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Miscarriage and Child Loss:Coping With a Miscarriage
2008-04-17
Name: Editor Has anyone in your family had a miscarriage? Why did the miscarriage occur? Do miscarriages affect a couple' s relationship?
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2009-08-20
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Name: saina
Subject:  I AM PSYCHOLOGIST AND COUNSELLOR
THERE ARE TIMES AND SITUATION WHEN PEOPLE CANNOT HOLD THEIR FEELINGS THAT EVERY THING IS FINISHED IN THEIR LIFE.MISCARRIAGE IS ONE OF THE TRAUMA WHICH A FEMALE,MALE,AND OTHER MEMBERS GO THROUGH.THEY FEEL NOW THEIR LIFE IS NUM WITH NO GOALS AND CANNOT GET ON TRACK SPECIALLY MALE AND FEMALE.
LADIES OUT THEIR I WANT TO SHARE MY STORY WITH U THAT
MY ELDER SISTER 3YEARS BACK CONCEIVED AND DELIVERED A CUTE LITTLE BABY GAL SHE WAS SO MUCH BEAUTIFUL,FAIR,WITH JET BLACK HAIR AND EYES,WITH HER SMALL EARS..INSIDE,SHE WAS WELL NORMAL BABY CHILD WITH 58.4CM HEIGHT AND 3 PONDS WEIGHT,SHE WAS HEALTHY ENOUGH TO SURVIVE AS SHE WAS PREMATURED GAL SHE SURVIVED WITH US FOR 15 DAYS AND DURING THAT PERIOD DIDI USED TO FEED HER HER MILK,DRESS HER,MY MOTHER GOT LOADS OF GIFTS AND HAD SHOPPED FOR HER FROM FOREIGN KIDS CLOTHINGS..WE WRE VERY HAPPY THAT SHE WAS LIVING AND DIDI WAS ALSO HAPPY BUT WHEN ON HER 9 DAY HER MOUTH STARTED FLUSHING OUT BLOOD AND SOON SHE WAS TAKEN TO ANOTHER HOSPITAL AS WE WERE TRAVELLING THE BABY IN ABULANCE HER PULSES AND HEART BEATS GOT STRONG ENOUGH...SHE STARTED RESPIRATING FASTER....SOON SHE WAS ADMITTED IN HOSPITAL AND DURING MID NIGHT AT 3AM WE LOST HER....THIS WAS NOT EASY FOR US AS WE HOLDED HER FOR ATLEAST 9 DAYS AND ON 10 DAY SHE WAS NO MORE..IT WAS HARD US TO TELL MY SISTER ABUT ALL THIS THINGS AS SHE WAS NOT AWARE AND WAS RESTING IN THAT VERY HOSPITAL..BUT JIJU WAS ABLE TO TELL HER AND SHE WAS NUM AND DID NOT CRIED WE WRE SO AFFRAID THAT SHE SHOULD CRY..WE DID ALL THE POSSIBILITIES TO MAKE HER CRY BUT AFTER ONE DAY WHEN SHE REALISED SUDDENLY SHE HAD LOST HER CHILD SHE BURSTED AND CRIED FOR DAYS AND MONTHS FOR HER CHILD.WE MADE AN EFFORT TO TRAVELL BOTH OF THEM FOR A TRIP TO HOLIDAY...WHEN SHE RETURN FROM THERE SHE WAS OK AND AFTER ONE MONTH SHE CONCIEVED AGAIN AND TODAY WITH GOD GRACE SHE MOTHER OF A BABY BOY....WE ARE ALL PROUD AF HER AND NOW SHE IS ONCE AGAIN HAPPY...AND TIME IS A BEST HEALER FOR OUR PAINS
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2008-04-18
#2
Name: Laksmi
Subject:  me too
I understand what you are going through... I also have had 2 consecutive miscarriages 8 to 9 weeks. All tests done thus far have been negative (hb, platelets, coagulation, anticardiolipin, infection). Was detected to be borderline hypothyroid during the first pregnancy so was started on meds, still it happened the second time. Am really loosing hope... and its frustrating to not know the cause... parental karyotyping is pending.. lets see what that says... any suggestion is welcome.
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2008-04-18
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Name: Laksmi
Subject:  hi
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2008-04-17
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Name: Sheetal
Subject:  Devastating
I always had health problems. But I never took them seriously. It was only during my pregnancy did I realize what my habit of smoking with friends had done to my body. I had abortions earlier which also made my reproductive system very weak. With all this in my medical history, pregnancy arrived. I was happy but at each stage I had to be extra careful. The doctor advised me bed rest. Every time I went for a check up I felt scared. I could have had a miscarriage any time. My pregnancy was a very complicated. Every moment troubled and I took all the possible steps to not hurt my baby. After my baby was born in the seventh month and was in the intensive care for sometime that I realized what a miscarriage can do to mothers and fathers. I truly regret what I did earlier and have made health modifications to be followed for a lifetime. It is my sincere advise to all those who plan to have a baby to take extremely good care of their health and adopt the right birth control methods. And do not despair keep up hopes even when you feel you are surrounded with trouble. Stay positive.
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2008-04-17
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Name: Raahil
Subject:  Difficult to cope up
My wife had a miscarriage twice. The first time we supported each other and were ready to give it another chance. We thought we would manage each other and move on. No point in endlessly grieving. We had to go ahead. But the loss of our child the second time has really shaken us. Especially my wife. I have told her a million times that i love her more than anything and we will have a child. I show faith even when I am uncertain of what will be. She is now going through this thing that she cannot have a healthy child and there is something wrong with her. She has lost interest in things around her. she wants to quit her job and just remember the baby. She keeps admiring other babies and desires to have just one child that would fulfill our existence. Giving birth to a child is painful but losing the same child is so easily pains for a lifetime.
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2008-04-17
#6
Name: Sukanya
Subject:  Sorry
My best friend had a miscarriage and I delivered last month. It was really upsetting to see her go through all the pain. It was difficult to accept since I was pregnant too, so I could feel what she was going through. Imagine if I were in her place I would be shattered. I was carrying a baby inside me and to only know what had happened with her had scared me completely. The last thing I would think of going wrong was losing my precious child. It is unimaginable what parents go through when such unfortunate events occur. No one can be blamed. All you can do is think of ways to cope with it. I completely empathise with my friend. She has been brave and her husband has been really supportive. Its difficult to fathom their grief with the smiles they always wear on their faces. Initially she was very broken but a supportive husband made coming out of the depressive feelings. I guess the life partner plays a very significant role in dealing with such life situations.
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