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2008-11-04
Name: richa Hi all

I am 30 yr old woman married for 5 yrs and live in U.S. My husband and I have been trying for our first baby from past 1.5 yrs. I got pregnant thrice but all three pregnancies soon ended in a miscarriage (Jan, July & Nov). 1st time pregnancy ended at 5.5 weeks. 2nd time- at 6.5 weeks and 3rd time- again at about 5 weeks. The first two times I had d&c while the third miscarriage just started y' day (11/03) when I started pouring naturally and I am still bleeding heavy. This third time my urine test strip never showed positive while blood hcg test showed positive but was not doubling.

As many of you can understand how it feels going through this. It really is a horrible vicious circle. I am really broke. It feels so terrible, lonely and depressed. Living in US adds to it. Anyway, having found this forum I feel I am not alone in this. And honestly it feels so much comfort to be able to share feelings with indian women who I can relate to and who can understand this.

Doctors here in US are so vile and insensitive. They have nothing to say that can help me. I had to push them hard after 2nd miscarriage to get blood tests done for any potential problems. All tests came normal. But I have no clues why these miscarriages happened. This third time as soon as I found out I am pregnant, I even quit my job to avoid stress and stay home for the sake of pregnancy but I guess this pregnancy was supposed to end too. In my case, I am lucky enough to get pregnant soon but I guess not fortunate enough to have body to hold onto a pregnancy.

I have no idea what I am going to do now. My husband says we should give a break for few months before we start trying again but I am not sure if I can wait that long coz there’s nothing else on my mind now and with the fact that time is flying, I am getting old and with this history of recurrent miscarriages now its makes future uncertain, so I can’t live peacefully.

Anyway, I want to know what tests do doctors in India do to test for potential problems behind recurrent miscarriages? What are the problems that are usually diagnosed and treatments that they suggest for that. I want to make sure my doctor here do all the tests.

This first trimester challenge is so hard to get through. I still wonder is there something I eat that I shouldn' t in first trimester. Is there anything that I do that I shouldn' t. I took all precautions each time like avoid lifting anything heavy, no sex , caffeine etc in first trimester. I just know of basic standard precautions. So, if anyone can provide me the list of things or food to avoid when pregnant or precautions to take during pregnancy specially first trimester. I just want to make sure I am not missing out anything.

Looking forward to hear from you- any tips, advise and your experiences.

Thanks
-richa






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2018-08-15
#1
Name: katherine
Subject:  RE:Three miscarriages in a year...
Hey Richa, hope you are doing well. I am sorry to hear about it.I know what you have gone through. Toughest period is when one is TTC.The worst part is the miscarriages and 3 of them makes it even more hard to cope with. I agree with your husband and would advice you to take a break also. Try to regain your health.Rushing into things wont solve them. Consult a specialist and follow his advise.I wish you all the best for your treatment.
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2018-08-14
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Name: Jiana
Subject:  RE:Three miscarriages in a year...
Hey Richa, hope you are doing well. I am so sorry to hear about your MCs. Its quite tragic. I know what you have through. TTC period is very tough. And facing 3 MCs in a year is even more difficult to digest. I think your husband is right. You should take a break. Atleast for 4-6 months to regain your health. You know poor health can also lead to MC. So I would advise you not to rush for anythng. Consult a good infertility specalist. It is essential to understand the real cause behind MC. Recurrent MC is not a casual thing so do consult a reliable clinic asap. I wish you all the best for yor treatment.
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2018-08-14
#3
Name: emily
Subject:  RE:Three miscarriages in a year...
Hi Richa, hope you are doing well. This is so sad buddy. 3 MCs in a year is a big deal. This is so unfortunate. Being an infertile I can feel your pain. I have been TTC for 10 years. I know how difficult is it to conceive a child and then loose him/her. I think you should rush to a good clinic. Get a thorough checkup to find out the cause behind MCs. It might be because of avarion damage or tubal issues. Dont make you own assumptions that you must have eaten something. Let the doctor decide the real thing. And I support your hubbys stance. Take a break to cure your body first and consider trying. Good Luck buddy, I hope this helps.
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2018-08-09
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Name: lilian
Subject:  RE:Three miscarriages in a year...
Infertility is a very hard thing to hit a woman. I can't imagine what it must be like. My sister went through it. She was told that she was infertile by her doctor. Her husband was a doctor too, but besides all the knowledge they could do nothing. Then they tried going for IVF. At first they were resistant, they were double minded. But then my sister went to various fertility clinics, and the doctor assured her that she had a chance through IVF. Thus, they started the treatments. Her first few tries went down the drain, she even had a miscarriage. But on her 5th try, she was pregnant, and at 8 months 2 weeks, she gave birth to her precious little baby boy.
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2018-08-09
#5
Name: Olivia
Subject:  RE:Three miscarriages in a year...
Hi there. I am so sorry to hear what you have been through. Having three miscarriages must have been very difficult to deal with.It must be very hard for you to carry on with life. I can't even imagine how you must be feeling. I had a friend who had a miscarriage a last year. She was 29 years old, and she was devastated to know that after TTC for 5 years, she miscarried. She consulted various doctors, on what to do. Some of them gave her the option of other treatments, but she was just so devastated. I told her to adopt a child. But she still hasn't made up her mind. She thinks that she will lose a child no matter what. But her husband is very supportive and he is trying to convince her to opt for treatments such as IVF and surrogacy.
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2018-08-09
#6
Name: Sephal
Subject:  RE:Three miscarriages in a year...
Hugs to you dear. So sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I will pray for you. I know it's really very hard for you. It was really a tough situation. I can feel your pain. My sister has suffered from the same situation. It was really difficult for her to deal with such a situation. It was a very heartbreaking moment for her. She lost all her hopes. I hope you overcome this situation as my sister did. I wish you a great future ahead. I wish you may have a bundle of happiness. Best of luck to you. Baby dust to you
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2016-09-21
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Name: Vanishre
Subject:  RE:Three miscarriages in a year...
Hi i would say after having these many miscarriages back to back its better you come to India and get yourself treated. I would say India today is one of the best countries as per my knowledge.
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2016-08-18
#8
Name: Jenny
Subject:  RE:Three miscarriages in a year...
There are some things that you can't control and there things are like those. Some times no matter what you do things that are supposed to happen, happen. Keep taking your precautions and hope for the best and take care.
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2016-08-14
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Name: Ashna
Subject:  RE:Three miscarriages in a year...
it is great that you got all the tests done i think you should consult some more doctors and see what they say or you can visit india and meet a family doctor or a doctor who has handled cases known to you.
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2016-03-10
#10
Name: Abhay
Subject:  RE:Three miscarriages in a year...
We are blessed to have Dr Richa Katiyar as our guiding force. I would urge all the couples who have lost hope to visit Dr. Richa Katiyar once - you will not be disappointed. SHE IS TRULY A GOD SENT MESSENGER FOR US.
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2010-04-29
#11
Name: Piu
Subject:  Advice
Hi Richa,
I am in a similar situation as you. Did you do any tests? Did you go to India for the tests? Were you able to have a baby? If so what did you do to have one? Please let me know. It might help me to see that there some light at the end of the tunnel.
Thanks.
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2008-12-04
#12
Name: kkk sss
Subject:  don´ t worry...
we were in the same boat 2 years back.
I had recurrent miscarriages too.Until
3 miscarriages my ob/gyn told me that they are so commmon.He did a set of blood works.All were normal.
After the 3rd one he released us to a fertility specialist.She did a thorough work up.I had blood clotting
disorders.Heparin is the medication for
those types of disorders.
Don' t count on the tests done by ob/gyns.It is time you go to good fertility specialist preferably someone
who specialises in recurrent miscarriages.I live in US too.your story
is very similar to that of mine.
If you had already done all the tests with a specialist and everything is normal,then I should say 95% of early
miscarriages are because of chromosomal
factors.your 4th one could be a healthy
baby.Did you do karyotyping of the leftover tissue? That will reveal the cause of miscarriage.Don' t lose hope.There is help.
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2008-11-28
#13
Name: jkumar
Subject:  hi
There is no reliable way of telling how long it will take for an individual' s HIV infection to develop into AIDS - this is because there are differences in the virulence of the different strains of HIV, as well as huge variations in the healthy baseline strength of the immune systems that our genetic makeup has blessed us with.

The healthy immune system of some uninfected people is weaker than the level at which infected people are generally considered to need to start treatment in order to prevent AIDS from developing. If you are one of these people, you are at a risk of developing AIDS within a year or two of infection.

There is also age to consider. As we grow older, our immune systems tend to grow weaker - so the older you are when you are infected, the quicker you are likely to develop AIDS.

Another complicating factor is that AIDS isn' t a specific illness for which there is a test so, before arriving at a diagnosis of AIDS, a doctor look at a variety of symptoms and blood test results - they will will look for symptoms of one (or more) of the opportunistic infections or cancers and / or the presence of underlying immune deficiency. This means that an AIDS diagnosis can be made when you are still healthy - but at risk - or when you are already seriously ill.

All we can really say is that, untreated, almost everyone who is HIV-positive will eventually develop AIDS and will die within five to ten years .. and that with timely treatment, most people will not get seriously ill and should expect to live a long and healthy life.

Given that most of the current treatment guidelines recommend that treatment is commenced when the patient is still healthy - but not before significant damage has been done to the immune system - the following should give you a good idea of the huge variation in the speed at which HIV progresses:

* Around thirty-three percent of patients will remain healthy for around ten years after infection, even without any sort of treatment or medical attention.
* Around sixty percent of people will need to start treatment within four to five years of infection.
* Between two and three percent will become ill more quickly and need treatment very shortly after infection .. and a similar number will not need treatment until they have been infected for between fifteen and twenty years.

NOTE: There is currently a vigerous and healthy debate about when it is best to start treatment. Current guidelines are based on the fact that some of the treatments were - in the past - potentially quite unpleasant, debilitating and lifestyle limiting but this is no longer the case and the body of medical opinion now seems to be swinging to a position of supporting commencement of treatment whilst the patient' s immune function is still substantially intact.
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2008-11-15
#14
Name: neeta
Subject:  4th time unlucky
Hi All,

I read all your messages and felt that some of your stories match mine.

i have been married for 4.5 years and had a miscarriage in Oct 06 (5 weeks), May 07 (7 weeks), got pregnant again in March 08 (my baby had spina bifida - NTD problem and doc suggested abbortion in 12th week), i got pregnant this month and miscarried by my own yesterday, i have my D&C planned for tomorrow. All this is devastating and the very thought of getting pregnant again is very very scary.

After my first 2 miscarriages i had all my tests, genetic, touch, rubella, IgG antibodies, progestrone level, and other normal tests, everything that my doctors could think of, all the tests had nothing to reveal on the reason why i miscarry.

My doc today had just 2 extra things on mind (same as i can see in sowdha' s message - LIT test and checking uterus for tb). I think there has to be a reason for recurrent miscarriages, not sure how to reach to that and get treated on that.

All the best to everyone.

God Bless!

neeta
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2008-11-11
#15
Name: Jayashree
Subject:  Hi
Hi i also had 2 miscarriages. Ist was missed abortion and 2nd chemical pregnancy. I suggest that you do APL symdone test, karyotyping, Progestrone level and other hormone tests and also your DH sperm count.
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2008-11-11
#16
Name: Riddhi
Subject:  hi richa
After seeing your mail I felt like I am writing my own experience. I had 4 miscarriages before now its my 5th pregnancy and in 28.4 weeks and everything is okay till today… Well for this pregnancy doc have started tab Locobol Forte sice my 1st day of last cycle, which contains Methylcobalamin is a type of Vitamin B12. I think this is what supporting my baby… Beside also check if you need progesterone to support ur baby…
Don’t loose hopes and better not to take break for more than 2-3 months. All the best.. I will try to post you more info…
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2017-09-17
#17
Name: Vishal
Subject:  RE:hi richa
Hello ridhi .. i read your comment on post reoccurrent miscarriage .. m dealing with the same situation as of its my 3rd miscarriage in a row .. please help n suggest me the nAme of your doctor..
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2015-10-17
#18
Name: pinky
Subject:  reccurent misscariage
Please tell me which doctore u have visited?
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2008-11-04
#19
Name: sowdha
Subject:  hi
Hi richa,
I know how u must be feeling. Even I had 2 miscarriages around the same time as yours 6 wks. In India my doctor in Delhi chkd for my lymphocyte count and it turned out to be more-- i.e., basically your white blood corpusules are more and I had to undergo a treatment called LIT(lymphocyte Immuno Theraphy). After that I got pregnant once again but again I lost and this time we tested the foetus for any abnormality and we found that I had tb of the uterus and that was the culprit---killing my babies...

So took treatment for 9 months and after that became preganant and now I have a healthy baby.

I gave birth in India, however I am in US from the time my baby is 7 months, he is now 2...so i can understand when you talk abt the doctors out here.
take a break from trying and my advice is do all the tests possible, if you can go to India and do all the tests and then when everything is normal try for a kid, it is haunting to go through miscarriage. You must be having some problem that is the reason you are having so many miscarriages.

well take care and where in US do you live? I live in charlotte, NC.
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2015-06-28
#20
Name: Sagar
Subject:  Recurrent miscarriage
My wife had 3 miscarriages and we are badly looking for a doctor in Delhi who can deal with recurrent miscarriage problem. Please suggest. Thank you.
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