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Aggressive Kids:working mom
2001-03-13
Name: sudatta I often hear a comment from my friends that a working moms kids are more self sufficient -is it true?I too was a working mom but gave up my job seing the hopeless condition of my sons in the hands of servants and day care centres.Have I taken a right decision?Will my kids grow up as self sufficient and confident kids?Please comment.
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2005-02-19
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Name: Lakshmi
Subject:  It is how you bring up
Hi sudatta

I am also working mother,
Your is right decision or wrong, you can make it right. You can bring up your child more independently. Ask your sons to do their things own their own. Take them while shopping, ask them to buy their needs and let them talk to the shop keeper and make them involve in many activities like sports and music. I have seen such house wife's kids grow up confidently. None of the kids are too smal to do some of their work.

Present them lot of books, and give them time alone with books and play together. I wish you to make your decision turn to be right.

Wishes
Lakshmi
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2003-03-06
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Name: kusum
Subject:  working mom
I am not agree with you. doing job also you can take care of your son. There are many working ladies whoes children are more better than those who are at home. Wharever time you spend with your child in that much time you give more attention, care and love to your child then definetly they will be a good one.
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2002-03-12
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Name: Poonam
Subject:  Working Mom
I think u did a commendable job by leaving your job for your kids because no can take care of your kids as u can but at the same time it is true that kids of working mom are more independent as compared to kids of non-working mom.
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2001-03-16
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Name: mannu
Subject:  dont have doubts
One cannot have definitive opinions about these issues. One has to judge only by ones situation at home. So metimes it is best to qwuit and sit at home, and sometimes one can leave the child in a creche. But it all depends on the support structure.
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2001-03-18
#5
Name: ganga
Subject:  no formula solutions
please do not worry yourself over the choices. it is okay if you go out for some time.if possible get a flexi-hour job.
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2001-03-19
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Name: Madhangi
Subject:  You just did the right thing!
You are right in being there for the kids for two reasons 1 You will have a sense of Pride that you have done something worthwhile for children
2 Children, especially young children dont deserve to be in Creches or with Aayahs.
Regarding your kids being self sufficient, just make sure that you dont pamper them with your love and care; make sure they do simple jobs theirs as well as house hold according to their ageto know their importance in the family and build their confidence that they too can do something!
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2001-03-19
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Name: karan
Subject:  Make it work
Research shows that people complete most of the learning they will ever do when they are small because these are their formative years and they soak up everything form their environment like a sponge. So it is very important that they have the right influences and a lot of stimulation which I dont think an ayah is capable of giving. Plus the emotional and physical touch and love helps them to develop both emotionally and intellectually at a faster level and helps kids to adjust socially as well, which again the parent is in the best position to supply. So if you have the choice of being at home for your kids its great and you should make the most out of it by giving your kids the right mix of love and discipline. You should however taks up something constuctive for yourself which will also help your kids realise that you are an individual and not just living for them which might lead them to take you for granted. Good Luck!
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