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2001-09-25
Name: Editor In today's world with nuclear family system and women becoming highly career oriented, are we losing our traditional values?

Till a few decades ago women used to be homemakers; whereas, men used to be the breadwinners of the family. The upbringing of children used to be the responsibility of the mother. And in a joint family setup it was the collective responsibility of the grand parents and other relatives staying together. The child learnt its first lessons at home.

Women are highly intelligent and educated. Their talent should not be restricted merely to domestic chores. They should be given equal opportunities with men in today's dynamic world. But, how does one strike a balance? Leaving the child to the care of servants is definitely not a solution
What can be done to preserve our heritage?

Can making women go back to their traditional role of homemakers solve the problem?

What do you think?
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2007-09-28
#1
Name: sowmya
Subject:  Men should help
Why should looking after a home be only a woman' s job? The problem is not of women working, it is of the selfish husbands who come home and treat their wives like slaves.
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2005-10-28
#2
Name: Observer
Subject:  Tradition or Superstition?
My answer may not be a direct answer to the article you have posted, but i can say that to my understanding, the lives of children in the household changes for the worst in consequences of the elders in the family.

In the centuries that passed and birthed the concept of God deviated into beliefs in superstitions that kills the self-confidence of man. I am not an atheist. I dont say that believing in God is a senseless thing to do. On the contrary I say that believing in God helps keep up morality. But Superstition is what i am totally against. I have seen that most of the South Indians, specially the people of Tamil Nadu have lately started to believe in weird superstitions and superstitous beliefs that have all of a sudden boomed up, i wonder from where : superstitions and superstitious beliefs that never existed before in our olden days. I would say that the superstitious beliefs of the olden days did have some meaning in them. But the one sthat have propped up now are absolutely stupid! I think its because of the soap operas people watch that has effected such a thing.

What I understnad is superstitious beliefs as external factors that have to be brought to the understanding of people who are weak and have no self-confidence. This external factor is a model of the 'confidence' that they feel they have lost. The model will only remind them that they do have a brain. But pity on them, they don't. This model is for people who have forgotten to believe in themselves. Such people are those who believe in failure and loss. They are just lazy to find logical reasons and ways to maneuvre out of the loss and failure. They just resolve to fate and thus seek fantasy. They are the kind of people who need to be 'told' by someone else in employment of some foreign and external factor to 'do' something (pariharam) so that things change for the better. What these people dont understand is that the person influencing them to do is only taking advantage of their weakness and just bringing their confidence back by promising them that doing so will make things right, where the influencer is only playing with the weak psyche of the affected. Carrying out that particular task wont' bring luck or change things. The inner self starts to believe then, that doing so will change things. The fact is whether it is done or not, once the mind starts to focus on change for the better, it does change. It is their foolishness to think that just because they carried out that particular task, things have changed for them. They think that it is a magical spirit and divine spirit that has brought about the change. They are blind and they deny to accept their personal confidence that they have indirectly built in themselves. In short, they admit to the world that they have no sense of logic in them and just deny to realize their potency. Only through an external factor, belief is stored in them. They admit, thus to the world that they are proven senseless who need a third party and external element to realize something that is there in them already.

People who believes in supersttious beliefs and practices is always at risk and loss. The person who knows the weakness of such believers, exploit them and make very good money. They just aggravate their stupidity and millions fall for such exploitation. They blindly follow the verdict of the exploiter. A simple example is the nameologists who give a change of name, and say write your name 100 times a day, write 'my name is ... i will be succcessfull hereafter' and 100 times everyday and things will change for the better. If you are able to read between lines, you would have understood what i am trying to say. The imposition of writing the name and such a sentences only takes the concept of success into the dull heads of the people. Just like a child is made to memorise his lessons by writing it a couple of times. But a child who has ood concentration and determination does not need such a thing. Another example is meeting an adtrologer to determine one's own fate. A person goes to an astrologer and tells him, 'i feel there is something bad that is going to happen. Can you please help me'. The astrologer by now knows the weakness of the person who has approached him. He asks some favourable questions to the person affected and the person tells all his woes, and the astrologer uses them for himself. The affected person does not realize that his weakness has been used and the astrologer has only frightened him more by aggravating his weakness. He just gives some counsels and says- 'to avoid such mishaps, i suggests you pray to God and don't eat or drink anything 4 times a week for 47 or 53 weeks. and things will change for the better.' It seems so weird and i wonder if the person realized that 47 or 53 weeks almost round up to a year? Which means that alost half a year they starve? Will a person ever be healthy after such a fasting for over a year?

When will people change? Whe will they come to their senses? Why then has man been given 6 senses instead of 5 unlike animals? Is there any sense in possessing the 6th sense if one believes in superstitions and seuperstitious beliefs and practices? When will people believe in themselves, their will and their hard work to succeed and come up in lives? Is this the reason why India does not develop much despite so much of advancements?
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2004-10-06
#3
Name: Deepti
Subject:  Values
I strongly agree with the views expressed here.
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2001-09-26
#4
Name: Jasmine
Subject:  Dont' hold women back!!
Women have been working for many years and women are stronger then their male counterparts becasue we are able to handle the stress and are able to adjust.

In today's society, women should be allowed to work, they should be allowed to study and do what they want to. Yes there are sacrifices to be made and a lot of adjusting from the male. Men HAVE to start helping out at home with the rearing of the children. In some homes, financially women need to work.

If men start to help out,then beleive me things will be much better. The values of yesteryears will be preserved. Values, tradition and culture is taught by parents. It doesn't have to be taught all day, it can be taught little by little. With women working, the children (our daughters) are taught that there are many opportunities for them when they grow and there will be more because society is changing to support them.

Why do you want the woman to stay home. Children can independance, they learn to socialize, they learn culture, they learn about life, they learn to interact with others of different backgrounds and appreciate them when they are outside of their home.

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2001-09-25
#5
Name: Jenna
Subject:  Women want it all
Women nowadays want it all...work, family, vacations, houses, cars, good schools, strong family ties. We can have it all but not at the same time. We have to prioritize. In my opinion, those childhood years are short-lived and the most important thing. I could easily go without the rest. A child should be with his or her mother and everything else can wait.
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2001-09-25
#6
Name: Jaya
Subject:  Values
In this age, its important to keep a perfect balance between work and house. Its not that a woman only works outside to be modern. She works to earn a living to give best to her kids and house in every way.
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2001-09-25
#7
Name: neha
Subject:  Today's Women!
The best solution for to preserve our heritage and also the women's working talent would be ADJUSTMENT!
The adjustment should not be made only from the women's side but also the man and the whole family.
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