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Miscarriage and Child Loss:Had a missed abortion

2005-01-05

Name: Nicky Dear readers

I didnt know that I would have to write my own story here soon...But as few things are best left for God/Nature to handle, so he decided for me that the time isnt right for me to be a mother yet! I have a history of irregular periods(short cycles) and was really surprised when I got pregnant after trying for the first time...with my doc's treatment, ofcourse. I didnt show much of happiness since i couldnt believe that God can be so generous to me...during my 1st U/s on 20th Dec..my doc told me that the preg is only 4.6 wks, whereas accdng to my LMP it should have been about 7.2 weeks. I suspected something was wrong there itself. And my fears came out true today. After 2 weeks ..today..on 5th Jan, the pregnancy shows 5 wks..with no fetal heart beat and no fetal node.
The Doc asked me to come for D&C on 7th Jan...and infact she too had tears in her eyes.
I have read so many posts here today, and can understand what all of you have been through. Mine was a first pregnancy...and I need not tell how precious it was for me. But I still am hopeful that this is not the end. My Doc is a great support..She told me that she treated a female who had 8 miscarriages and was finally blessed with a baby girl...and another lady is having healthy pregnancy who is 40 yrs old who had actually lost count of no. of M/C she had...So am still hopeful...and urge all of you to be hopeful and positive about the future.
I definitely have a grieving sense of losing my child... but maybe the time isnt right yet. This is one thing that I have left for nature to decide for me. All I can do is try with hope and confidence!

Good luck to you all!....May God bless you with the most happy an beautful babies!

Regards
Nicky

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Dear readers

I didnt know that I would have to write my own story here soon...But as few things are best left for God/Nature to handle, so he decided for me that the time isnt right for me to be a mother yet! I have a history of irregular periods(short cycles) and was really surprised when I got pregnant after trying for the first time...with my doc's treatment, ofcourse. I didnt show much of happiness since i couldnt believe that God can be so generous to me...during my 1st U/s on 20th Dec..my doc told me that the preg is only 4.6 wks, whereas accdng to my LMP it should have been about 7.2 weeks. I suspected something was wrong there itself. And my fears came out true today. After 2 weeks ..today..on 5th Jan, the pregnancy shows 5 wks..with no fetal heart beat and no fetal node.
The Doc asked me to come for D&C on 7th Jan...and infact she too had tears in her eyes.
I have read so many posts here today, and can understand what all of you have been through. Mine was a first pregnancy...and I need not tell how precious it was for me. But I still am hopeful that this is not the end. My Doc is a great support..She told me that she treated a female who had 8 miscarriages and was finally blessed with a baby girl...and another lady is having healthy pregnancy who is 40 yrs old who had actually lost count of no. of M/C she had...So am still hopeful...and urge all of you to be hopeful and positive about the future.
I definitely have a grieving sense of losing my child... but maybe the time isnt right yet. This is one thing that I have left for nature to decide for me. All I can do is try with hope and confidence!

Good luck to you all!....May God bless you with the most happy an beautful babies!

Regards
Nicky shalu replied. hello
nicky,
god is with you and you will be blessed with healthy baby.but you have to take care of ur health.
we wish you for the future
shalu pari replied. dear nicky,
sorry to hear about that! i have an exactly similar history. and we were not even trying wen i conceived! my first scan at 10 weeks detected no foetal node but wen the radiologist told me tat i wasnt alarmed coz i didnt know wot a fetal node is! later my doc explained the situation to me.
tat was last year. we are still trying for a baby for the last 3 months.
u surely are a brave woman. missed abortions usually occur due to chromosomal abnormalities and 20% of all first preg end that way. so i feel a missed abortion at 10 weeks is better than the birth of an abnormal baby...
i wish u all the best for the future. we are with u...
love,
pari. Priya replied. Dear Nicky
I am really sorry to hear about your story. Things will work out for you for the best in the future. I admire you for you courage and ability to cope during this rough time. You will be blessed and it will be a healthy pregnancy.
Priya

2005-01-07

Name: shalu
Subject:

dear

hello
nicky,
god is with you and you will be blessed with healthy baby.but you have to take care of ur health.
we wish you for the future
shalu

2005-01-05

Name: pari
Subject:

i m sorry!!

dear nicky,
sorry to hear about that! i have an exactly similar history. and we were not even trying wen i conceived! my first scan at 10 weeks detected no foetal node but wen the radiologist told me tat i wasnt alarmed coz i didnt know wot a fetal node is! later my doc explained the situation to me.
tat was last year. we are still trying for a baby for the last 3 months.
u surely are a brave woman. missed abortions usually occur due to chromosomal abnormalities and 20% of all first preg end that way. so i feel a missed abortion at 10 weeks is better than the birth of an abnormal baby...
i wish u all the best for the future. we are with u...
love,
pari.

2005-01-05

Name: Priya
Subject:

Nicky

Dear Nicky
I am really sorry to hear about your story. Things will work out for you for the best in the future. I admire you for you courage and ability to cope during this rough time. You will be blessed and it will be a healthy pregnancy.
Priya

2005-01-05

Name: Nicky
Subject:

Thanks Pari & Priya

Dear Pari & Priya

Thanks for yr support! It certainly helps after sharing with others. Ive been through so many rough times, but the only thing I never left was 'Hope' and probably thazz what is helping me to move ahead in life. I really felt bad after reading so many stories where people have lost hope and faith. I think we can all encourage each other like two of you did to me...it will certainly help us to gather enough courage to pull along and look forward to a healthy pregnancy.
I am thankful to you for your words of encouragement and I really look forward to more interaction so that we can ease our pains and help others to do so!
I dont know about your story Priya, although Pari briefed me about hers.I am sorry to hear your story Pari... but looking at your other posts, I feel that you are also a hopeful person, and your husband is also supportive. Luckily same is the case with me. At the moment, he is feeling more bad for me. Probably this support helps us in moving forward!
Hope to smiles on your faces soon...Wishing you a healthy pregnancy!
Please be in touch!

Love
Nicky

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