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Name: hp
Subject:  now what should I do?
Date: 2009-11-04
I would shortly join a function in my family where all involved in my problem may turn out.I don't understand how to manage infront of each and every person.My co-sister may also come and my in-laws too.If I talk to her on a casual note ,not letting her heinous acts and false proclamations affect my attitude,Then there is a possibility my ILS may feel otherwise.And if I don't talk to her everyone will start wondering why.Coz nobody else in my family knows anything about the whole thing.How should I manage the situation?I'm worried if my relatives talk to her ,my ILS may misunderstand the situation.Hope everything goes on fine.
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Name: anonymous
Subject:  i understand
Date: 2009-10-21
hi,
I know what u are going thru.it happens with all of us all the time when we trust people without knowing them too well. Ur SIL is a smart women no doubt but somwhere even u made the mistake of trusting her.The best that you can do in this situation is talk to your husband and tell him about what you are going through.I am sure he will be able to help you out.Also learn to take charge of situations rather than run away from them. I think you should take your Sil's call and talk to her as if nothing is wrong but remember never to disclose anything personal to her ever.Just keep ur relation with her politically correct.Like when she calls u take her call say hi hello talk general things and then very politey tell her you are busy and will call her back.At times u can ignore her calls. Also don't worry about her ruining your name or misusing u.We can only control our actions and not others. Let her do whatever she wants after all whatever we sow we have to reap one day and i am sure most of the people in ur house are very much aware of her behaviour.Just keep ur eyes and ears open when she is around. donot show her that u r scared of her. Remember not to trust anyone with your family details until and unless u r sure of them last but not the least keep ur husband informed of all her activities, so that whenever she tries to create problems for you, he can support u.Cheers!no one can make you feel bad unless u want to feel bad.
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Name: hp
Subject:  you are right
Date: 2009-10-22
Thank you once again.
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Name: anonymous
Subject: relax
Date: 2009-10-22
Hi once again,
Yaa your husband is right, if he has asked you to keep a distance from her then do that because it is better to keep your self away from negative people.As said earlier if you do end up in a situation that you have no choice but acknowledge her just be politically right without letting her know anythings thats happening in ur life.Unfortunately there are many such people around us, so always remember anyone who tries to be too sweet to you or too critical of you always be beware of such people.Even i have learnt all this the hard way. So relax and take this experience positively because your SIL has unknowingly helped you become a better person by making you realise that all that shines is not gold.
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Name: hp
Subject: thnks!
Date: 2009-10-21
Dear anonymous,
Thank you so much for your concern.I value your suggestions.
But she´ s actually trying to make secret calls without anybody´ s knowledge in either of our houses.I feel if I take her calls ,she´ ll take it for granted that I´ m supporting her quarrels with ILS and again some other fine day she´ ll put me in the soup,saying I´ m still a friend of her and that both of us have equal status of opinion,which would sure infuriate my hubby ,coz,he´ d already told me not to talk to her or take her calls,for she´ ll only destroy my character.And so I´ m mum for now atleast but I´ ve decided if I had to talk to her ,I ´ ll only talk on a casual note and not like otherwise.
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relax
Hi once again,
Yaa your husband is right, if he has asked you to keep a distance from her then do that because it is better to keep your self away from negative people.As said earlier if you do end up in a situation that you have no choice but acknowledge her just be politically right without letting her know anythings thats happening in ur life.Unfortunately ther... - anonymous [View Message]
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you are right
Thank you once again.... - hp [View Message]
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i understand
hi,
I know what u are going thru.it happens with all of us all the time when we trust people without knowing them too well. Ur SIL is a smart women no doubt but somwhere even u made the mistake of trusting her.The best that you can do in this situation is talk to your husband and tell him about what you are going through.I am sure he will be able to help you out.Also l... - anonymous [View Message]
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thnks!
Dear anonymous,
Thank you so much for your concern.I value your suggestions.
But she' s actually trying to make secret calls without anybody' s knowledge in either of our houses.I feel if I take her calls ,she' ll take it for granted that I' m supporting her quarrels with ILS and again some other fine day she' ll put me in the soup,saying I' m still a fr... - hp [View Message]
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My co-sister had lied about me that I shared all my contempt and hatred on my in-laws ,with her as much as she had.She used my name and lied before everyone that I shared all my bitterness and hard feelings with her.I was devastated by this as she had put me in a completely uncomfortable situation before my husband.I cried lonely as I could not prove my innocence since evr... - hp [View Message]
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