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hi all,
i recently delivered a baby.i managed it all alone only with my hubby.mine as well as my inlaws havent seen the baby yet except the snaps.they want us to take the baby to india as soon as possible.my baby is just 1 month old.so i'm very scared to take the baby so early bcoz of immunity & other weather change & health issues that may arise.so can u all plz suggest which is the best & safe time to take my bay to india.how old my baby should be ideally to have a safe journey?plz help.thank u all SSS replied. i brought my baby from india to us when she was 2 and half months old.i feel it is easy to take at that time as around 4 months they start turning over,they star playing and all but before 3 months they sleep a lot and dont trouble that much.
but s be sure that u feed yr babywhile take off and landing.climate should not be a big problem as they adjust to it very soon.
takecare supriyasanoj replied. I took my son to india when he was 3 months old.i exclusively breast fed him till 6 months.i will say after 2 1/2 months if you are comfortable after delivery you can take your baby with your pediatritions advice.i gave him all his new born vaccination here and 3 rd month and 6 month vaccination in india.
if you are breast feeing or bottle feeding it wont be a problem in flight.
as long as you are comfortable with your journey you will not have any problem with your baby.you can request for a bassinet in the flight which will make your travel more easier.if you are breast feeding you can comfortably sit in your seat and keep a blanket over your shoulders covering your baby.if you are feeding formula air hostees will help you.
you have to feed your baby or give him something to suck during take off and landings to preven his ears getting clogged.if he is not co-operating with you then you can just hold him upright.he will be fine.
i feel that as babies it is very easy to travel if you have company.you can take your stroller of a kangaroo bag during travel.when they start to crawl then you will have atough time.
dont worry about coping with the baby in india.they thrive really well with their grandparents attentions.make sure not to give him solid foor before 6 months.because elders force you too feed solids early,which was good at their times but now it is not recommended.so be firm with that.
if you are feeding formula you can take the intial supply from here.you will get all the US brand items there too.
babies get adjusted to weather than adults.you can have AC installed in india if you dont have one.make sure that the water you are giving him after 6 months is safe.and dont forget to keep mosquito repelents.
i went to india when my son was 3 months and came back when he was 8 months i had a wonderful time with both our parents.i dint take him unnessarily out to relatives place,shopping,theater or restaurents.only when it is unavoidable i went out.i just stayed at home relaxed.my mom took care of him when i went out for shopping with my frieds or bro.
once you come back then you will have to do everything alone.so arrange for his passport and PIO card as soon as possible.have a good time and take rest as much as possible.enjoy your trip. sv replied. Hi Rani

Congratulation on the arrival of ur baby... Hoping U and the baby r doin fine...

My advice/suggestions to U :

- No.. PLz do not go sooo soon... Ur baby is tooo small.... anyways plz do ask the doc... coz there will be a series of vaccines for the baby to be given this first year....

- Also plz think step by step about how u r going to reach India.... and how u will take care of the baby there... how the weather change will affect the baby etc.

- If u r in the US.. then I hope u do know ur travel time is 18 hours.... and the baby is too smal to travel... coz she still has not taken alll the vaccines to face the germs in the outside world..... Plz do not take risk on ur baby's health.... ur in-laws can wait... there's no hurry....

- ALso.... babies normal cry thru air journey.. its makes them very uncomfortable.... and how r u going to breast feed ur baby in the flight...

- SInce u have just delivered U too need to take rest.... travel at this time is a big no no for u coz it will affect when u sit for long hours in the flight seat.... U will not know it now but later after some months u will develop back pain when ever u work a lil more... so first health and next worrying about others...

- My advice is u can travel after ur baby is 5 months..... also talk to ur doc... about ur babies vaccines etc...also do check the climatic condition in India... make sure u carry the formula from here, since Indian formula might not suit her when she starts formula after 4th or when she is 5 months.... it will be easier for u to feed her when u r in the plane / travelling...etc....

- See as a mother myself... I can tell U... all In-laws will keep forcing u and ur hubby to come back soon to see the baby... but plz be patient... coz if u listen to them and go now... ur baby might fall ill and since he/she has not yet taken all the vaccines can develop sickness.... and at that time ur in-laws r not going to take the baby's pain or ur pain away.. they will just sit and watch.... so plz first give preference to ur baby.... and the baby's health.... coz once the health is gone its very difficult for ur baby to recover completely at such a small age....

u r the parent of the baby so u know whats best for the baby... so plz take a decision based on whats best for u and ur baby....

I hope u seriously consider not going now.... wait for 5 months.... it will just fly.... do just concentrate on ur health and ur baby's health now.... forget about all the other people's worry....

I hope my advice/suggestions help u to take a good decision....

All the best di bh replied. hey congrats on the baby. First of all u need to relax and recover and then think about going to India. I know u will be missing your parents. But given the circumstances the baby is very small to travel.And also there u will be pressured to stay with in laws and parents. all the juggling of time b/n both places will exhaust u and baby more importantly. Try to stay here till atleast baby is 4 months old.if the baby is 1 month old already u need some more time before the baby can travel. And moreover u need to ask the same to the paediatrician and decide after the doctor says.Think and decide. Best of luck.post back.