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Peer Pressure:Keeping up with the friends
2015-01-21
Name: Jaya Bhatt My daughter goes to a very good school. The children are from affluent families and are pampered. I being from a middle class family hardly pamper her and never give in to her unreasonable demands but seeing other kids in her school having so much fun and having high end gadgets, she also wants the same. She now also wants to have pocket money. I tried explaining to her that this is the time to study and not to follow friends like that but she is adamant. She says that kids make fun of her. I don' t know what to do.
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2016-09-15
#1
Name: Aditya
Subject:  RE:Keeping up with the friends
Hi Jaya, this does happens due to peer pressure. Try to make your child understand through different ways and examples which will help in providing some improvement.
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2016-08-23
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Name: Aditi
Subject:  RE:Keeping up with the friends
Explain your daughter that you guys can not afford everything like the parents of the kids in her school can and while you explain her everything make sure you do it quietly and peacefully as you would not want her to be hurt.
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2016-08-23
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Name: NN
Subject:  RE:Keeping up with the friends
It is very difficult to handle such situations as when they see other people with things that you can not provide them they will start hating you but if you provide them with everything they will probably spoil their future.
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2016-08-22
#4
Name: NN
Subject:  RE:Keeping up with the friends
you should give her the pocket money but also warn her that of if wants pocket money she will have to adjust all her expenses within that amount of money and she would not get any extra cash to spend on anything.
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2016-08-10
#5
Name: Sakshi
Subject:  RE:Keeping up with the friends
This problem is very much common in kids as they feel that they are less then the other kids if the don't have what they have but you will have to explain it to her that she will have to earn what she wants.
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2016-04-19
#6
Name: No Name
Subject:  RE:Keeping up with the friends
Hi Jaya,
I can understand what you are feeling but you have to explain to your child that how hard you are trying to make your child future and it must be clearly understood by her so that she will never come with such cases again and again.
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2016-04-15
#7
Name: None
Subject:  RE:Keeping up with the friends
Hi Parent,
I can understand your situation. You need to explain and make her understand what was your family status and how long you people are working hard to sustain in the society.Then they will understand.
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2016-04-14
#8
Name: Munni
Subject:  RE:Keeping up with the friends
Hi Jaya Bhatt,
I can understand what you are suffering from you need to say to your daughter with love so that your child can understand every thing.So that they can understand and it would be easily for you also.
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2016-04-09
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Name: Mania
Subject:  RE:Keeping up with the friends
Hello Jaya Bhatt,
You should not say to her that we are from middle class you need to explain her why does we not use such gadgets at this age.So that she will come to know the purpose of using it or not.I wish she listens to you.
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2016-01-15
#10
Name: runji
Subject:  hi
don't worry. after all she is a kid. make her understand in polite way. also give her some amount so she will be happy also nd it soothes her ego and when she will grow up she will get what is right and wrong. be patient. being polite with kids is the way to make them understand and befriend with them
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2016-01-14
#11
Name: karuna
Subject:  hi
hi, dont wry, make her explain in a veyr good way and try to give some amount to her so that she is also happy. afterall, she is also in such an age group wherein she would tend to copy others. It is completely normal to think of such things at such age. we, as parents need to compromise on certain things.
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2016-01-11
#12
Name: priya mehra
Subject:  Keeping up with the friends
I have undergone this to some extent but then I was in your daughter's place. I used to go to a convent and my parents couldn't afford all the costly stuff that my friends had. I used to feel bad and feel insecure and out of place. I phased out of it slowly when I realized how much of an effort my dad and mom had to put in to send me to such a school. She is still a kid, be gentle and yet firm and she will get through this unscathed.
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2015-11-27
#13
Name: payal raval
Subject:  Keeping up with the friends
Sticky situation. Your daughter is still a kid and she will feel the need to have all the gadgets and things that her peers do. However, teach her to respect your values and boundaries and handle peer pressure. I quite like my kid's school in this regard - her teachers ensure that peer pressure is handled and such situations rarely arise for me to handle them :)
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hello karuna,
its not normal thing, you should take some serious action on that, now what is his age, you didnt mention here, but dont put pressure on him, take it in very nice way.... - aanadi [View Message]
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hello karuna,
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hello karuna,
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