Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

I have a 4 yr old daughter and was pregnant. I just had a miscarriage. My daughter still keeps on asking me about the new baby, what should I tell her? I used to keep on telling her about the new baby so that she would be prepared for the new sibling but now... She still thinks its in my tummy and keeps on touching my stomach but I have till now not had the courage to tell her that her baby sibling is gone. How should I convey this message to her at this age??? Nina replied. Dear Friend,
I'm feeling sad to hear the news about you loosing a baby. I have not gone through that, but, I can say, as a Mother, it must be truly difficult to handle.

Talking to your child is what you are needing and wanting advise on...

Small children the age of your daugther will accept a complete, yet simple answer that is stated in their level of vocabulary. They will handle what you tell them well if you present it to them in a simple manner.

You may start by saying that: \";babies grow in a Mommy's tummy and it's important for the baby to be growing well in order for it to be born like you and me. Sometimes, babies do not grow well, and then, they are no longer in their Mommy's tummy; but everything is okay with me (Mommy). We do not know why this happens but we do feel sad about it, you, me and Daddy feel sad. It's okay to miss the baby that was growing in Mommy's tummy, but understand that I am okay and I love you.\";

Please understand one important thing, children listen to their parents and feel secure when they are reassure. You really can tell her from your heart and she will understand.

Your Friend,
Nina