¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†The next day as Rahul pulled out a sweater from his cupboard,the party 'kitty' box fell out. He hesitated for a second, grabbed the box and before he could change his mind, went to the nearest woolen store and picked up as many blankets as he could afford. Then he went to his friends to tell them what he did with their money. At first they just stared at him in disbelief. Then one by one they took turns in blowing him up. Then they sacked him from his position as the treasurer, and finally they collapsed laughing. That night, Christmas eve, the 4 friends went around putting blankets over the shivering bodies on the streets, and when an old man touched their feet in gratitude they swore to themselves that they would keep up this practice every year. And even now, almost 17 years later, if you venture out early Christmas morning, you just might run into the four of them. And if you don't recognize them by the blankets in their hands, you will by the halos over their heads.
¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†This of course is an act of charity, and not in the capacity of everyone. But even little gestures of kindness and goodwill can brighten up any day. Like the birthday card my brother received from his friend Naman, in California. Naman had paid less postage and so the card had been returned, but to the wrong address. And the person to whom the card had been returned, paid the extra postage, inscribed a small birthday message to 'Arjun - whoever you are', and drew a smiling face on the envelope. That made my brother's day!
¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†The real nice part about such gestures is that they inspire you to do something similar for others - and so the chain grows. One Diwali, inspired more by the desire to be creative than helpful, I finished off my rangoli design, and then proceeded to decorate my neighbour's doorway. My neighbour, an old woman, and grouchy most of the time, was so touched when she saw it, that she sent over a huge pot of 'kheer'. Now though we still don't socialize much, we send her a gift every Parsi New Year, and she reciprocates on Diwali. And our floor in the building suddenly seems a lot warmer.
¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬† However, certain acts of generosity may not be practical, and neither helpful. For example, many people strongly feel that it is wrong to give alms to a beggar, as it discourages them from seeking constructive employment. Anuradha had a servant who quit work giving some vague excuse, and a few weeks later she saw her begging on the streets of Marine drive. Anuradha, shocked at seeing her in such a state, went up and inquired if everything was all right. She even offered to arrange a job for her, when the servant replied that she has no intention of working again. What was the point in doing back-breaking work when she could earn double the amount by just begging on the streetsNULL From that moment on Anuradha swore never to give alms to another beggar.¬†¬†
¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬† Not all warm gestures involve spending of money. Mona, a young 23-year old, was wearing a very pretty dress at a wedding, and received a lot of compliments. At the end of the ceremony, on her way out, she came across a lady in the elevator, who tapped her and said 'I've been wanting to tell you for sometime now, that's a beautiful outfit you have on ÔŅĹ you have excellent taste, my girl!' And when Mona returned home proclaiming that everyone loved her outfit, the stranger's compliment was the one that stood out most in her mind. Now, 2 years later, it is the only one she remembers. The result? From then on, Mona has never hesitated in paying compliments to perfect strangers. She just goes up to them even if she likes something as insignificant as their nail polish shade! And as she always says 'Who knows - maybe someday, somewhere, someone feels that the best thing that happened to him that day was receiving that compliment!'¬†¬†
¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†'Practice random kindness and senseless acts
of beauty - if you think there should be more of something, do it - randomly'.
A teenager shoveling snow may be hit by the impulse and shovel his neighbour's
driveway too. A group of friends may decide to spend their day entertaining
children patients at a hospital, or senior citizens at an old people's
home by doing something as simple as talking or reading to them. The hippies
of the early '60's, who stood on street corners handing flowers with messages
of peace to the passers by, weren't doing much. But they were doing good.¬†
How many of us actually perform that 'good deed for the day'NULL
¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†It doesn't have to be a major effort on our part - it doesn't even have to have meaning. Senseless acts of beauty are those little things we can do that makes life worth living - which makes us stop and appreciate the beauty of the human nature, the wonderful things man is capable of doing. Remember, a kindness done is never lost. It may take a while, but like a suitcase on an airline conveyor belt, it will return again. Imagine your car gets stalled on a highway. Many cars pass by, but none stop to help. When you've just about lost all hope on the fellow man, a car pulls up, helps you out of the mess, and in a short while you're on your way. Grateful and thankful, you swear that next time you see someone in trouble, you are going to be the one to help them. However, time passes by and whenever you see a stalled car, you never seem to have the time, and swear you'll stop the next time. But the next time too, you're in a major hurry. Further, you are not sure if helping a stranger would be a wise thing to do. What in this day and age of 'kalyug', who knows what kind of monster is lurking behind that helpless face. It is good to have an open mind, but not so open that your brains fall out! Well, if you don't feel comfortable in giving a lift to strangers, you could drive down to the nearest garage and send someone to their aid. And you could probably offer to make a few phone calls for them too (if they don't have a cellular phone that is). There's always a way if you think about it. So start thinking. After all - kindness blesses those who give, as well as those who receive it.¬†
¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†Random acts of beauty are those which are practiced without any intention other than bringing a smile to the face, and a glow to the heart. They donÔŅĹt have to be pre-planned or even helpful to anyone. In fact, the very senselessness of the act is what makes it so beautiful. Wouldn't a small token gift given 'just for the heck of it' bring more pleasure than a gift received on an occasion like a birthday or an anniversaryNULL
¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†Most of us are too busy to think about being nice to others. Further, attitude problems and inflated egos are rampant. For us Indians, wishing a perfect stranger good morning as we pass him does not come naturally to us. Nowadays attitudes do seem to be changing though. Education in India seems to be improving with the middle class becoming a major force to reckon with. Armed with their MBA's and Cas, they are all set to tackle the world and to bring the educated service class out there with the uneducated business class. Education brings up the level of decency in any community, along with broadening their views. Thus if you think about it, though we may not appreciate certain aspects of the western value system, the one point worth admiring is that their entire culture revolves around little courtesies. A cashier in a shop would always wish his customers a good day with a smile. Anita, a young girl, was in Boston on a holiday with her friends. Wanting to find out about tourist buses, they entered a post office and asked the lady at the nearest counter as to where they should go to get the information. The lady replied that she absolutely no idea, but if the girls would wait a few minutes, she would gladly check and let them know. As they waited, the lady made a few phone calls, took down a few numbers, and when she returned, she had the numbers of around 3 tourist bus services, their point of departure, and a map of the city of Boston. She sat with the girls a few minutes advising them as to which was the most convenient depot, how to get there, and answering any other general questions. On learning the girls were from India, she expressed her desire to visit it someday, asked them how they were enjoying Boston so far, and wished them all the best before excusing herself and returning to work. Of course they did come across people who weren't so helpful or polite, but they were the exceptions rather than the norm. And the literacy rate is 97%. CoincidenceNULL¬†
¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†The Indian government has started taking steps to improve the
literacy rate in India. It has started various literacy programs at the
village and district level, and is providing incentives to parents to provide
their children with an education. Hopefully, the day is not far away when
we can expect a certain level of civil behaviour from all classes in society.
Of course it is not as if the illiterate do not exhibit kindness and generosity,
but they tend to be suspicious of strangers, and have no concept of giving
them the 'benefit of the doubt'. An illiterate villager would probably
lay down his life's savings in a temple, but would bang the door in your
face if you went over and asked for help due to an inbred suspicion of
strangers. We have a long way to go before we can start trusting our fellow
human beings and believing that human beings on the whole, are nice people,
who are not all out to get you. Maybe then we shall be able to exhibit
random kindness and senseless acts of beauty more freely, after all, one
would rather do something nice for a person when he knows it would be appreciated.
Everyone appreciates charity, but no one with a suspicious introverted
nature will take kindly to a stranger offering a flower. Yes, it's going
to take time for the message to pass, but you have to start somewhere.
Now is a pretty good time, but if you are waiting for the kindness to be
reciprocated don't hold your breath. It will turn up when least expected
- people are full of surprises after all.
DISCUSSION FORUMS ON
Preeti' s vow fulfilling
On 31-7-2014 you had told that you had decided to tonsure your head and shave your armpits in barber shop and two months later shave your two months growth in Tirupati. It is one month since then. Have you shaved your head in barbersh ... - Ram Singh read >>
Niharika' s head shave
You had told on 23-7-2014 that you and your husband wanted to shave your heads in a temple in Mumbai. Have you done the head shaves? ... - Ram Singh read >>
Headshave with tuft
Dear Sreenivasa, we have not heard anything about and after your decision to implmwnt family tradition with cleanshaven head and tuft at the top.How you are experiencing now? ... - subray p hegde read >>
Hallo, you have not explained to my earier letter regarding length of your hair that too for well grown for 6 months. How much length is your tuft now or have you got the long tuft cut for short while getting tonsured at barbershop. Is your moth ... - subray p hegde read >>
Dear K Girish youmnetioned that your wife got short haircut almost like military haircut in April 2014. Please advise is your wife also getting haircut regularly or in summer only. Usually indian women will not agree for haircut except in vow ti ... - sp read >>
Hello MNT How are you ? Long time no replies. Hope all is good. P!ease reply soon.
... - longhairlady read >>
You can try
I have not seen any so far. But you can try and start a new fashion. Afterall, if you get too many bad reactions, shave the tuft off and go clean bald, which is more acceptable. ... - Ram Singh read >>
Shaved girl with a tuft
Just want to know is it fine for a girl to sport a tuft on her crown after her head shave? ... - Minisha Kumar read >>
HEAD SHAVE WITH TUFF
GOOD. YOU ARE FOLLOWING OUR TRADITION. WE, MYSELF & MY WIFE FULLY SUPPORT YOU FOR YOUR GOOD DECISION.
WITH THE CLEAN SHAVE HEAD AND TUFF, IT WOULD BE AUSPICIOUS FOR YOU TO PERFORM ALL THE POOJAS, HOMAS AND SUCH OTHER SPITIT ... - k.girish read >>
headshave with tuft
sorry to delay in reply to all , finally i made decision to follow our family tradition to keep shaved head with tuft on back . every one in my family happy about my decision. coming Thursday(7th august ) wil be my function . last 3 days with my ... - Sreenivas Iyengar read >>