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hi nicemom,
In the first place i din't fully understand what u meant by asking him" do u wish to talk." Well i assume u meant if he wished to talk about the quarrel u had 3 days back. But u said he compromised after that , and also asked sorry for that. Then why did the need for the discussion arise. I don't fully understand. Then does it mean ur hubby just asked for a sorry "in sharab ke nashey" and then back to square one again. Just tell me in detail, so that i get a better picture.. But no matter, though these foolish men keep saying sorry, they keep doing the mistakes again and again. Its good that u have stopped ironing his dresses.
U know nicemom, i too should tell u one more thing. Like u even i used to iron up his dress, and even polish his shoes and keep his socks ready at the door. But , 2 mths back when he yelled at me terribly and even refused to say a word of sorry to me, i got terrribly irritated, and decided to stop doing seva for him anymore, because, i din't get any sort of recognition for all i do to him, and so after tht day, only my hubby does it. But now when his parents visited, his dad used to iron up his dress for his office, as if to show that its only he who is serving his son. And hence i too stayed silent till then and after they left, for the first time after 3 mths i ironed up his shirt to office, just to show him tht i care a lot for him , but its only he who always doesn't know my worth. Even yesterday he was very rude and din't say a word to any of my conversation or question, and acted as if he never listened anything. Then i got wild and whenever i get wild, i start crying, because i am a ver...y weak hearted person.
I asked him why he is ignoring me like this. I told him that i have compromised a lot for his sake, and still if he doesn't recognise it i really feel bad. Again he said that that he dosen't want to talk to me and hates me etc.. etc.. Then i told him, to think how offended i would feel when he keeps on saying the same thing again and again, and i said, i have lost interest in life, as i always only get this sort of behaviour from him, and then i quit the place and sat in front of the tv alone. EVen today morning, i silently made his breakfast and did my duty , but din't talk much to him, and at the end, before he left for office,he patched up with me and asked me to stop crying. So took so long for him to patch up. These foolish men and their ego...s My God i wish we never take birth as a girl hereafter. So much for us to tolerate and so much of stuff, abuses, and still we are living the same man, just for the sake of our kids.
I exactly understand how u feel nicemom, because i too am sailing in the boat. Though he patched up today , he will again start another quarrel very soon and i know that very well. All this will last only for a day or two and then he will find another reason to jump on me. Like u even frustrated in life, and to be very frank i even seriously though what would happen if i take up a divorce, because, i was so frsutrated with this man.And so as usual i called up my parents, and my parents asked me to forget it and keep cool. My mom asked to not to run behind that man asking for apologies again and agai. She asked me to just remain silent, neither ask for applogy nor quarrel again. But just stay silent and see how he reacts. So i was doing it.
U are doing the right thing nicemom, by showing a change in ur attitude. After all when only will these stupid men learn to realise their wive's worth. U are very true in saying we are dependant on them financially and also for the sake of our kid.Even i have been tolerating all this rubbish, just to safeguard the interest of my daughter. and yesterday when my hubby was yelling at me, my daughter almost started crying, and so i asked him to stop shouting at me, and hence he too consoled his daughter. Nicemom, one thing i would like to tell u is, even if u wish to argue, do it when ur daughter is away or when she sleeps. I am able to see how sad my daughter becomes, when we both quarrel. And hence i am always cautious not to shout of get excited and just talk the content, the only weekness in me is that i start crying bitterly when he wounds my heart. And i am not able to control it, and when my daughter ses me crying, she too cries, and hence these days, i am very careful in front of my daughter. After all what sin has that little angel committed, to deserve such and bad life. So in spie of all this i am just staying silent for the sake of my daughter. Be bold nicemom, don't worry and i hope the situation dosen;t worsen. Keep me posted, about all the improvemetn. And let me know if this new formulae of urs is working or not. Dont try it more than 2-3 days. Let me know how are u feeling now. Even i feel really relieved when i vent out all my sorrows to u, so even u should be feeling the same. By the way is ur mom aware of all this problems now, and what does she say about it.
write soon, take care and bye

hi nicemom,
Very sad to hear that ur daughter is falling sick again an again. Good tht ur are getting her blood checked once again. That also could be a reason. I pray for ur daughter's speedy recovery. Let me know what the doc says. DOn't send her to school for another 2-3 days.
Looks like u din't see my message on the other board. Nicemom, what can u tell u. My life is getting hell day by day. The only good thing is that my in laws have left. But they have poisoned their son;s mind so much that now my hubby dosen't even talk to me. And even if i ask somethin, he answers in a very rude and indiferent manner as if to insult me. Nicemom, i really tell u, i feel i am being treated like a doormat, and feel so very humiliated. Why should i deserve this sort of lif ,for all the copromises i have made.

Reg beers, my hubby dosen't drink at home at all. He knows that i don;t like drinkinng, smoking, etc. Slowly he has quit smoking. He drinks only in office parties or some family get together.The good thing here now in canada is that, we have never had such parties like we used to have in singapore and brunei. So its almost 3 yrs now since my hubby had a drink. If at all he drinks once in a while in parties , its okay with me. Anyways i don't allow him to drink at home, and even he is not so particular.
U are very correct, men change when they drink. and they behave sweet just in order to flatter us as they feel guilty that they are doing something wrong. So now in my case, my hubby dosen't drink, and hence also dosen't compromise. But when i heard wht u say, i feel it would be good if my hubby too has a drink this weekend, so that atleast then he will compromise with me. Its long since he said a sorry to me,and he will never say a sorry under any cirsumstances, that's what i really hate about him. AFter committing so much blunders in life, he never even says a sorry.

This time again during my in laws visit, my husband has changed so much. I really don't understand nicemom why men change so much when their parents are around. My in laws have poisoned his mind so much. Even if they said all that its fine, becaue i know they are dogs, but what happneed to my hubby , at least he should have supported me and taken care of my self respect. But he has completely failed to do it, and that is what is really worrying me. Please advice me nicemom. And check up the other message board as well.bye

hi new,
yuo are a free bird now, atleast as far as the in-laws are concerned !! my weekend was no good too. my daughter had fever after she returned from school on friday, she was ok till lunch then suddenly when i carried her to the b'room she felt very warm, checked and saw that she ran a temp. thpo' she was playing well. but thta night she had high fever 102.2. next day went to the doc. no signs of any infection. so b'coz this is recurrent, he said to get a immunity test (blood). just to know whether thats the cause. tho' my mom and the doc feels that her immune system is fine b'coz last time when she had a stomach infection her WBC count went hight, that means she produced the white blood corpocells just fine. lets see, the report will come tommorrow. she keeps me very worried. but this time she didn't make any fuss at all. yesterday i didn't send her to school, rest day and also had to go fot the blood work. today she ahs gone to school. i found out that her teacher was also absent yesterday for the same reasons. i don't know whether she is pickig up the infection from her? i can't even just point a finger at her only, so....!!
as for my hubby, some times he is fine and sometimes the other way. big time parenting fights. atleast, now i don't make the move. so on satturday he came to me. i said i'l patch only if i hear a 'sorry' from you. he said it !! i think, you are right. when you play 'hard to get' , then they remain fine. he's got a week or 2 to go to india dn things are just ok, not excellent betw us. so he is trying best to pattao me. but i've noticed. when he has his weekend beers, he is very soft and romantic and aks for patching and stuff. but otherwise, he hesitates. it would be wrong to say, that he doesn't try, he does try, but still, its different. does your hubby drink? my hubby drinks only beer (thats what the deal has been made!!). he will have his beers only on friday night and saturday.
how is your hubby and things betw. you'll?
my daughter has now started seeing ans sitting threw the entire movies (only animated disney). she saw 'lion king', 8-10 times !!! and 'jungle book' (just got it yesterday). so now she sits threw them.
write soon, now that you are tension free...!!

hi,
thanks for replying even after all the mess you are in. your are right, these men change color like chameleons.
i am most of the time very affectionate to my daughter and try overlooking her few pranks, just for the simple reason that she doesn't get enough from dad. but a wrong thing i'm doing too, is sometimes, i get real mad on her and over react. i feel so guilty the very next minute and hug her and say " mommy loves you and please forgive me'. my mom does a good thing of juts walking of when i yell at her. so that she doesn't feel insulted nor pampered. and my mom returns after we both are fine. and she takes it, yaar. she comes back to me saying, " mommy, don't cry, its ok, see i'm happy'. i know she yells back at us, b'coz thats what she sees many a times. the only drawback is, she repeats the same mistakes. (thats what a child is all about, right new!!).

i understand all situations, but i'm still not successful in any of my relationships. i think i give the most oints to my mother daughter relationship. atleast thats good. i've tried my best to be a good wife but failed. i think the only indgredient for a good wife is to behave as if you are totally a fool and always go back asking for forgiveness. this time i'm not giving up at all. all this time, as you have always read, i go to hubby first and try for reconciliation, but not this time, i don't care if he leaves for india in this same situation. its good i won't miss him a bit. this started on sunday and till yesterday, i talked with him ok.. whatever little i had to talk. but since last night, i've decided not to even do that.
he doesn't care one bit. only keeps awake till 1 am in the nights and gets up in a rush. he never askes how my daughter ate her breakfast, did she fuss...nothing. on the contrary, today he saw some food on the kitchen platform, so he said," you have to still pack her snack box?" (i had already got it ready, that was just extra) ...i say, couldn't he do it if he was so bothered. i relly think i've pampered him a lot.

i iron his shirts for work and also weekends, make breakfast for him(used to ...!!), mow the lawn, do all the grocery,take all decisions for the baby, ......i've asked many wives (his c0-worker's wives') do you'll do all this. my hubby irons his own clothes, makes a cup of tea and leaves. he doesn't need me to do all this. do you do all this...?"
new, i feel my brains are tottally rusted in such environment. i used to be so vibrant and well spoken when i passed out of law college and then worked at a law firm. i had confidence in myself. now, i feel am i really ready for the world outside, when i think of working. will i be able to present well. i really need motivational boost. do you see yoursel in such a state too? i am speaking very frankly to you. to the outside world,i look very strong adn really do everything (as o told you before). but from within i've lost my self esteem.

hey new, i've got a lot more to discuss ,but we'll do that after tuesday, ok.
bye for now

hi nicemom,
how are things at ur end. u sounded sad in the other board. What's the problem? vent it out to me so that i can help u. how's ur daughter doing.
Glad to hear that u are doing all the shopping for the kids in ur in law's place. when is ur hubby leaving to india. Which airlines is he flying. just let me know if its a good deal.
bye, write soon.

hi new,
how are things? thanks for your reply. actaully, i am not very bothered about how to celebrate my daughter's b'day. b'coz i do it at her school and then on a weekend we have a party with friends and family. last year, i sent some goodies like pastries, cake , chips chocolates, and fancy plates and party hats,plus loot-bags. so thats not what i'm thinking about.
i'm wondering about how to attend the other class-mates' parties. whether we must accompany or child and be with them till the end or leave them and then pick -up.
my daughter is in her old batch. so her group is the same. they all know eachother since more than a year now. from toddler class to this present group.
about the stationery....when i send some thing for her,it goes to be cubby only, like blankee ,panties , clothes,food. but i am not sure what they are going to do with the school supplies. b'coz these kids 2+ yr olds are small to put back their markers and crayons in their own boxes. also things like play-doh and pencils.
i'll replt to your note after i read the message you posted on the other board.
bye for now

Hi nicemom,
Sorry nicemom, i was too busy with work and couldn't catch u up. First of all tell me one thing, is ur daughter still in the same group or have u put her in a new one. Is her b'day fast approaching. My daughter celeberated her b'day at her day care last time. I bought a very big size cake, with all those written message ,and gave them &a "3: aged candle. ANd handed over the camera to them asked them to take a few snaps, when she cuts the cake. In fact they also allow parents to participate in the cake cutting ceremony, but i din't go as i had to attend physiotherapy classes. Then i sat with the other kids and took some snaps. SO that's it from our side, they take care of the rest, if u wish u can buy her a fancy hat, and send her up. My girl wore her new dress, (no special fancy dressing). So this is how i celebereted. U can add a few more things.
And reg the kids stuff, i don't know how its in preschool. But in my daughter's day care, they keep her things seperately in her box, and don't migle it with others.
And reg moving to a new house, nothing is yet materialised, as the house which we were interested is already occupied by someone else. But we are in another dialemma, whether to stay back over here itself or go over to toronto. But housing in toronto is very very costly, and hence we are now confused. Anyway will arrive at a decision n a mth or 2. One more thing, is that i will be going to india in oct, and hence my hubby says, lets wait for another 3 mths and then decide, accordingly. so nothing is yet decided.
Hope i have answered all ur question. Please let me know if u have any other doubt about the party thing.
bye and catch u up soon. I have posted another message in the other board.
bye and write soon.

hi ,
i read your msg in the other board. i'm happy to know that till now, things are going fine. good work !! i thibk you may not be having time to reply in detail b'coz i had talked about a few other things too, but you didn't reply to that. thats ok, you can catch up later. if possible let me know, if you can tip me about the party things for now.
now a days my hubby drops my daughter to school, and she is thrilled. goes happily. but we are worried that she shldn't fall into a habi, b'coz once my hubby goes to india, she will miss him more.
alls well with me and hubby and also hubby and the baby. everyone is having a good time. today i will go to the indian grocer to buy a few 'rakhis'. my daughter send to her cousins in india. yesterday, i did a lot of shopping for people ion india. mainly for the kids.
another question new, when we send the school supplies to these pre-school, do they put it in a common box and then everybody uses or does the child use his/her own stuff only. what i've seen is that they put it in a common box, like all markers togetjer and crayons etc and all the kids use. what have you done and seen? do you have to send such school supplies? last year, i didn't have to send. may be this year b'coz they are older now?
write when you get a chance
bye for now

hi ,
i read your msg in the other board. i'm happy to know that till now, things are going fine. good work !! i thibk you may not be having time to reply in detail b'coz i had talked about a few other things too, but you didn't reply to that. thats ok, you can catch up later. if possible let me know, if you can tip me about the party things for now.
now a days my hubby drops my daughter to school, and she is thrilled. goes happily. but we are worried that she shldn't fall into a habi, b'coz once my hubby goes to india, she will miss him more.
alls well with me and hubby and also hubby and the baby. everyone is having a good time. today i will go to the indian grocer to buy a few 'rakhis'. my daughter send to her cousins in india. yesterday, i did a lot of shopping for people ion india. mainly for the kids.
another question new, when we send the school supplies to these pre-school, do they put it in a common box and then everybody uses or does the child use his/her own stuff only. what i've seen is that they put it in a common box, like all markers togetjer and crayons etc and all the kids use. what have you done and seen? do you have to send such school supplies? last year, i didn't have to send. may be this year b'coz they are older now?
write when you get a chance
bye for now

Hi nicemom,
I have posted a message in the other board. Hope u have seen it. I have answered all the questions in that board itself. bye and catch u up soon.

hi new,
how was the dinner? i'm sure everything went well b'coz they can;t just start their play right away. actually speaking, we must be optimistic and think that this time you will be able to handle things differently and there will be no chance for tiffs and mis-understanding in your life. again, talk sweet with hubby especially.
lets talk about something else. so you are planning to move. will this place be closer to toronto or will you be in the same place as where you are right now? yeah, town house will be more spacious and can do more things than an apt. but do you have a lot of things to move. we also moved from an apt. to our own house and didn't realise till late how much unwanted stuff i had stored. that was still less, now if you tell me to move, it'll be a nightmare. thats whenever we plan to move out of this state to go some other state.
today my daughter was very well behaved. as you had advised long back, to store her kind of foods in the lower compt of the refridgerater...she said i want to eat a slice of bread and finished it on her own. she now a days eats her dinner also on her own. most of the times i cook pasta for her . thats her favorite and then comes aloo paratha. now she knows that dinner will be different menu, not rice-dal.
have you sent your daughter to any of the birthday party invitation from school. when she was younger than 2 yrs, i used to reply with a 'no thanks note'. but now, i feel she can go and enjoy. moreover she is also looking forward to going and also celebrating her b'day with school friends this year. onew b'day part is a 'pre-historic party'. what shld i make her wear. i was thinking of dressing hre like dinosor or what else? give me some ideas.
do we just drop of the kid or stay with them thro' the party. b'coz my daughter definitely will not stay alone with un-known people. what do you do?
bye for now

hi,
today wa s abetter day at school for my daughter. yesterday she cried a lot and kept saying"my mama'. but today she was ok. she also ate her snack . thank god. also she came back cheerfull today. but her teacher is so silly. she said "oh she doesn't want to leave me at all. she does things only if i'm around. talk to her to socialise" so stupid. but obvious, if a child goes back to school after 3 weeks vacation, she is but normal to behave that way for a few days. i told her, you need to give her some time. my daughter was so good and cheerful today compared to yesterday. the teacher who used to take care of them before was so nice and understood child pyschology so well. anyway, i'm happy that my daughter is liking school once again and didn't come home upset like yesterady.
yeah, my huuby's tickets are booked. so i've started shopping a few things for all the kids there. atleast they shld feel happy about there chach/mama coming.
as i wrote before, 'devdas' is ok, nothing khaas. i expected much more. have you seen 'hum dil de chucke sanam' ? it was made by the same directer. but devdas is stretched too long and also the story is changed. paro never meets chandramukhi in the real story. you see it and let me know.
i know, you must be getting palpitation looking at the clock. don't worry new,keep cool. i hope they don't bring up some new hassle in your life !! i'll pray. is your daughter found of grand-ma, or no difference to her? so you will be a lot more in the kitchen now. your idea of letting your mil cook for the night is perfect. like that her son can get mom cooked food !! ladla. you make sure you make plans with your daughter to be out atleast in the evenings.
all the best and write when you get a chance.

Hi nicemom,
how was ur daughter's day at school yesterday. Hope she is doing fine. Hope u saw my previous messages in this and the other board. Villians are expected around 8. today night. So , lets wait and see what happens. Is ur hubby's tickets booked .
probably this weekend we will be getting devdas. I have been waiting to see it. Everybody says that aysh has done a good job.
bye. write soon

Hi nicemom,
Glad to hear that ur daughter is back to school today. Don't worry, she will be fine,and i pray for her. She should in fact be glad tht she is seeing her friends again. So don't worry. Things will be fine.
Glad that u hubby is doing fine with ur daughter, and u had a lovely weekend. So ur hubby will be going next mth. U should be feeling sad that he will be away. Isn't it. But don't worry yaar, its only a matter of 4 weeks, and he will be back. Good that u have special plans for ur daughter after her dad is away. She will surely be missing her dad. By the away if there's a pc in ur in laws place, u can chat with him daily isn;t it. that way u won't miss him much.
Villians will be here, tommorrow evening. SO the day is almost nearing and there's no way i can escape from them. I wish august 14th came after july 30th. It would be so nice!!!!. Oh my god i am so frustrated. I have posted a message in the other board. Hey nicemom! even if the villians come, i will write to u daily. After all they can't ask me, what are doing so long on the computer, that too when its MY HOUSE!!!. They can't interefere atleast in my personal liberty. But if it were their pc , my mil will ask, looks like u spent a lot of time on the computer( u know she eagerly used to ask me, any news from ur husband, whenever i sit with their computer, as if i have to tell her everything, and used to tell me, sit in the computer, after ur daughter goes to sleep. But now its my house, and my pc, so that lady can't interfere in my business. But i am sure, she will have some master plans to bring about misunderstandings between me and my hubby. So if she talks something personal, i will slip away saying, maa i have some work. Give me some more advices reg this nicemom. Write soon , bye and do tell me how was ur daughter's day at school.
By the way u asked me about her fees.
Even here they say that we have to pay the full months fees, if we have to reserve a seat. But i am going for 3 mths, and hence its obvious that we can't pay 1500 dollars for the sake of reserving a seat!! Hopefully she must have a seat when she comes back in jan. that's what one of her teachers say. So i just want to hope for the best. If not, i have to look for some other day care, or even then if i don't get a day care, may be i will put her in a home based day care, for a mth or two and within that hopefully i should be getting a seat in the school structured day cares. Just having hopes. anyways we have plans of moving to a townhouse(rental of course ) by next mth or so. We live in an apt right now, and we feel like having a better spacious house, hence the decision of taking up a townhouse. Look at the irony nicemom, we have our own flat in india, and here we are living in a rental house. If my husband had been smart and hadn't invested all those big savings in buying a house in madras, we could have had a lumpsum amount for downpayment for buying a house here. dekha how selfish my in laws are. They live comfortably there in our money, and here we slog like dogs, without buying a house for ourself. I want god to teach them a lesson for all their selfish deeds.
bye and write soon.
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hi, today, my daughter has gone to school after 3 weeks !! i'm worried, i hope she eats her snack i gave her. she a little sad when i took her, then after she saw her teacher she started talking to her. i hope she will be fine.
her teacher has put up a list of school supplies for the next school year from 7th august. i will have to pay 3 weeks fees. what will you be doing when you go to india? will yo have to pay too?
oh oh, tommorrow, your in-laws will be here. morning or evening? are you cooking something special!!!(ha ha) just kidding!!
all the best

hi,
didn't i tell you, things would be back to normal soon ...and it did. today we had a wonderful day at a theme park, a few hrs drive from our place. we spent the entire day there and had fun . my daughter was excellent !! she ate well, didn't fuss when sleepy and also after we came back, had her dinner too. so i hope things go that way. did i tell you my hubby's tickets are booked for the end of aug and he will be back in 4 weeks. i have to start thinking which places to take my daughter during the weekends. b'coz thats when she is with dad the most.
i'll catch up with you on monday. enjoy your weekend before the storm comes !!

hi nicemom,
How are things now. Hope ur hubby is getting along well with ur daughter now. Have things improved. write soon
bye.

hi nicemom,
Saw ur message, and sad to note about ur hubby's behaviour. Well i really don't understand why does he behave like this. I can undestand one thing, i think ur husband thinks that ur ur mom is responsible for all this, well u know, all these guy are like that. If our parents do something good, that will always be taken in a wrong spirit by them. I fully support u and ur mom. After all kids need to be tackled in a very soft manner, because they are kids and can't understand our seriousness.
Its quite natural for kids to do things against us , but they don't do it purposely. They just do it to see our reaction. And they just have fun about it. This is what her teacher told me few days back. Even my dauhgter had the bad habit of slapping me in a public place. Imagine... how bad i must have felt. I spoke about this to her teacher and she told me tht she is just doing it for fun and just wants to see our reaction and nothing bad in it.

So what i suggest is, u should tell ur hubby about it when u are alone with him. Tell him tht u spoke to her teacher and she told all this(just reproduce all that i have told u) and tell him that paretns have to be patient with the kids, and must teach them in a nice and soft wway.And when she does it don't make it a big issue, but tell her in an assertive manner that what she is doing is wrong and she dosen't like it.But don't keep telling it aaain and again, coz If we exaggerate it, the kids will get restless, and start doing the same thing again. So try telling this in a loving manner to ur hubby, tell him that all kids of her age behave only like that and nothing new that she is doing. Also make him understand that ur mom is not pampering her or spoiling her. Let me know what happnned, Write soon. bye

hi new,
just in my prev msg i wrote to you that alls well now. but now again i'm under tensions. suddenly my daughters become so stubborn and refuses to do things when i tell her in a nice voice. i can still tolerate it and can get work done from her, but my hubby just looses his patience. if i tell her 'not to do' something, the very next moment she does that just to see our reaction. (tho' she actually doesn't want to do it). i don't know who to tell, my baby or hubby !!
this happened just this evening, during my daughter's dinner time. she was eating on her own, her favorite pasta, and she started getting up and climbing on grandma. i tolerate this during lunch time. i usually let her go here and there and then give her a yelling, and she is back. but my hubby gets really mad seeing this. the worst part is that my daughter acts worse when her dad's there. she clings to my mom. so my hubby feels that my mom pampers her, which is not true. so indirectly, he yells at my daughtter a lot now a days. also she has become very demanding for things. like "i want this , now" (may be something which she is not supposed to touch). so my hubby gets very mad and shouts. what i do is let the dinner time or meal time finish and then deal. b'coz once my daughter starts crying, i have to pacify hera nd then start feeding. this happened today. she started crying and so i consolled and fed her. my hubby got upset on me that i covered for her. and that i keep interfering betw the two of them. he is also right in his own way. but i don't understand what to do,new. i'm sure you have gone thro' this or are undergoing this situation. please advise me!!
i am feeling so sad now. i try making hubby happy and this thing happens, when i try keeping my daughter happy, hubby feels that i'm doing wrong parenting. when i go down to pacify him, he says 'not right now, please'. or 'you don't understand at all'. i'm really in a fix. my daughter forgets everything the next day and is happy but hubby dear is sad about the whole thing.
i don't know whether my daughter's clinging to my mom is bothering him . b'coz he feels that b'coz she clings to her everythime we shout at her, that means she pampers her. actually my mom doesn't let go matters like how i do. she sees to it that some how my daughter does what she wants. (but in a nice note, may be playfully or in a story, or some way). you get what i mean?
suddenly, i have become very linient towards my daughter. sub-conciously i feel guilty that she gets so much scoldings. i know that this feeling is wrong, but i don't knwo how to get over it !!
write soon.

hi new,
i was wondering where you were? i hoped that your daughter was fine and not ill. good to hear that you had a day different from evryday.
things are fine with my life. everythings good. hubbydear and also my daughter. they both are behaving great with eachother. when my daughter's good, her dad is fine. i have finally decided not to go to india and let hubby go . b'coz we sat and thought about it and i felt, that my daughter won't have all that much to do there like here. either she will have to play in the parks or play with other kids in the neighbour hood. here she does many more things. also her favorite vhs 'barney', wiggles, cailou and all that , i will have to get it transfered to the india video mode. if i sat for a few days with my in-laws, my daughter can't eat much as my daughter loves to snack on chicken. (in-laws are pure veg). so i will have to saty at mom's place and my hubby there. he is so sweet, last time we went to india, he satyed only for 4 days at his place and rest of the time he was with us. he looks after us very well. so if i accompany him, he won't be able to finish the job he is going for. (getting property matter's solved with brother). my sil doesn't seem to get along with my mil, so you understand........ .but my hubby still says that , i can come if i want to .
i'm looking for bank jobs for right now. b'coz i can't put in more than 5 hrs a day for right now. i will keep my daughter in day-care till 2.30 pm only, not more.
my daughter will be back to school from monday. i'll be bringing her home for lunch. will send a snack box this time b'coz she doesn't eat anything there. (doesn't like sweet goodies)
yeah, 5 more days for you !! just enjoy, girl. remember to think and talk.
how is your daughter doing? you didn't write about her for long. any pranks?