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hi M alia , recently married to a guy who is working abroad. at the time of marriage I was told that i' ll also be going with him to abroad where he works. bt now his family is telling that they never promise to my family i' ll also be going with him. Bt my family claim that it was on this condition they fix my marriage. since I was working in different place I was not there at my home when the marriage was fixed. Now my husband is telling he' ll try to get my visa bt not sure, he already left India and went abroad. His home is in rural place and I was from city and finding difficult to adjust though my in laws and husband care me a lot. M confused what I should do now . Somewhere I feel cheated as I left all my jobs to settle . Now the two families are in arguments on this issues. Please help ramesh replied. hello alia,
you should take the decision right now, you are smart and individual girl so why you make yourself fool in this situation, so try to make out things soon, or finish the things soon. anupama replied. hello alia,
see the positive part also from this, you need to keep some patience nothing else, your husband also in contact with you, if he cheated on you, why he keep in touch with you, think on that. kirti replied. hello alia,
you had posted this post long time back, so now what is the situation of your life story, are you here or got settled in abroad with your husband, share your experience here. anuradha replied. hello alia,
dont take any rash decision in hurry, why dont you see that your in laws take care of you and your husband also take care of you, as you mention in your post, so keep some patience. rihaan replied. hello alia,
there is no need to feel like cheated and all, you are enough matured and smart girl who is live her life in individual way, so stop thinking on this, you should take some decision. mangal replied. hello alia,
dont get confused whatever your mind said do that only, if you think his family cheated on you or he is also cheated on you, then take directly divorce from him. Pooja replied. Hi its good to go with your husband as you need to stay with you at the start. You have married him to stay with him always. Talk to him when he is in good mood and go with him thats better for you. Ashna replied. See the good part of this situation is that at least your in laws and your husband are taking good care of you and are not treating you wrong. I think you should wait for your husband to come back. No Name replied. If your husband has told you that he will try for your visa then trust him and wait for some time as see what happens. You are lucky that at least you in laws and husband take care of you and are not neglecting you. NN replied. Take to your husband about it and see if he can get you a visa and take you along with him when he comes back and then if he says that it won't be financially possible you can apply for a job there too to aid the process. No Name replied. Hello alia,
I can give you only one suggestion that based on the situation and keeping in mind about the future you need to take the decision so that no one will get lose and hurt also I wish you would take good decision only. No Name replied. Hello Alia Choudhary,
AM sorry for your story. Then what are you doing now, are you doing any job now if not why don't you job by requesting your husband in one way or other. It may help you to be busy so that some stress may leave you. No Name replied. Hello Alia,
I understand how do you feel, after marriage lots of changes take place in girls life, we need to bear all the things. You need to be some patience because you mentioned that your husband was caring definitely he will take you with him it happens but wait for some time. malini replied. It depends upon your husband that he want you to come with him or not. There was my boyfriend, we were in relationship for almost two years. He is working in abroad. He is also born from rural area. But he never told me that you don' t come with me after marriage. He always used to say, u come here. It don' t even matter to him if I don' t know how to cook. I loved him so much. It is the other side that I lost him now & his love :(. But he is always in my heart. & also I am much more younger to him so, he could not marry him. & his age was very big than me & so he was in hurry to settle in life for future. You tell your husband that u even want to come with him. First check weather he is loyal to you or not, as he stay in abroad. He may be decided to keep you for his parents & to enjoy in abroad. Or he may don' t want you to keep there as there is no familiar support for you in case any problem occurs. & which rural area your husband stays in ?