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hi friends this is sandhya from andhra , when I am studying degree 2nd year I got married I.e 10-05-2007 , and life went happily and given birth to my child also . but on 13-03-2011 for my sadness my husband died in accident , my mother in law side relatives arranged a ritual to make me widow , in my husband caste , widow must shave hair on that day , they arranged for shaving my head but my parents stopped for shaving my head, except headshave everything done to me on that day , after 3 years with my parents force i got married to a person but due to some personal reasons we both breakup in 1 month only. my relatives and are saying that because u didn't shave ur head on ur husband died ritual because of that all this happening all they are saying like that , now I got 3rd marriage proposal this also going side track so please suggest me frnds what should I do ?? if I shave my head everything will be clear na , if headshave is solution where I have to shave head . pls give ur valuable suggestions pls linta replied. hello sandhya,
its so sad that your first husband died, and after his death you are ready for second marriage and its not your bad luck its due to misunderstanding in both of you it was happened. sasha replied. hello sandhya,
its so sad to read your post here, whatever happened was so much bad, and i appreciate you for you are so strong girl and bear all this pain, after your husband dead, so keep your braveness like that only. pooja replied. hello sandhya,
you are living in 21st century, there is nothing to do shave head after husband dead, so you will be think about your parents too, because in your bad time they are support you. nirmiti replied. hello sandhya,
i suggest you one thing, dont do marriage again because it is not good to you only, if any thing negative happen again, then you cant bear this pain again, but people follow such rituals till now. kimya replied. hello sandhya,
dont worry about your life, every situation is not permenant ,ups and down are come in life, and that you have to face you, it will handle by yourself only.no one can sort out it. rinky replied. hello sandhya,
do whatever your heart and brain say, dont listen to everyone, its so tough decision to head shave, if your third marriage will be successful after that rituals its too good for you. mangesh replied. hello sandhya,
if really there is that rituals like head shave and its effective on your personal relationship and life, then you should try once and go ahead, and do head shave once. rekha replied. hello sandhya,
if you shave your head and then also your third marriage proposal will not happen then what should you do, so this old riutals are no meaning now a days, try to make best knot with him. gitanjali replied. hello sandhya,
in this 21st century this all rituals are fake, its all happened because of your understanding between both of you, if there is not enough understanding in your second husband and you because of that your second marriage broke up. leela replied. hi sandhy,
doing head shaving is not a solution of your problem, your marriage problem will not sort will after do this, try to talk with your husband calmely and stay happy. indira replied. hi sandhya,
its so strenge to hear that, people still follow this old rituals till now, you should meet some good people and try to communicate them and fix your problem. Banu replied. Hi Sandhya, its still shocking to know that there are people who are still following the old rituals. Go and stay with your parents dear if possible i know its difficult but do try. Ashna replied. If you have a feeling that your bad relationships are because of the ritual that you did not do when your husband dies then i think you should meet a pandit and ask him what can you do to fix that. NN replied. Head shave can not be a solution for the problems in your marriage so do not think about it in that way. Talk to your husband and try to sort everything out with him so that you can finally live a happy married life without any worries. NN replied. Don't listen to everyone when they say that you are having difficulty in your marriage because you did not shave your head when your husband died. All this is just superstitious thinking. Try fixing everything with your husband before it is too late. Urmi replied. If the thought that you not shaving your head is causing problems in your marriage then you should get it done as soon as possible and then when you are done with that you can concentrate on your marriage and work it out. Janki replied. Instead of thinking about all this superstitious things you should think about how should you Make your marriage work. What can you do that the differences between you and your husband would clear out and you can live a happy life. Unnati replied. If you are having problems in your married life then you should talk about it with your husband and ask him what is wrong. Tell him what you feel and listen to what he has to say about it and in general too. Dhruv replied. All this is just your and their thinking and the problems in your marriage have nothing to do with you not shaving your head when your husband died. If you are having problems talk to your husband about it and sort it out. Rita replied. Hello rani.
please do stop thinking like that because there will not be like that god will not be jealous on us an do such things and you just take the decision which will be better to you and your kid and try to be happy.