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Hey,

I am not sure whom should I ask these things. I can' t think of anyone I can talk to. I am basically a very emotional person. I get carried away too easily. I get too excited when something nice happens similarly I get very upset about anything bad. Recently my life is going through a rouch pach. I gave birth to a baby last year, my husband was not there at the time of birth, he was alay for the whole year, though he kept coming in between. He was away to do his MBA.
My career demands travelling so I tried shifting role. Though I was selected I can' t move because the hiring team doesn' t have budget to take more people.
When I shifted back I lost my stuff. So much stuff got stolen. So many things broke.

So basically this is a brief background of what is going on in my life since last year.

Though things are bad. I feel I am still keeping calm. I am keeping my sanity. Though I do get very upset about a new bad news but I always tell myself things will get OK.

Overall I was feeling too good about the way I have been handling my situation. But today to my surprise. My husband told me that I am a very sad person. I remain sad/unhappy or talk about issues most of the time.

I am so shocked to hear this. It is totally to my surprise. I am not able to sleep since then. I have been so tough since last year that I have started loving myself all the more. But now I am hering that I just keep cribbing. I am unable to decide what is the matter.

From my point of view I do not crip, I just talk about things. Whether it is happy or sad. Since from past few months more of sad stuff is happening I am mostly talking about sad things. But I have a very positive attitute to life.

Though my husband understood the point. I am kind of not comfortable. I am very unhappy about what he said. According to him when I talk about issues it makes him feel unhappy. So I am really scared of telling him anything. I don' t feel like opening up in front of him. This is making me feel very uncomfortable. I have suddenly started feeling may be I am bad. May be I keep cribbing. May be I am responsible for his sadness. I wanna stay away from all this. I really do not wanna talk about it. I have to learn to keep my problems away from my husband. But then whom to talk to? Whom should I discuss? If he doesn' t want to listen then I am sure no one will. What to do? I am an emotional female. I have to let out to feel good. Please suggest. charles replied. Its actually sad to hear but got many options.please call me ASAP or share your no digital dreamz replied. Hi,
Always remember that it all depends on our perspective. The way at which you look at a situation might completely differ from the way your spouse looks at. Both of them might not be intended to hurt each other but still it happens. So please don' t brood over his comments, try to impress him with attitude which you feel is positive.
Lastly i recommend you and everyone in this board to read the book \" men are from mars and women are from venus\" I' m sure most of them must have already read it. It' s truly an eye opener for everyone who is closely associated with opposite sex. read that and your perspective will definitely change
all the very best vikram replied. hi yar... people who are sensitive are the ones who suffer most. Am i wrong? You faced it and you know it. Appreciate yourself. You did it. Common yar. He is your property and you are his. Sharing ones feelings, understanding one another, are more important than sharing the bed in marriage life. He is your soul mate. He is your friend. So you have to share it with him. Love him. Be caring. When someone asks us how are you we tend to ask him again ya fine man how are you. so it is. you give first. Then try to tell him the issues at the right time. It is truely an irritation when you start telling your problems as soon as your husband enters home. Let him relax. Then tell him. Then one other thing is you try to be positive. Just check your thoughts if they have a negative pattern. If so replace such thoughts with positive ones. Then see how your life changes. The present situation is the result of your past thoughts. So remember that too.