Planning to have 3rd baby
Hello dear this is not done at all, please do not feel bad and dont take in wrong manner but then you are making comparison between girl and boy. As we are living in 20th century and you should not think in the way you have mentioned, rest is your wish.
2017-08-13
#9
Name: Shikha Subject: RE:Planning to have 3rd baby
Hello dear this is good and see in a broader way as this is not a full surety that having third will be a boy, if you guys really want a baby boy then please for adoption and in this way you can have a boy in your family. All the best dear and my best wishes are with you.
2017-08-13
#10
Name: Seema Subject: RE:Planning to have 3rd baby
Hi dear your thoughts are really touchy and you should not feel bad at all as nowadays girl child are as equal as boy child so please do not compare this at all and also make your wife also understand the same thing please i hope will understand this.
2017-08-13
#11
Name: Suman Subject: RE:Planning to have 3rd baby
Is there any conformation that if you try for the third child then it will be a baby boy as its not in your hands, please do not go for third time as you are not sure that you will be blessed with a baby boy, think twice on this and then take a decision.
2017-08-13
#12
Name: Sujata Subject: RE:Planning to have 3rd baby
What suggestions you require on this as its your call on it if you guys can manage having three kids then you should go on this, please do not bother at all what will the society will think as its nobodys thing to decide what you guys should do on in it.
2017-08-13
#13
Name: Ankita Subject: RE:Planning to have 3rd baby
Hi dear good to see that you are thinking so much and also being concern about the society but then you should not think so much and your wife and you should take a decision on it, please do not feel bad but then nowadays girl child is also equal to boys.
2017-08-13
#14
Name: Aditi Subject: RE:Planning to have 3rd baby
Hi dear this is very sad to see that you are living in states and having such small thinking as if you are comparing girl child vs boy child, please stop this attitude and even your wife should not think of such things as then you will stop loving your kids.
2017-08-13
#15
Name: Anushree Subject: RE:Planning to have 3rd baby
Hello dear this is good to see that you are so much concern for your wife and thinking so much about her and wanting to give her all the happiness just be positive and go for the third child as i am sure this time you will be blessed with a baby boy.
2017-08-13
#16
Name: Anu Subject: RE:Planning to have 3rd baby
Hi dear this is very common thing in india of having more than three children and its not considered as wrong or no one will look at you as if you are uneducated please stop over thinking and just concentrate what your wife and feel good is for your family.
2017-08-13
#17
Name: Anita Subject: RE:Planning to have 3rd baby
According to me you should no feel bad at all as this is not the case to think so much and its totally your call and your wife should be agreeing on this, if your wife is really looking for a baby boy then what is the guarantee that the third child will also be boy it can be a girl child also.
2017-08-13
#18
Name: Anaida Subject: RE:Planning to have 3rd baby
Hi nirmal this is really good to see that you have two daughters and you should not worry of having the third child as this is not treated as un educated in any way, please its your decision and you and your wife has to take this decision together do not worry about the society.
2017-04-13
#19
Name: Tanuja Subject: RE:Planning to have 3rd baby
According to me you should not plan the third child as you will face lot of problems in upbringing them and one must not do more than two kids rest is your wish as you said you can afford the third so please go ahead.
2017-04-13
#20
Name: Tulika Subject: RE:Planning to have 3rd baby
Hi Nirmal what a question this is, do you plan your other two kids also by consulting the society, this is really weird i mean why do you need to approval of society for the same as they are no one to bother you.
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