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Name: Panicked

Hi everyone! i am the same person who sent a message a couple of weeks with the name \" panicked\" and the message was named, \" Am I Overreacting?\"

i just want to say that my husband' s parents will be here next month. I really don' t want them here. I just hate them!

I keep telling myself that I am going to be seeing them after three years. I should be able to tolerate them. Three years is a long time. I should think about those women that have to live with their in laws.

One thing that i am really scared about is how my husband is going to treat me when his parents are here. i mean why do these husbands behave so differently when their parents are here. What makes them change? They behave like they are a whole new person. Can someone explain this to me?

another thing that is just really irritating me is that when they come here, they are going to make my husband spend a lot of money when they are here, He has so many expenses paying for his parent' s ticket, their expenses when they are here. money for the delivery( i am pregnant). To top it off, his brother will be getting married in September in India( we are in U.S right now).
We are going to have to make a trip to India.
I hope when his mother is here, she thinks about all this and watches how much money she spends of my husband' s. But i doubt! Such a selfish mother!
One thing i know for sure is that last time they came here they did not bring anything for me.
This time i am having a girl, let' s see if she brings me anything.
When i had my son, my husband told me that \" my mother will buy you something of gold\" She did buy me something of gold, but my husband had to pay for the earrings. When i asked her, \" why did my husband have to pay for the earrings\" She told me that there is no difference between the money. So basically, she did not get me anything!
Those earrings came with my money because my husband made the payment. is that correct?

One thing that just irritates me is that when they come here, they don' t even bother to convert some Indian RS. into dollars so they can spend here. They make my husband spend each and every American cent of his.

One thing i don' t understand is that when his parents are here, he plans to take them to other states such as Washington or New York and so and so.My husband says that i should not go along because i should stay back with my baby girl cause she is too young and so and so. He fears something may happen to her. Then in September, his brother is getting married and i will have to go to India. My baby girl will only be about three months old. At that age, is she not too young to travel on an airplane? I mean is it going to be so hot their in September, how is she going to handle it?
what about the climate, pollution and atmosphere there? Should she not be immunized? I just don' t get it! This is totally hypocrisy and double standards!

Sometimes i think that it is better that i do not join them when they go visit Washington or New York because my husband is going to ignore me. he will be walking ahead with his mother and i will be behind. In a way, i would rather stay back.

One thing i just don' t understand is that my husband says his parents are coming to look after me and the baby. They are coming for a month and a half. Oh my god!, they will be here for just a month after i have my daughter. After they have left, then i have to look after my baby girl myself right? How much will that one month make a difference?
When my husband' s mother is here, i am definitely going to do everything myself. I want my husband to realize that my wife just gave birth and my mother should help my wife too. But i doubt it!! One thing i know for sure is that his mother can do any and all mistakes in the book. The mistakes go unnoticed. If i do any mistakes, he will start picking on my mistakes right away. He tells me that he has no CONTROL over his mother but he has CONTROL over me?
I don' t think so!
Whatever happens, i am not keeping my mouth shut this time! last time i kept my mouth shut and it caused me to have depression. not this time!

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