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You can be beautiful even if you are dark, and unattractive even if you are fair. So why lay such a premium on fair skin.
Why is it so important to be fair
We all know women who are beautiful even if they are not light skinned, and we all know fair skinned girls who are unattractive. Still, all of us spend hours trying to lighten our skin and on wishing that we had lighter skin, and thousands of rupees on products that claim to lighten our skin.
More damaging than the time and money spent, is the inbuilt belief that you are in some manner inferior because you are not 'fair'.
Girls with dark complexions grow up wishing that they had lighter skin, and often develop an inferiority complex. Thankfully, for some, this complex vanishes as they grow older and wiser and discover numerous abilities and talents, but sadly, others never seem to be able to let go of the feeling of inadequacy. Not surprisingly though, when you take a look at any matrimonial ad, and the text will in all probability say looking for a convent educated, fair, beautiful girl And considering that our entire culture evolves around marriage, fair women suddenly seem to command a premium.
Any wonder then that a girl with dark skin will want to lighten it
Beauty companies feed off this inbuilt insecurity, and make millions as they sell their fairness creams to women. The ads make it seem so easy if you transform yourself into a fair skinned woman, you will get the job you want, and the man you want. Needless to say, it's not that easy, and no matter what you believe at the moment, the colour of your skin should be the lowest on your list of beautification priorities. Concentrate the time, effort and money that you would on trying to get fair, on something else, and the results would be far more satisfying.
Here are some tips:
It's a mistaken belief that if you have dark skin, you should not colour your hair light. Nothing is further from the truth. Don't hesitate before adding blonde highlights. They brighten up your complexion, making you look radiant.
Take care of your hair, and ensure it is always well groomed.
If you have frizzy, flyaway hair, style it regularly so it doesn't look messy. 32 year old Hetal doesn't even remember what her hair looks like without blowdrying it, because she is so particular about blowdrying and styling her hair after every wash.
If you don't have the time or patience for blowdrying your hair regularly, get your hair permed. If you are light skinned, you can get away with sporting frizzy hair, but if you are dark, with dark, frizzy hair, colouring it and then blowdrying it straight even if you don't opt for chemical straightening, can make a world of a difference.
White and red suits dark skinned women, so wear these colours often. I know many women whose entire wardrobe consists only of 2-3 colours, because they know what colours suit them, and don't see the need to wear anything else. You could also figure out what colours don't suit you, and stay away from them. There is really no need to possess a top in every colour under the sun. If you have the features, cut your hair short (think Halle Berry). Not everyone can carry off hair this short, but if you can, go for it, as short hair that looks good looks far more effective and attractive than long hair.
Do fairness creams work
They do, to a certain extent. Don't fool yourself into believing that they will make you fair. They will, at the most, lighten your skin slightly, but glowing skin will only come from within. Exercise regularly, and before long your skin will start glowing with health and vitality and a glowing, healthy skin beats light, pale and unhealthy skin any day!
Name: Suresh
City: Mumbai
Comments: It's a wonderful article.
Name: friend
City: New Jersey,USA
Comments: Its a too good article Its enspiring, encouraging and its wonderful and lot more. I think this article says all that what a black skin or wheatish skin girls/ women normally think of. I feel this article will help to increase the confidence level in u .
Name: Dusky
City: US
Comments: I'm a girl with a wheatish complextion, and I've always been proud of my skin color. Never let outer beauty affect your inner self.
Name: Friend
City: USA
Comments: Beauty externally is appreciated only when internally u r good, so i dont beleive in complextion.
Name: Sanjana
City: San Jose, CA
Comments: How can I lighten my skinNULL I want to be fairer.
Name: Shilpa
City: Beaumont, Texas
Comments: This article is wonderful, and its just what women need to understand what really makes beauty.
Name: marilyn
City: Singapore
Comments: isn't there any way to have farier skin at all?? my hands and chest are fair. but my legs and stomach and back are very dark. why? isthere any way i can get fairer?? please reply me..
Name: shilpa
City: beijing
Comments: Great article!! I have Dusky skin and deep within,i love it.I am considered quite beautiful in India and Abroad. Unfortunately, the attitude of people needs to change. At times i do get to hear Slurs aimed at my complexion. It makes me then wish that i were fairer.Thats when i feel i need to change my own atttitude...it has to do with conditioning. The damned conditioning given by the White man to the rest of the world...that we are coloured and so we are inferior.The irony though is that at the moment we are not talking Racism here.The battle here is with one's own race...Its the same race fighting against its own...The fair Indians against the dusky ones. The cycle continues...The dusky ones wanting to be medium complexioned and the medium complexioned wanting to be fair and the fair wanting to be Whites. In the end, we lose out!!! We continue to be subjugated by the white man. We have not gained any kind of Independence...the slavery continues...
Name: umbrin
City: Detroit
Comments: Personally, I think u made a point about skin color. But I can understand the desire to be fair. I do not agree about lightening hair. Why should highlights look nicer than natural lustrous black hairNULL Should u not be happy to have such hairNULL I know of actresses and beauty queens that dye their hair black or choose to keep their hair that way.Why should there be a preference for lighter hairNULL That might be something for you to consider.
Name: nishi
City: michigan
Comments: i just don't know why people care so much about being fair. i'm dark and i'm indian.. i've received my own fair share of insults, but hey, it's a cruel world. live with it. and damn anybody who thinks they're superior just cos they're fair. and it's been within our own race, mind you. the indian race. how screwed up is thatNULL
Name: miny
City: bangalore
Comments: sad and self-defeating as it may sound but girls let's face it , fair girls do have an edge over us dark ones. a fair girl strikes an impression instantly. ok dark girls too are coming to fore these days but we should recall that it is not their dark skin that is getting them attention but other features like good height, pronounced features and flawless skin. but what about those who don't possess any of those and to cap it all are dark NULL frankly as a girl i'm more attracted to a guy with a fair complexion myself.then why should we fool ourselves believing that dark girls are in no way less than attractive than the fair ones. i'm dark myself and look thrice before buying any garment if it shows too much of skin. not because i don't want to wear skimpy clothes but bcoz of the fear that it'd show too much of dark skin and that frankly isn't a pretty sight. and let's face it most of the skin-showing clothes don't look that good on the dark-complexioned. i for one wear those which show least skin like full sleeves, no skirts n polo necks. and i know some people might get totally enraged or even disheartened after reading my comment but girls and guys it's a harsh reality we dark people have to come to terms with. and yes if anyone has some remedy to even turn the skin tone to even a shade lighter please don't hesitate to share it with us. it can make someones or rather a million's day or life for that matter..
Name: Aleena
City: mumbai
Comments: hiee well my face color is too dark plzz tell me the real fairness cream that's make me fair b/c i have getting married plzz help me n reply me on my email scorpion_friends@hotmail.com
Name: sandy
City: usa
Comments: i am light brown in complextion. i desperately want to get a shade or more fairer.can u tell me what i should useNULL
Name: Ammar
City: Lahore
Comments: i am 18 years old...i have brown or wheten like skin colour..i want to have a fair complexion can u tell me how to get that oneNULL
Name: ambreen
City: multan
Comments: i m 18 years old and i have very very dark complexion plzz plz tell me some sure way to remove my dark complexion i shall be very great full to u. plz
Name: Anjana
City: Melbourne, Australia
Comments: Im dark and i want to have fairer skin
Name: Farah
City: Istanbul, TURKEY
Comments: hey im 15 and have a light brown complexion, is there any product that will lighten my complexion, i dont want to "Look White" however i do want to look a little less Tanned. you see I have to put up with a lot of ridicule, My family is TURKISH, and generally TURKS are white, Dont think INDIA is the only country where fair skinned individuals have an edge on tanned ones, i have to put up with the same here in the TURKISH CULTURE seems like its the same every where, i didnt always worry so much about my skin colour, but not its getting a little hard to put up with. pleas help me out
Name: shavina
City: singapore
Comments: hey i just dont understand something here guys the editor is sayin skin colour is not important at all but he dosen't understand how it affects people mentally . we have so much of inferiority complex that at times we wouldn't even want to leave our houses. even in singapore indians look down on indians.if one of them is darker than the other they call them blackie indians are real bastards if indians dont respect indians, you think others gonna do that think
Name: divasharni
City: aus
Comments: Oh my gosh it seems like a certain degree of you ppl have a complex about your skin colour! i'm half indian half african and have olive skin that i'm happy with i sometimes whish i was more darker because most of the dark skin ppl i know are more beautiful than the fairer skin ones! all i say is black is beautiful & get a reality check!
Name: sana
City: markham
Comments: lets get real here. whenever someone is looking for a girl for there son the first question they ask the parents is ."is she fairNULL" if she isn't then they usualy take there buissness elsewhere. If the guy is handsome and smart and fair they will ofcoarse settle for atleast a medium education and beautiful features with fair skin. if he is great in any way the parents will ofcoarse want a great fair girl for the son they love so much. We need fair skin. help
City: Mumbai
Comments: It's a wonderful article.
Name: friend
City: New Jersey,USA
Comments: Its a too good article Its enspiring, encouraging and its wonderful and lot more. I think this article says all that what a black skin or wheatish skin girls/ women normally think of. I feel this article will help to increase the confidence level in u .
Name: Dusky
City: US
Comments: I'm a girl with a wheatish complextion, and I've always been proud of my skin color. Never let outer beauty affect your inner self.
Name: Friend
City: USA
Comments: Beauty externally is appreciated only when internally u r good, so i dont beleive in complextion.
Name: Sanjana
City: San Jose, CA
Comments: How can I lighten my skinNULL I want to be fairer.
Name: Shilpa
City: Beaumont, Texas
Comments: This article is wonderful, and its just what women need to understand what really makes beauty.
Name: marilyn
City: Singapore
Comments: isn't there any way to have farier skin at all?? my hands and chest are fair. but my legs and stomach and back are very dark. why? isthere any way i can get fairer?? please reply me..
Name: shilpa
City: beijing
Comments: Great article!! I have Dusky skin and deep within,i love it.I am considered quite beautiful in India and Abroad. Unfortunately, the attitude of people needs to change. At times i do get to hear Slurs aimed at my complexion. It makes me then wish that i were fairer.Thats when i feel i need to change my own atttitude...it has to do with conditioning. The damned conditioning given by the White man to the rest of the world...that we are coloured and so we are inferior.The irony though is that at the moment we are not talking Racism here.The battle here is with one's own race...Its the same race fighting against its own...The fair Indians against the dusky ones. The cycle continues...The dusky ones wanting to be medium complexioned and the medium complexioned wanting to be fair and the fair wanting to be Whites. In the end, we lose out!!! We continue to be subjugated by the white man. We have not gained any kind of Independence...the slavery continues...
Name: umbrin
City: Detroit
Comments: Personally, I think u made a point about skin color. But I can understand the desire to be fair. I do not agree about lightening hair. Why should highlights look nicer than natural lustrous black hairNULL Should u not be happy to have such hairNULL I know of actresses and beauty queens that dye their hair black or choose to keep their hair that way.Why should there be a preference for lighter hairNULL That might be something for you to consider.
Name: nishi
City: michigan
Comments: i just don't know why people care so much about being fair. i'm dark and i'm indian.. i've received my own fair share of insults, but hey, it's a cruel world. live with it. and damn anybody who thinks they're superior just cos they're fair. and it's been within our own race, mind you. the indian race. how screwed up is thatNULL
Name: miny
City: bangalore
Comments: sad and self-defeating as it may sound but girls let's face it , fair girls do have an edge over us dark ones. a fair girl strikes an impression instantly. ok dark girls too are coming to fore these days but we should recall that it is not their dark skin that is getting them attention but other features like good height, pronounced features and flawless skin. but what about those who don't possess any of those and to cap it all are dark NULL frankly as a girl i'm more attracted to a guy with a fair complexion myself.then why should we fool ourselves believing that dark girls are in no way less than attractive than the fair ones. i'm dark myself and look thrice before buying any garment if it shows too much of skin. not because i don't want to wear skimpy clothes but bcoz of the fear that it'd show too much of dark skin and that frankly isn't a pretty sight. and let's face it most of the skin-showing clothes don't look that good on the dark-complexioned. i for one wear those which show least skin like full sleeves, no skirts n polo necks. and i know some people might get totally enraged or even disheartened after reading my comment but girls and guys it's a harsh reality we dark people have to come to terms with. and yes if anyone has some remedy to even turn the skin tone to even a shade lighter please don't hesitate to share it with us. it can make someones or rather a million's day or life for that matter..
Name: Aleena
City: mumbai
Comments: hiee well my face color is too dark plzz tell me the real fairness cream that's make me fair b/c i have getting married plzz help me n reply me on my email scorpion_friends@hotmail.com
Name: sandy
City: usa
Comments: i am light brown in complextion. i desperately want to get a shade or more fairer.can u tell me what i should useNULL
Name: Ammar
City: Lahore
Comments: i am 18 years old...i have brown or wheten like skin colour..i want to have a fair complexion can u tell me how to get that oneNULL
Name: ambreen
City: multan
Comments: i m 18 years old and i have very very dark complexion plzz plz tell me some sure way to remove my dark complexion i shall be very great full to u. plz
Name: Anjana
City: Melbourne, Australia
Comments: Im dark and i want to have fairer skin
Name: Farah
City: Istanbul, TURKEY
Comments: hey im 15 and have a light brown complexion, is there any product that will lighten my complexion, i dont want to "Look White" however i do want to look a little less Tanned. you see I have to put up with a lot of ridicule, My family is TURKISH, and generally TURKS are white, Dont think INDIA is the only country where fair skinned individuals have an edge on tanned ones, i have to put up with the same here in the TURKISH CULTURE seems like its the same every where, i didnt always worry so much about my skin colour, but not its getting a little hard to put up with. pleas help me out
Name: shavina
City: singapore
Comments: hey i just dont understand something here guys the editor is sayin skin colour is not important at all but he dosen't understand how it affects people mentally . we have so much of inferiority complex that at times we wouldn't even want to leave our houses. even in singapore indians look down on indians.if one of them is darker than the other they call them blackie indians are real bastards if indians dont respect indians, you think others gonna do that think
Name: divasharni
City: aus
Comments: Oh my gosh it seems like a certain degree of you ppl have a complex about your skin colour! i'm half indian half african and have olive skin that i'm happy with i sometimes whish i was more darker because most of the dark skin ppl i know are more beautiful than the fairer skin ones! all i say is black is beautiful & get a reality check!
Name: sana
City: markham
Comments: lets get real here. whenever someone is looking for a girl for there son the first question they ask the parents is ."is she fairNULL" if she isn't then they usualy take there buissness elsewhere. If the guy is handsome and smart and fair they will ofcoarse settle for atleast a medium education and beautiful features with fair skin. if he is great in any way the parents will ofcoarse want a great fair girl for the son they love so much. We need fair skin. help
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