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I am single and still live with my ma in law as we have a bond, but off recent she resents to everything I say regarding my kids as I am at work all day and she is in charge . How shall I work on with this tension brewing ? friend replied. Dear Chints -

I commend you on living with your MIL while you are single but I would agree with sapna. Move out and live on your own and if you still want to drop your child off at your MIL's for the day while you are at work or put your child in daycare. This way both of you will be happy, she can take care of your child during the day and at the end you can go to your own home and raise your child they way you want, you are his/her mother and your MIL. Stay strong and best of luck. sapna replied. why are you living with your mother-in-law? MOve out! live on your own with your husband. Or, tell her that she had her chance of being a mother, and now it's your turn, and she should leave it up to you and not interfere. ela replied. If you enjoy a good relationship with her, you must be frank. Just tell her that it is difficult to bear with tension while you in the office. Amber replied. Hello!

I have never understood why mother in laws and daughter in laws cant get along. I am a very independent woman but I still believe in living with big families. The more the merrier. I am not married yet, but I do have a fianc and I know for a fact that down the road I will be living with my in laws which I am totally ok with. Having grandparents around the home is very rare thing these day and should be a privilege. Why should we deprive our kids from the love of their grand parents. Even if there is some sort of a misunderstanding, why cant it be sorted out. I mean when parents get older, one thing that they really look forward to is their kids getting married and eventually having grand kids. We shouldnt deprive our parents of that happiness. sudatta replied. Dear amber just get married and tell us about your experience of staying with your in laws.A wearer only knows where the shoe pinches. aruna replied. I did so for some time after my son was born. While it is important to understand your mother-in-law loves your children, and probably feels they are hers since she is taking care of them in the daytime, you are still their mother.

It was quite stressful for me, since we were at odds on nearly everything, eating, sleeping, etc. What may make it easier is to talk it out with her and explain, *calmly* what is bothering you, and see if you two can work something out. The children need to know who is their real parent.