I myself is from a very good family. I am married 8 years back to a very very good human being. It was love marriage i was loving him for more than 5 years. in fact he waiting for me to finish my degree education and later sooner i finished my degree we got married.
Meanwhile sooner i completed my degree i have joined a company where i got a good enviornment. as days goes myself and my boss(even now he is unmarried) got attracted each other and i have fallen in love with him deeply. Even he started loving me deeply, he will fulfill whatever i wish for. Right from day one he never hurted me or behaved in a way which hurts me. But when i went for my first baby delivery during that 2 months gap, he got attracted to one more female who was working in our company, sooner i rejoined for work i came to know and i started objecting for the same. It was not with the intension of selfishness but with the intension that, the girl choosen by him as a life partner was not good for him. In fact even now i myself seeing good girls for him to get married, i want him to actually marry and be happy. But since i started objecting his interaction with that girl, he started showing arrogance and he started treating me very rudely, now from past one and half year he just do not like to talk to me, do not like to mesg me, do not like me to talk on her at all. But at the same time, he has promised me that he is not going to marry her and he is already started searching for a new girl, but the interaction with that girl is still not stopped. ANd the painest part is the girl with whom he is interacting is my subordinate as am the CEO of the company and she is supposed to report to me. But since my boss is so close to her, she directly reports him and even my boss never ask her to listen to me or give respect to me,.even though she is next to me, she never respect me, she never report to me, and she always shows her arrogance behaviour if question abt anything, and my so called loved boss will become angry on me only if i report against her for me to shut my mouth and keep quiet.
now actual problem is, due to this problem i had left job and was in home, but in some or the other way he make sure am back to job and neither he is ready to leave me nor he is ready to leave her and do as per my expectation. But it is sure that he is not going to marry her, since i feel his marriage with somebody else is already fixed.
Now am totally confused in understanding him, he always says that he never cheat me and he will be there with me life time and if required for my satisfaction he will also marry me. But due to that girl matter i have lost my complete trust,love,affection on him and i have started crying daily now for cheating my husband for which i am suffering evey moment. In fact i too love my husband a lot because he is very good kind, soft spoken person. Now am confused how to handle this. Can i trust him and continue in the same job because i need to stay with him? or shall i leave job and go somewhere else forget everything and start a new life with my family?? or should i do something else....I am a very intelligent and very much enthusiastic person by nature, but due to this matter i am becoming more and more narrow minded and mild. Can somebody suggest me what i need to do???Plz help me or else i dont know what will happen to me...
you are right , you should not leave that person suddenly or in unplanned way. you should make a perfect plan to leave him otherwise he may react in negative direction. steps are 1) show your self sick infront of him and in the office dont smile and laugh in the office 2) do not show some thing extra in your job even show lazyness like a dumbo kind lady, even if he talks with you ask him that you are not feeling well , listening this he will soon start getting bore with you, you can keep some medicines like saridon crocin etc in your bag just to show everybody that you are sick, take leave for 1-2 days in the small interval, during leave give your 100% love to your kids and hubby, and after doing it for some time , you may leave the job showing that you are sick and would not like to continue, stay at your home for 15 days before joing new job, since you will be doing these things gradually, he will forget you easily and you will get rid off from him ronyfandu @ yahoo . co . in
See Arush, I understand english and that' s the reason I have mentioned in my origianl suggestion from a female point of view that \" you cheated your husband and still after having baby\" . You are so much matured and must have seen ups and downs in life and still you don' t know how to come out of it? It really sounds strange, solution is very simple - if you just think about your kid whenever you remember that guy, then automatically all feelings will stop on him. Let him go to hell, you don' t have to worry about him, you, your husband, your kid this is your world. Don' t you accept?
Check yourself 1st
1st of all I don' t know whether you are male or female, your message indicates you are female but your name Arush says you are a male. Let' s forget about your boss 1st, you are saying about yourself that you belong to a good family and married to a very good human being and that too is a love marriage. After all this, still you have deep love left for your boss? I' m sure you must had a physical affair also with him. And after that your boss had started loving another girl. Do you really think Men love married woman? It' s just Lust and they want physcial satisfaction, for that they do anything and every thing to impress them. You made a big hole for yourself now. Your career is spoiled, I' m not sure you are a CEO of a company. If you are such a level, your maturity levels must be very very high. I could not entirely believe whatever is written over here. But, certainly you cheated your husband and still after having baby, you felt for your boss which is shame on you. Please check for yourself 1st then you can think about your boss falling for another girl.