I need your sincere advice, I' m in a problem and I need your advice.
I' m Harini married for last 3 years and aged 26, My husband is a very good person and I love him a lot and we are leading a happy life. My husband is a sweet and kind person except he is bit wild in sex and his expectation in sex are too high that I couldnâ€™t adjust and accommodate.
He is very understanding, he understand my situation and feelings most of the time and sometime he shows frustration that I' m not accommodating to his desires and I' m bit upset when I' m seeing frustrated and angry on me for that.
Let me be open in his desire and where I' m not comfortable. I' m fine with having normal sex with him and natural intercourse, but he likes sucking and licking stuff which I' m unconfortable doing with my va**ina. I' ve requested him to not do that as it may not be healthy, but he completely ignores it.
Now a days, his desire is turning too wild that he inserts grapes and crushed banana peices into my va***ina and starts sucking them from there and eating as well. I' m really concerned of both of our health, I' m really worried that he is eating fruits by sucking from my vagina.
I somehome tolerated all this, but now the worst thing is he is asking me to suck his penis which I feel disgusting. I cried at him that this is something too unnatural and I canâ€™t do that. As he loves me, he accepted it with disappointment, but he is not sticking to it. He forgets that I' m not ok for it and he requests for it frequently next time
Sometime this specific discussion turns into argument where he shows lot of videos where girls sucking penis, I argue with him that they are prostitutes and homely girl will not do that. He never agrees to my statement.
Since this issue is too personal that even I canâ€™t discuss with my close friends, only person I can talk is my mom, when I spoke to my mom about sucking penis without quoting my personal life problem, my mom seriously said that only prostitutes will do that family girl should not think about it.
Now sucking his penis has become heart of my family life problem, now a days he is adamant in his desire and he has reached to a level saying to me that sexual pleasure is that something mutually understand and give to other partner and if one cannot give it to other they are unfit for sexual life, now he is asking me to give the pleasure he want or asking me to allow him to go to call girl for this need and he is justifying saying that he would have gone to call girl without my knowledge, but being a loyal husband he wants my acceptance or me itself fulfill his desire.
Iâ€™m terribly confused, understanding his realistic concern thought to give up my stand, Iâ€™ve just tried once to satisfy his desire, I disgustfully held his penis and closed my eyes and took into my mouth and as soon as it hit my throat, because of the smell and stickiness, I felt something bad and I couldnâ€™t control and I got immediate vomit and went to rest room and vomited.
Though he hated the way I disgustfully handled his penis, being a good husband he really worried that I vomited without control, he left the topic there for few days considering my pathetic situation and now again he is bringing up the topic and suck request.
Iâ€™m not seeing any option for me now to come out of this, I cannot allow him to go for call girl. Iâ€™ve strengthened my heart and mind and now Iâ€™m prepared to do it without ending up like last time (vomiting). Other than his this request, he is very kind and gentle, he never looks at any girl and he keeps me happy, so Iâ€™m mentally prepared to give up my stand and handle the situation.
I have few questions especially with girls/married girls to handle my situation please advice
1. Is it fine to suck husbandâ€™s penis, is this natural thing or abnormal?
2. What I can do to avoid disgust feeling against this act?
3. What safety measures I need to do to be healthy
4. What if he cums within mouth, do we need spit it out? If so I need to have some dustbin at bedroom (again while writing itself feeling disgusting)
5. In case one or few drops if I had to swallow, does this pose any health issues?
6. As a girl how you have came thru this in your life? Do you gave this to your husband or your husband politely understood your concern and gave up their adamancy?
7. In summary how to do this without disgust.
Iâ€™m sorry if my language is vulgar, I donâ€™t have alternate words to express my situation
Hi Harini - 1st of all I feel pity for your ignorance in sexual matters. You need to understand that it' s not unnatural or as you think disguisting to suck husband penis. If you are a Telugu then I can explain much better in my mother tongue.
See 1st of all push away of your thought that this act is not natural. Do you know that in modern generation 70% of the couples does this. Before doing this, 1st both partners need to have mutual understanding as your husband has rightly mentioned.
After that before performing both needs to maintain a very good Hygene that means removing all the hair from your private parts and neatly washed and clean.
Then to remove your uncomfort, you can pour Honey or a ice cream on your hus penis and lick it slowely. Let me tell you again and you read it again, it' s very very very natural thing. Even if you go to doctor, they advise the same.
With regard to swallowing his semen, it wont cause any harm to you or your husband...just swallow it like any other liquid if he cums inside. It wont make you pregnant.
Let me know if you have any other myths or doubts or any thing, as a very experienced person i can clarify.
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