Name: Simmi
Hi,
Honestly, I was afraid of putting my fears to public about the conflict that is brewing between my husband and y son (14, 9th std.) with regard to the career choice he should be making in class 11th and later for college! My son is little above average student and does complacently good in his UTs and SAs. However, my husband is from the engineering background, running his own company, needless to say with a dream of our son joining him in near future by graduating with a similar engineering degree!!
The problem is that as of now (and I seriously mean AS OF NOW) my son is not too inclined towards becoming an engineer. It’s not that he does not like science as a subject, but he does not wish to be forced to take up science in his class 11, or to put it more simply, he has different dreams for his career!. Anytime the issue related to his career comes up at home, the atmosphere gets tensed and the home seems filled with negative energy, due to the conflict of interests between father and son. I am trying my best to be neutral through this query today, as to I earnestly request you to kindly help me find a way to calm both of them.
1. How can I make my husband understand that it’s our duty to guide and help our child find the right career choice, but we must not force him to pursue the dreams that we were unable to fulfil for ourselves! That we must try to understand the dreams of our child as well?
2. How can I make my son understand that we as parents are concerned for your career choices so that you do not land up being clueless in this BIG BAD world? That he may have different career choice, but his father also stands correct if he wishes you to follow in his footsteps?