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2009-10-21
Name: swapna Hi,
I am the mother of an extremely active 3 yr old.. As of now, i spend every moment at home with my little one.. n i do household work only when she' s sleeping.. so, she' s always quite happy. She' s a quick learner and she recites poems, talks fluently and loves to paint and colour.. The only problem with her is that she is kind of hyper-active and mischevious, she likes to run around all the time..
Now, I recently took a brk from my job after i put her in preschool.. every1 i know tells me that this is the best time for my little one to have a sibling.. Althought i don' t mind having 2 kids and the sort of like the feeling of ' complete' family, I am scared about going through the whole process again...i don' t think i wud have any energy left in me if i have two naughty kids at home, and getting back to job would have to be quite tough. My husband also doesnt feel we need another one, but he left the decision on me.. My inlaws and relatives keep telling crazy stories abt spoilt single kids.. That bothers me a lot. Do single kids tend to become more lonely or selfish compared to others ?
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2016-07-10
#1
Name: Ravi
Subject:  RE:confused on second child
Hi Swapna,
Why do you think that not to have second child you must be feel to be blessed to have even second child also.
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2016-07-01
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Name: Deepali
Subject:  RE:confused on second child
Hi SWapna,
Actually having single is not so good or not so bad because if kids are single they will miss the love of brother and sister and after they have grown you will miss them.
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2016-06-24
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Name: Disha
Subject:  RE:confused on second child
Hi Swapna,
Child must not be lonely in their life.They must have some one as pair and then only they will be happy also.So better it would be good you go for another kid in your life.
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2016-06-16
#4
Name: swathi
Subject:  RE:confused on second child
Hi Swapna,
Children are gift by gods.And you can consider them as symbol of your love only.So do not make any blunder in case of children.If you want only you would try but do not abort them.
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2016-06-10
#5
Name: Nedia
Subject:  RE:confused on second child
Hi Swapna,
Why do you think like that.You must have one more baby in your life.And it will be looking so cute also if your family consists of four people.So nothing will happen to you.
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2016-06-03
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Name: Siya
Subject:  RE:confused on second child
Hi Swapna,
Why do you get confused to have another child in your life.There is no problem and it is good to have just think if our parents would think in that way only we do not have sisters and brothers know.
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2016-05-27
#7
Name: Sai
Subject:  RE:confused on second child
Hi Swapna,
So then what decision you had taken can you say and it would be better if you would suggest from your exp also and they will also take some solution for their problem also.Hope good for you in your life.
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2016-05-18
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Name: Leela
Subject:  RE:confused on second child
Hi Swapna,
So can you share what you have done to solve your problem because many people would think the same and you had chosen the best solution for your problem which you are facing also and then it would be better if you do that.
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2016-05-15
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Name: Priya
Subject:  RE:confused on second child
Hi Swapna,
Why do you feel like that you can have the second child so happily because you must try hard for some span of years and later every thing will be cleared also.You just think of your kid and your child cannot live solitary know.
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2016-05-12
#10
Name: Valli
Subject:  RE:confused on second child
Hello Swapna,
There is no need to get tensed on this because you can have the second child so happily and it will not be any problem to you and if you think like that ow could our ancestors would give birth to many people.
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2016-05-11
#11
Name: Kaira
Subject:  RE:confused on second child
hello Swapna,
Nothing would happen if you think like that you will not feel so happy hardly you will try hard for only some years and after that there will not be any problem also I hope you will have more one kid also.
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2011-12-26
#12
Name: Riva
Subject:  Second Child
Hi Swapna, I feel its always good to have a second child...but if you feel that it ll be difficult for you to raise a second child and will make things even more difficult, then you should wait for 2-3 years more when ur daughter is lil more mature and you dont hv to run after her all the time, in my opinion then you ll be able to raise both ur kids happily...till thn u ll have another 2-3 yrs wrk exp n can take a break..n as far as buying stuff for kids is concerned even today u hv awesome online baby portals like babeezworld etc..i m sure in future u ll have even better services to mk things better :) u ll find raising 2nd child a cake walk... its always gr8 to hv a sibling..he is one in ur generation who' ll be by ur side... n if u still feel that no u want to hv only one kid thn u cn be fine wid it there is no hard n fast rule tht ur kid will get spoilt as it depends on ur family values which i m sure u being a concerned mom will be awesome at it :) all d best..wish u all the happiness..
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2009-10-23
#13
Name: meghna
Subject:  hello
it is your own personal decision. i am a full time mum of 2 kids with age gap of 2 yrs. If it is double trouble, it is double fun too. I remember so many times feeling so miserable taking care of both. but i also remember times when I have laughed out heartily looking at funny things they do. Both eat well in each other' s company, play together, also fight with each other. but its all part of growing up. I think its wonderful to have 2 kids, so when they grow up they have each other' s company. They have somebody to call them their own brother or sister. Just think of your own brother or sister.its up to you whatever you decide. until the baby is atleast 6 months old, there will be difficulties managing their individual routines, diff types of food, sleep patterns, your own well being, expecting the older one to act grown up etc. but it gets easier as they grow up. but well, thats not the end of it..there are always new kinds of problems at every stage. so its all up to you. All the best.
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2009-10-21
#14
Name: anonymous
Subject:  All the best
hi swapna,
having one or two kids is a personal choice and you should go for the second kid only if you want another child.pls do not have a second child just because everyone around is pressurizing you. also since u are a working women i don' t think you should go for a second child unless and until you have a good support system. Having myself gone through two pregnancies, i can say you need to be mentally prepared for the second child because if you are the only one whose gonna take care of both the kids its going to be quiet a task.On the other hand if you are mentally prepared to go through this phase then yes two kids are fun to have around and they do find company in each other. Especially in times like ours where no one has time for each other,its nice to see your kids having each other for company.So think from all sides and then take a decision.All the best,
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2009-10-21
#15
Name: Radhika
Subject:  second child
Hi Swapna, though I agree with you that you would have no energy in you raising 2 kids but still that is managable. I am a mother of 2 and so knw what you are talking about. I have a 2.5 yrs son and a 10 month old daughter. The sole reason for me and my husband to take a second chance is that siblings with lesser age difference tend to get along together very well. If you explain to them about the new arrival throughout the nine months they accept the new born very easily and have excellent bonding. regarding the elder being hyper active, you can chanalise that hyper activity to help you with the second child. But as ur family mentions single children are more prone to becoming very self centerd and selfish as they have concentrated attention always and they do not want to share anytyhing.
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2012-07-11
#16
Name: Aaron smith
Subject:  confused on second child
don´ t confused on second child , because one child is the best child .

try to get this truth .

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2009-10-21
#17
Name: Deepti
Subject:  Similar thought
Hi,
Though my kid is just 1.5 yrs old , i am still of the opinion that one is fine with me. I have same thoughts like urs abt having a second kid (though its too early now) that going thru all those times again is nt possible , no energy left .. physically and mentally . Its a task raising a kid specially when the woman is wrking(as i am ) . I have left this ques fr future but as of today.. i will nt want a second child.
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