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Thank you so much for your reply.

I don't blame my husband for me being alone. It is a choice that we have both made when he was taking up the job. It will not be permenant we have only one more year and then he will go back to do his PHD because I will return back to work.

Anyway, I have thought about this and have decided to change my gym timings completely to avoid meeting this guy. He is definitely not worth it.

But thank you Bhavana you have put it very nicely and in a very mature and intelligent way.

Sometimes people write stuff,ignore those comments.They may have their own frustrations and sadness that they remove it when they get an opportunity.

I am really happy for you about your decision.I did not help you dear you just made the decision yourself and helped yourself.See you don't need any help and you are a strong person.I can bet that you had already decided about it way b4 even I posted my comment.
Either way don't feel low,nor guilty.
All the best dear.
Just one question do you go out with the baby you know like evening walks,it might help you get more friends dear.Baby's always help you get more friends just try it but since you are alone also take care that you don't go out at the same time ok keep changing your timings.
All the best and take care.

Hi priya,
I think the very fact that you have written here proves that, somewhere deep down you know you are doing something wrong.
Either way I am nobody to judge you,but whatever you are going thru right now has to stop.Try changing the timing.Go to the gym at some other time.The more you start spending time in the gym during the same hours might possibly lead to something you will regret irrespective of whether you want it or not.Its just a matter of time.
Once you get into the mode of seeing him everyday,the wants only increase,they never decrease.Its easy to think that you will never give in to the temptation and another thing to actually have the strength to say a NO.
Don't wait till the last minute ,stop going to the gym for somedays.ANd then change your timings.
During the days you take your time off,sit back and think hard of what you are doing and what might happen if you proceed with whatever you are doing right now.
Mind can be very strong when it comes to temptations and can lead you to believe that there is nothing wrong in just talking to him first.
So take your time ,relax,go thru the photo albums of your wedding and every other such stuff.
You say your hubby comes only for 2 weeks,make it a memorable one for him and yourself.
Do something different.Rekindle your romance,i know it can have a setback once you have a baby,but there can be ways.Surprise him with a gift do something every week that he comes home.Then just wait and see how he would want to come back to you every week.

Take a relaxing month and stop the gym for sometime.

All the best.

Honestly you know the answer yourself,confused and all this is pure crap.
You are definitely sick and deprived of lots of stuff.
You just want somebody here to tell you that whatever you are feeling is natural,the same old stuff of I know what you are going thru,it might be lonely for you,and its all your husband's fault for leaving you and all such other nonsense.

You say that you are never going to cheat your hubby,BUT you are already doing that,you feel elated on seeing the other guy,you feel happy and the day is bright and the sun is different in shape and size for you in this other man's presence,then what exactly ARE YOU CONFUSED ABOUT .
CONFUSED MY FOOT.

I wouldn't have asked the question in the first place right. I am genuinely confused about how I am feeling.

What do you think??????