Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

It´ s being about 4 years that I and my husband are married and this low libido issue has always been with us. I have to admit before marriage, I had sxual relationships and I feel no shame in saying so. I am very open about these things and this was the first thing I discussed with my partner. While some of you might already start thinking THIS can be a problem, it´ s not. My hubby appreciates me coming out about things like this and more and has no problem with my past. He does not even feel jealous if I speak to other men. He encourages it and think it´ s best we be friends with people around rather than not. We trust each other and not to mention, love each other.Since the very first day, he has never shown any interest in sax and takes that for granted. I kept on sucking it up because I thought I will just give it time and that if I push it, it will only make it worse as it is such a sensitive topic.It never seems to get better. If ever I question him, he keeps very still..not a word out of his mouth. That frustrates me even more. I really never could get a solution to this. We both want a baby and I am 30 now, but as usual no sax drive. I have tried everything in my power to deal this with love,passion,understanding and what not for him. I was never so patient in my life, but I have shown so much strength. This still goes nowhere. I cant believe he would just see me suffer and do nothing to address it. It has come to a point that I badly want a baby, because of my depression, I even had false pregnancy, where a woman´ s mind tells herself she is pregnant as she madly wants a child, but in reality she is not. It has been so long and my husband has no realization of any of this. I do not know what more I can do. I want a baby so badly, so I will have someone to love and care. Can anyone please help me. I am posting after I tried everything possible. Seema replied. Oh my god this is insane and why are you suffering so much why cant you act on it, please speak to your husband and ask if you are really not looking for a future together then please take a decision and move on as its not worth staying together and suffering alone. Shikha replied. Oh dear this is really painful thing to see and i am sure you are really strong enough to go through all such issues, but please strong and fight for it as god is great and i am sure you will not left alone and you will be blessed with a child be positive. Sujata replied. Hello dear this really sad to see what is happening with you but then you should not leave your husband and you guys should sit together and understand that what is the actual reason behind it and you should not try just ignore things as it is. Suman replied. Hello dear this is really shocking to see but then why are living with your husband and i am sure he is must be having an affair outside that is the reason behind all this things as he will stop loving you and you will get separated so please go ahead. Anushree replied. This is really very disturbing and according to me you should take this anymore and please speak to your parents about the same and should get divorced immediately as if you will stay like this you will harm your self even more so please get separated. Aditi replied. Why are you staying with such a person according to me you should move on and should live with your husband as it is he not loving you and you are saying you guys are not having any relationship as well so please move and enjoy your life all alone. Anaida replied. According to me you should discuss this issue with your husband in front of his parents and let every know that what you are going through, in this way i think things will change for you and it would be better for you as well All the best dear for your future. Anita replied. Hello dear this is really bad what has happened in your life but then you will have to fight for it and move and according to me the best way is to adopt a child and stay blessed, please adopt a child and in this way you will fulfill your dream as well. Ali replied. Hi Priya, you can check for sperm donor who can help you in this case. You will also be happy also try to get some treatment done for your husband as everything is possible these days due to technology. Kittu replied. If you are having problems in your relation with your husband you should see a counselor and maybe there might be something that is causing this that he is not able to share with you. Maybe a counselor can help you with this. pratik replied. hello sweety,
from your post can understand your feelings, but u can choose a child adoption option too, so you get kid and one kid also get mother and father love.so think on that. neeta replied. hi sweety,
you are very eager to get baby and you choose other option so why you not choose a fertility center like test tube baby option. so keep some patience. Not real replied. Hello sweety,
What have you decided can you post an message on this such that we too can know what you have done and we can suggest other also the same decision which you have taken.I wish you would post an reply. No Name replied. Hi Sweety Priya,
So you can go for any other option for children in to your life.You can go for any fertility or you can adopt any baby.So you chose which would be the best option for you.And according to that you go with it. Manu replied. Hello Sweety Priya,
You are very lucky to have such husband that he understands you and supported you in all aspects.But you need to maintain it until you left your sole.Better do not repeat any mistakes in your life and be happy always. Siny replied. Hello Priya,
I think you love kids a lot.Definitely you will be blessed with children in future. So all the best you can go for all the procedures through which you can solve the problem.I pray for you shiny. Kat replied. Hello Sweety Priya,
You are lucky to have such husband that he accepted your mistakes.But you should never cheat him at any cost. Try to convince him and find some solution which solves your problem by consulting the doctor. You are blessed with child. Sandy replied. Hello Priya,
Which step have you taken for your problem. Did your problem got solved or not. I wish god will wish all your wishes and your dreams come true as early as possible. rosy replied. Hello Priya,
I think you need a child very badly from your words. If their is problem in your relation status you need to walk in to the best doctor and solve the issue so that your dream may come true. Nikki replied. Hello Priya,
Its really heart touching, why don't you ask your husband what does he feel and what exactly he wants. This might give answers for all your questions. Even though if he doesn't consult him to any doctor with his agreement but you do not take any wrong step for children.