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2010-05-23
Name: lonely I am here to share my story with the readers. I am hoping to find comments, suggestions and similar stories from others in a similar situation.
I have been married for 6 years now. Post Marriage, life for me has been quite difficult.
I come from a nuclear family and was married into a joint family. Obviously, it took me a lot of time to get acquainted to the setting. Thanks to my in-laws, I wasn’t even given time to get adjusted. I was judged at everything from day 1. I didn’t even understand how I was supposed to behave. Anyway I behaved, always a fault was found.
Coming from a nuclear family, and having enjoyed my privacy all my life, I was trying too hard to try and blend myself into the new household.
Right after my first anniversary problems started between me and my inlaws.My husband was just like a scared little kid with no guts. He silently watched the show but had no guts to defend me or to even try and solve the problem.
Regarding my marriage, it was never happy, and sex…did not exist as my husband had absolutely no desire for me after our wedding night.
Years passed by and the problems became more common. I turned a deaf ear now and drowned all my sadness into my job.
I knew, divorce was my only option out of this unhappy world. But I am not for it due to my own reasons. In short I have to lead this life forever.
Shortly followed, was our infertility journey. Just when I thought my child would give me a meaning to my meaningless life, came this shocking discovery. I had some minor issues, where as the problems with my husband were so severe that made the dream of my child impossible with out IVF .After 2 failed IVF cycles, I had no desire to life anymore.

Finally a year later my husband was posted abroad. This came as a blessing as the problems at home had reached its peak.We moved abroad.
I had a lot of hope for our disastrous marriage now. As I believed that staying alone, my husband would care a lot more and no more of in-laws issues and the passion and love can be back.
As usual, this dream also took no time to get shattered.
I left my job now as I developed some health issues, hence wanted to avoid any stress.
After a days work,when my husband would return home,it is just a couple of words that .he speaks and then on goes the TV and the follows dinner that he has watching TV.He dosent even respond to me when I speak as hez too engrossed in the TV.
When hez almost asleep,he hits the bed and dozes to sleep while I am still speaking to him.
After crying myself to sleep,it the same story the next day.
I don’t say much as I let him rest as he needs to get back to work the next day.But weeknds too…it’s the same story.
I have tried speaking to him now and then.He acts as if he realizes his mistake.But then the next day,he is the same old man.
I have finally labeled our marriage as SEXLESS.Earlier sex was 3-4 weeks apart.Now 3-4months go by.The day I cry my heart out to him expressing that I am a young woman and make me starve of basic feelings hurts and disturbs me totally.
He fights back saying Im a sex manic and sex is not a big deal in a marriage.
Sometimes ,before my perids,when the hormones in my body go wild,I really get depressed and even dream about cheating on him with another man.
But dreams will be dreams.My conscience will never permit it.
He never understands my feelings and never will.He is a very lazy person and I get absolutely no help in my daily chores.He even throws his tracks,wet towels and underpants on the floor.Which I pick later on and wash.

I know all of you would laugh at me for not divorcing him long ago.I repeat myself,I have no choice but to stay with them.
I really need some genuine support and suggestions……
Thanks for the patience to read this long post.

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2017-09-20
#1
Name: sheldor
Subject:  RE:STUCK IN AN UNHAPPY MARRIAGE
You should really talk to your partner and understand each other's needs.
Try to work things out. I think this article maybe of some help to you

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2016-09-15
#2
Name: Deena
Subject:  RE:STUCK IN AN UNHAPPY MARRIAGE
Hi dear if you are not happy with the person whom you need to share your life better to stay single and enjoy the remaining life. You should not have any kind of regret in life always remember it.
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2016-08-24
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Name: Sakshi
Subject:  RE:STUCK IN AN UNHAPPY MARRIAGE
You should not be with a person who does not care about what you think or what you feel. As your husband it is his duty and responsibility to keep you happy and if can not do that then you should not be with him and be unhappy.
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2016-08-16
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Name: NN
Subject:  RE:STUCK IN AN UNHAPPY MARRIAGE
There is not such thing like i have to stay with him. You always always a choice. It is your life and you have a right to be happy and do what it takes to be happy without thinking about how others will feel.
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2016-08-09
#5
Name: Hardika
Subject:  RE:STUCK IN AN UNHAPPY MARRIAGE
If you are having so many problems sin your marriage you should end it without giving it a second thought. You should keep for happiness as your first priority and if he never understands you the is no point of the relation.
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2016-07-06
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Name: Deepali
Subject:  RE:STUCK IN AN UNHAPPY MARRIAGE
Hi Lady,
I can understand the situation because we would be expecting some thing from them but at least for one percent it cannot be done.
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2016-06-28
#7
Name: SwapnaH
Subject:  RE:STUCK IN AN UNHAPPY MARRIAGE
Hi Person,
Not only you many people would face the same problem you have to say unlucky when you do not have any option to solve your problem but your problem can be solved know.
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2016-06-20
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Name: Sirisha
Subject:  RE:STUCK IN AN UNHAPPY MARRIAGE
Hi Person,
many people like you are leading the same life which were unhappy in their marriage life.But you have to try to make it happier as time goes on.
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2016-06-13
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Name: Patro
Subject:  RE:STUCK IN AN UNHAPPY MARRIAGE
Hi Lady,
Like you many people no matter of gender got strucked in an unhappy married life.If we try to escape from that problem will be started from the society.
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2016-06-06
#10
Name: Dev
Subject:  RE:STUCK IN AN UNHAPPY MARRIAGE
Hi Lady,
DO not think like that.Nothing would happen definitely your wish would come true at one day or the other.It would be better that you need to hold patience.Your problem will be solved.
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2016-06-01
#11
Name: anamika
Subject:  RE:STUCK IN AN UNHAPPY MARRIAGE
I'm going thro kind of same, but ours was a short term one ,it's just 7months , at first we were in mother in law home and we had lots of problems, his mother didn't give us time to even talk. My husband got frustrated and he told he wants to shift to a new house. So we did. From day one in the new house, he tortured me to give divorce or runaway. Spoke so ill of me, and he gave some psychotic reactions to scare me off. I tolerated everything but one sunday I found out he has been romantically involved with a girl or older woman I don't know. Find out thro her messages. The day I confronted about this, he called her infront of me , started to talk romantically. I got upset and I went to my parents house, after a big meeting , he is saying if I wish to live, I can live with him otherwise I can get out if it. I don't know what to do, what to decide. He also tells me now that he was forced into this marriage. Can someone tell me , what should I do
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2016-05-30
#12
Name: Kiran
Subject:  RE:STUCK IN AN UNHAPPY MARRIAGE
Hi Person,
Even i too face the same problem what to do seriously am also became so lonely am not ready to live on this earth also what to do i have blank question in my mind do not know which solution to be taken also.
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2016-05-24
#13
Name: Anuj
Subject:  RE:STUCK IN AN UNHAPPY MARRIAGE
Hi Person,
I think you are facing very severity in the problem but the thing is you need to lead the life and have to like with what ever you have and then you will be happy also even though you can't then you need to break it up.
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2016-05-16
#14
Name: Sara
Subject:  RE:STUCK IN AN UNHAPPY MARRIAGE
HEY
I feel really sorry for you after hearing all this. But i must say that you are a strong woman and too patient to bear all this. I will pray that happiness comes in your life really soon and all your problems get solved. All the best
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2016-05-10
#15
Name: anandi
Subject:  RE:STUCK IN AN UNHAPPY MARRIAGE
Sorry to hear that.You have beared a lot.He seemed very different.Talk to your elders.this issue needs your parents' intervention.try that.all the best dear.dont worry.be happy
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2016-05-06
#16
Name: Lohita
Subject:  RE:STUCK IN AN UNHAPPY MARRIAGE
Hello lady,
So what problem you are facing exactly can you say then people in the forum will help you with some solution and can you share what you have done and also and it would be better also.
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2016-04-20
#17
Name: No Name
Subject:  RE:STUCK IN AN UNHAPPY MARRIAGE
hi lady,
Which person do not have problem just say even me also has problems for once or twice our family people will solve but it is our life and we need to solve on our own and we must not try to escape from it.
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2016-04-01
#18
Name: Disha
Subject:  RE:STUCK IN AN UNHAPPY MARRIAGE
Hello Lady,
Why would you think that people will laugh at you.Remove such thoughts from your mind.And any how you got to know your husband nature and behavior.So try to change your husband nature in your life style.Taste him love feeling.
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2016-03-03
#19
Name: Am with you
Subject:  RE:STUCK IN AN UNHAPPY MARRIAGE
Hello,
I can understand your feelings, you have understood him very well, you know his positive and negative points. You make him feel of love. Then automatically he understands you but it needs lots of patience, these words are not inculcated he must change by himself any how you are not staying with in laws, do not irritate him you talk less to him create circumstances that he needs your help a lot. Think my suggestion in positive way. According to my knowledge taking a divorce means escaping from problem but not facing a problem. One day comes definitely your husband will say that he cannot live with out you. Wishing you good luck.
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2016-01-16
#20
Name: always there
Subject:  its time to talk
do you know your husband loves you or not? make him talk to you? talking is very effective and it can solve many problems? take him in your confidence and show him you really want to know his problem may be he will share with you something.
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